What does this book know and say?

During the Spring Festival, looking at the big fish and meat on the dining table, did the girls who were losing weight hold on? Has the weight loss plan promised at the beginning of the year taken effect? Sighing is easier said than done. Do you want to say it again:

I want to be thin. I know how to control my weight scientifically. I know that I should do a certain amount of aerobic exercise every day, consume less calories than I do, eat more vegetables and eat less fried, heavy-flavored or too sweet things. If you think you should lose weight, you shouldn't eat a big meal at noon and then stop eating at night. You shouldn't sit still every day, and you shouldn't eat and drink during the New Year. However, male and female servants just can't do it!

Knowing without doing is a big problem that puzzles many people, and intensive reading is often troubled by it.

No matter what your answer is, Intensive Reading Jun wants to recommend the book Knowing and Doing to everyone.

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Why do we know but can't do it?

Ken, the author of "Unity of Knowing and Doing"? Blanga, a world-famous management master, is also a writer, speaker and business consultant, and is regarded as one of the most insightful and thoughtful people in the business world today. In this book, Blanca starts with the problem itself, analyzes the three reasons for the existence of the problem, and fundamentally analyzes the gap between "knowing and doing". There is no endless empty talk, but pragmatically guide people to move from "knowledge" to "action".

Without saying much, let's cut to the chase: why can't we convince ourselves and give others a "class" with confidence? Blanga summed up three reasons in the book "Unity of Knowing and Doing": information overload, negative filtering and lack of follow-up.

① Information overload

Nowadays, due to the refinement of the industry and the development of the network, many training and lectures by famous teachers can be enjoyed everywhere. The amount of information collected by people is too large, and the amount of knowledge is also overloaded, so we are becoming more and more blind, coupled with the psychology of "eager to learn more", which eventually leads to too many learning directions and nothing. Imagine if we learn more things at once and need to pay attention to more things at the same time. Is it easy to be anxious or even depressed?

② Negative anxiety

In the process of growing up, we sometimes become unconfident because of setbacks, or begin to doubt someone or something, and finally have a negative escape mentality, and even set up a filtering system in our hearts: filter out difficult things in preconceived judgments, or always consider the unfavorable aspects of things. For example, "I know what you are talking about, but …" This is a typical negative filtering thinking.

As a result of negative filtering, we could 100% hear what people around us are saying, or read 100% to let the ideas in books and documents enter our brains, but only 100% of the information can enter our subconscious due to our closure and negative filtering.

③ Lack of follow-up.

Without an effective follow-up plan, our thoughts or goals will get lost in the corner. Branga believes that we should not occasionally apply our knowledge to action, but make a follow-up plan, which can win the necessary guidance and support for ourselves and help us cultivate a strong sense of responsibility.

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How to solve the problem of subsequent missing?

Regarding the three reasons that you know but can't do, Intensive Reading Jun would like to focus on the lack of follow-up solutions. Because it is not difficult to solve the problem of information overload, as long as you put your energy into less but better study and review it repeatedly after learning, you can turn the knowledge you have learned into your own; The problem of negative filtration is relatively easy to deal with. As long as you change your attitude, learn to listen actively, or think from a favorable direction before doing something, and actively find the positive role, you can overcome this obstacle (for details, please click on the micro-lesson to hear so many reasons, how to live a good life? )。

The change of behavior level is the most difficult part, which is also the real meaning of learning. In order to achieve this level of change, you need to really focus on following up your own plans. If you don't follow up immediately after contacting new things, you will soon return to old habits. If you start practicing at once, the sooner you apply a new skill, the easier it will be for you to master it.

For example, if you always look at the menu when you learn to cook and think cooking is easy, you will never learn. And if you do it immediately after reading the menu, even if it is a joke to throw the food down before the pot is hot for the first time, your skills will become more and more skilled in the follow-up practice.

So, how can we establish an effective "follow-up system"? Branga mentioned in the book that when we want to change a behavior, when we have three elements: guidance, support and accountability, we can make an excellent follow-up plan.

Guidance: coach demonstration

Support: Do the right thing and praise.

Accountability: Make mistakes and correct them.

For example, when you learn to disassemble a bicycle, you need a coach who can guide you. When disassembling for the first time, the coach will guide you while disassembling: how to fix the brakes and how to install the chain on the wheels. After the reassembly is completed, the coach will ask you to disassemble and reassemble it. During the operation, if the installation is incorrect, the coach will correct it. If the installation is correct, the coach should also praise it.

In some studies, external coaches are necessary; For some studies, you can coach yourself. If this subsequent process cannot be effectively implemented, you can also request support. Finding partners to study together, soliciting opinions from partners, discussing with partners and letting partners supervise together can make the "follow-up system" more effective. No matter who the coach is, as long as he follows the circular process shown below, it is a continuous and effective follow-up system.

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Try new things in 30 days, and small changes add up to big changes.

Did you feel a little ashamed or excited when you saw this place? However, in a few hours, maybe when you get up tomorrow, you will forget this article and forget the light that flashed in your heart. Why don't we make an agreement and spend 30 days together trying something you've always wanted to do but never insisted on?

Engineer Matt Cutts said in his TED talk that 30 days is the right time to form a new habit or get rid of a habit. He said that when he spent 30 days doing those challenging things, one thing he learned was that in the process of trying, his confidence in overcoming difficulties was increasing.

Try something new for 30 days. You can write down your goal, no matter what it is, and tell yourself that there will be a fixed time to accomplish it every day for 30 days. For example, climbing mountains, learning English, learning swimming, or writing a 50,000-word novella in 30 days, that is, writing 1667 words every day. If you can't finish it, don't sleep. Although you may be deprived of sleep, you will finish your novel.

Don't underestimate these 30 days. When you insist on making some small and continuous changes (refusing sweets, exercising every day, etc. ), you will find that things that you couldn't start at all (losing weight) have become so easy, and changes have become more and more handy. So, give yourself a chance and give yourself a new 30 days!

Finally, you want to share a sentence you saw on Zhihu, and you * * * encourage:

We judge and position ourselves by what I can do, while others judge and position you by what you have done.

What you really achieved is much more important than what you think you can achieve. Never think that I just despise, don't want to or haven't tried. In fact, there are only two differences between "achieving" and "failing".

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