These seemingly boring "nonsense", parents talk to their children more, can improve their happiness.

Not long ago in the news, a boy of 17 years old in Shanghai chose to jump off a bridge after quarreling with his family. That scene made countless people sad. It is not difficult to imagine how much despair and helplessness the child accumulated before choosing this extreme way.

Of course, this is a case after all, and the probability is extremely low, so there is no need to panic too much.

However, there is a common situation between children and parents, that is, children are unwilling to talk to their parents about things, which are often children's things. Classmates, teachers, friends, neighbors and netizens all know, but parents don't know.

In fact, it is often parents who can really help children and give them the most appropriate guidance. And because parents don't know, it may eventually cause irreparable regret, which often happens.

I always feel that children are still young and only say what I think is important.

In the eyes of many parents, no matter how old their children are, they always feel that they are still young. When children want to say something to their parents, parents often don't care too much, thinking that this is all a child's trick, not important, and it will be fine in a few days.

What parents are most willing to talk to their children is what they think is important. When we met, we asked, "Have you finished your homework? How are your recent exam results? How about signing up for another cram school? "

Parents and children have completely different concerns. After a long time, children are no longer willing to communicate with their parents and are afraid to talk about things with their parents.

The happiness of parents is mostly based on the unhappiness of their children.

Faced with this statement, many parents have to jump up and object, saying, "I have worked so hard to make money for my children." How can I base my happiness on my child's unhappiness? "

For example, I understand:

When I came home from work, I was very happy to see my son slumped on the sofa and watched cartoons on TV with a smile. When my mother saw it, she flew into a rage and pointed at the child and asked, "Have you finished your homework? I don't study hard, but I watch TV very diligently. "

The mother scolded the child, and the child hung his head and went back to his room to do his homework unhappily. Mom is very happy now, and she is glad that she came home early and can supervise her children's homework in time. If she works overtime, the child's homework will not be delayed, so the more she thinks about it, the more proud she is.

Many times, parents are unhappy when they see their children happy. Parents are happy when children are unhappy.

Because of the position of children and parents, the perspective of seeing things is opposite. Only those who stand on the same front can become friends, and those who stand on the opposite side are mostly enemies.

This is inevitable when children feel that their parents are their "enemies". Children are unwilling to communicate with their parents and dare not talk to them.

If you want to open your child's chatterbox, you should talk more relaxed "nonsense".

There is a mother who has a very good relationship with her daughter. When she takes the bus, she can chat from the starting station to the terminal. Her daughter is very happy and looks very happy.

If you listen carefully, it turns out that everyone is gossiping. Which student in the class likes to talk and pass small notes; Which teacher in the school is well dressed and wears fashionable clothes; Which new teacher is so interesting that everyone laughs in class. etc

These topics, like two good girlfriends, are indeed endless. Of course, my daughter is willing to share and discuss the difficulties in study and life with her mother. Mother and daughter are best friends.

If you want to talk to your child, you should talk more about the "nonsense" that makes your child relax.

When playing with children, you can only speak the same language if you lower your age to your peers.

Children can play with a stone for half a day, or with a group of ants for half a day. These behaviors puzzled many adults and thought it was fun. In the eyes of parents, children are described as "naive".

In addition, it can stimulate children's curiosity and cultivate their observation ability. If parents want to communicate with their children more smoothly, it is best to lower their children's age to the same age as their children when playing with them, so that they can have more languages and have fun.

This is one of the reasons why many children are willing to play with their fathers. When a father can open his heart to play with his children, he can quickly become friends with them and have fun.

Parents "expose" their own shortcomings, and children are willing to talk about their own embarrassing things.

Children don't want to tell others their own anecdotes because they are afraid of being laughed at, but if parents tell their children the same mistakes they made in the past and "expose" their shortcomings in time, children will no longer be afraid to tell them.

Parents are the biggest source of children's sense of security. When children can speak freely in front of their parents, they will have more courage and confidence to face difficulties and challenges.

Only by becoming children's friends and playmates first can children be willing to talk to their parents when they meet challenges and dare to ask their parents for help when they encounter difficulties.

Seemingly boring "nonsense", parents can talk to their children more, which can improve their happiness and prevent them from making big mistakes.