Don’t let your marriage be ruined by unreasonable words

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A good marriage must be tolerant with a smile, magnify the advantages, and "pretend to be deaf and dumb" to the shortcomings.

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For a long-term relationship, you must learn to compromise, respect, accommodate, tolerate, be patient, cherish, gentle, talented, knowledgeable, appreciate...

Know yourself and be kind to your loved ones.

Only in this way can marriage be perfect for a lifetime.

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As he talked, he poured out his bitterness to me. In twenty years of marriage, there were frequent quarrels and cold wars over trivial matters. In the end, nothing happened, and reconciliation happened again and again.

It is a pity that Knowles said: "Marriage is not a lottery. Even if you lose, you can't just tear it up."

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Just From what I know, the couple is doing well in the city. They own a duplex building in the best part of the city, and a 40-square-meter facade in Optics Valley that has been paid off. The only son is studying abroad and has a good financial situation. Life should be filled with flowers and honey. However, from what I saw with my own eyes, their marriage was not as glamorous as it seemed.

The reason is that two people in a marriage do not know how to give in at the right time and avoid sharp edges. They let their swords and tongues stab each other until they are bloody. Well, twenty years spent on dressing and eating have been torn apart and broken into pieces.

We often say: always compete with your peers, and don’t argue with fools. The same goes for getting along in marriage. When angry words are exchanged murderously between you and me, sparks fly and the two people who are both called "idiots" are hurt.

In marriage, is there any right or wrong? In marriage, is there any truth? In marriage, is it black and white?

Shakespeare said it a long time ago, unsatisfactory Marriage is like a hell, a lifetime of fighting and no peace; on the contrary, if you choose a satisfactory spouse, you can live in harmony and endless happiness for a hundred years.

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A good marriage must be tolerant with a smile, magnify the advantages, and "pretend to be deaf and dumb" to the shortcomings.

Among the many talented women in the Republic of China, writer Bing Xin was not the most talented, let alone the most beautiful. But there is one thing about Bing Xin that can compare with all the women of this era. That was the happiest life of hers, with no ups and downs, great sadness or suffering, but only peaceful years.

Bing Xin was 29 years old and Wu Wenzao was 28 years old. Their wedding night was spent in an empty room at Dajue Temple in the western suburbs of Peking. In addition to the two cots they brought with them, there was only one temporary bridal chamber. Small table with three legs. For those who are sarcastic, this is worthy of criticism for a lifetime and can be mentioned 10,000 times.

But Bing Xin never cared. She said: A real marriage is not about ostentation, but about spiritual connection, and nothing else matters.

Wu Wenzao is a typical bookworm. He devotes himself to reading books by sages. Knowledge about children, flowers, trees, and clothing materials is almost zero.

Bing Xin once wrote a pagoda poem to laugh at him:

Horse

Xiangding

Feather yarn

Everything is bad

The silly uncle comes home

It’s a joke

Education turns out to be in Tsinghua

The first three things in the poem "Horse", "xiangding" and "feather yarn" were all jokes made by Wu Wenzao. He didn't understand that when the child said "horse", he actually meant "Saqima", so he told the pastry shop to buy "horse". "Xiangding" was also made by Bing Xin casually. Wu Wenzao didn't understand the meaning and instead mouthed "Xiangding".

Wu Wenzao was once assigned by Bing Xin to go to "Dongshengxiang" to buy his father's Shuangsi Ge robe to save face. He actually said that he wanted to buy a foot of "feather yarn". Fortunately, the salesperson was familiar with Bing Xin, and she finally figured it out after calling and asking. Xie's family all laughed after hearing this. Bing Xin could only say: "He is really a stupid uncle."

But Wu Wenzao was a fool who lacked knowledge about life and had no understanding of the world. Bing Xin had been with him for more than 50 years, and the days of red-faced and loud quarrels were numbered.

Bing Xin never goes above and beyond, being unreasonable and unforgiving. She said: "With love, everything comes." Bing Xin's great wisdom in marriage is to be tolerant and not picky.

No matter how good a marriage is, there are countless gaps. They always love each other and respect each other as guests. They are all equally defiant and engaged in writing and academic research without interruption, which can be described as rich, harmonious, fulfilling and happy.

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Husband and wife should be lifelong friends. The most important thing between husband and wife is the friendship. Even if they are not close friends, they should at least be friends who can be partners or partners who respect each other. . A relationship of lovers rather than friends cannot last. Husband and wife are not friends enough, so they have to break up.

Balzac said: "To have a happy marriage, it is enough to have the kind of friendship that forgives human shortcomings."

Chen Yinke, Tang Yun, Pan Su and Zhang Boju, Qian Zhongshu and Yang Jiang, these couples who share the same love, are all tolerant and considerate people who never take things seriously with their lovers. Know how to appreciate the other person's strengths from the heart, never magnify the shortcomings, and never dwell on the mistakes.

You don’t know how many women’s happiness is ruined by just one mouth: Socrates would rather run to think under the apple tree in Athens in order to avoid his irritable and nagging wife; Queen Eugenie, although arrogant and arrogant, Extraordinary, Napoleon III still drove to No. 28 Avenue Montaigne, just because there lived a woman who knew how to be silent.

Marriage is either heaven or hell.

A good marriage is nothing more than that when I am angry, you stay down and act small; when you want to explode, I say nothing. Never compete in anger.

For a long-term relationship, you must learn to compromise, respect, accommodate, tolerate, be patient, cherish, gentle, talented, knowledgeable, appreciate...

Understand yourself and be kind to your lover.

Only in this way can marriage be perfect for a lifetime.