How to talk about lucky money with children?

The agreement between parents and children must be observed in order to trust each other more.

Li Zonglei: Generally, we all leave messages from our parents. This time there is a message from senior one. Let's pay more attention He said that he 15 years old and has a lucky money every year. My mother said to keep it for me, and she hasn't given it to me until now. What should I do?

Li Xiaochuang: Next time she helps you with it, ask one more question. Say hello first, then ask her to hold it for you and ask me when I can pick it up.

Li Zonglei: I guess this mother will say that you can extract it when you grow up!

Li Xiaochuan: So, for example, 16 years old is considered to be grown up. There is such a standard in the west, some people 18 years old will grow up, while some people in China will only be considered as adult gifts when they are 20 years old.

Li Zonglei: I don't think there is any problem. The key is the first one. The mother didn't keep her word. The second question is whether she is prepared to keep her promise.

Li Xiaochuan: So I think children are gullible because they only listen to half of it. I said I'll keep it for you later. Please ask the specific time. Knowing a time will give you hope, not to mention vague entanglements in this matter. So when I get the lucky money next year, I will discuss this issue directly with my mother. In fact, I think it makes sense to accept this money, because you gave it to other people's children, and this is the money you spent, and then the lucky money your children received from other people's homes should also be used as a supplement for you to send lucky money to others. Of course, it is entirely appropriate to leave it to children. Because the money is equivalent to being sent to the children, and then it should fall into the children's own hands. But how should we adjust it? I find it difficult to ask parents to give all the money to their children for their own use. After all, he is a child of 15 years old, so I have seen a saying before, because some children now have a lot of lucky money, and they can receive four or five thousand or more a year. That is, you can deposit it as an education fund or a time deposit, which is relatively inconvenient to withdraw, but the name is written for the child, and then you save it and leave with the child. The ownership is yours, but you don't have the right to control it freely for the time being, so I think it will be more generous. Because you give this money to your children as an education fund. So this will make it easier for the child to accept it, and at the same time prevent him from spending the money indiscriminately. Of course, you can also discuss it with your children. Part of your money can be given to you as a living allowance first, and you can have more discretionary money during the Chinese New Year, but the rest of the money still needs to be saved for you, so you can have a clear statement with your children. I can give it to you when you grow up, or I can use it to pay your tuition when you go to college. I think in this case, we can reach a consensus by communicating with our children. So don't think about giving me everything in front, and the other thing is whether you can give me some first and keep the rest for me. Therefore, if you think about it this way, it will be broader. Don't be angry about it. Think about how to communicate effectively, which is more effective than standing or not.