Learn the universal formula to encourage children and praise their internal drive.

Learn to encourage three universal formulas to praise children's internal drive.

General formula for encouraging children

1, descriptive encouragement

Formula: Describe objective facts+summarize/feel? Speech: I saw it or I noticed it. ...

Scene 1: The child takes the initiative to clean up the desk and acts positively. You encouraged him.

Words of encouragement: Baby, I saw you carefully tidy up your desk. You keep your desk very tidy. How do you feel when you look at a tidy desk? Describe his seriousness in his work and guide him to stick to it.

Scene 2: You encourage children to write badly.

Words of encouragement: Baby, I saw the word you wrote. It is straight in this horizontal direction and unbiased in this vertical direction. And you wrote it in Tian Zi Gerry, which is much better than before. Keep on cheering (describe what he did well and help him build up confidence).

2. Gratitude and encouragement

Formula: Describe objective facts+thank you form? Speech: Thank you, or thank you ...

Scene 1: On the weekend, the child helps clean up, and you encourage him.

Words of encouragement: Dear, thank you for cleaning up the house with mom and dad and making our home clean and tidy. Do you feel warm and comfortable? (affirm the child's efforts and thank him, and encourage him to stick to it)

Scene 2: The child watches the iPad for 20 minutes as agreed, and turns it off voluntarily.

Words of encouragement: Thank you for keeping our agreement, baby. After watching the ipad for 20 minutes, you turned it off voluntarily, and you became more and more self-disciplined. Praise him for keeping his promise and self-discipline, and guide him to maintain good habits.

Step 3 empower and encourage

Formula: language+motivation to describe objective facts? Speech: I believe, I firmly believe. ...

Scene 1: You encourage your child when he has problems with his homework.

Words of encouragement: Baby, isn't this a bit difficult? Mom firmly believes that you can solve this problem and then analyze it carefully? (Give him confidence)

Situation 2: You encourage your child before he takes part in the competition.

Words of encouragement: Baby, mom believes you can do it well, and mom will cheer for you under the stage! (Give him courage)

Summarize some points to encourage children.

1, encourage children to be good at discovering their own advantages.

Being good at finding the corresponding advantages in every shortcoming of a child, instead of obsessing over the shortcomings of the child, helping the child with support and encouragement will make it easier for the child to get rid of the shortcomings.

Only by using the right method can encouragement play a magical role.

Encouragement is to describe children's behavior objectively and give appropriate guidance. Encouraging language takes children as the leading role and can bring strength to children.

3. Encourage children not to talk but to act.

Parents' support and companionship in action is a powerful force for children to truly overcome difficulties, and children have a sense of accomplishment in doing things, thus stimulating internal drive.

No matter how bad the situation is, there is something to be encouraged.

Find those places worth encouraging in bad situations to help children restore and maintain confidence, but children will improve themselves more actively.