How can people with social phobia change their thoughts?

Social phobia is a common psychological disorder, especially among young people. Social phobia causes people to avoid social situations, affecting personal life and career development. Here are some ways to help young people overcome social phobia:

First, be positive about social situations. Although you may feel uncomfortable, be brave and try to participate in some social activities. You can start simple, like talking to strangers, and progress to more complex activities, like parties and social events. Gradually adapting to social situations can help gradually overcome social phobia.

Second, practice relaxation techniques. Social phobia is often accompanied by anxiety and tension, so you can try to learn some relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing, meditation, progressive muscle relaxation, etc. These techniques can help relieve tension and make social situations more comfortable.

In addition, seeking professional help is also an effective method. You can consult a psychologist or psychotherapist to receive professional social phobia treatment. Professional treatment options often include cognitive behavioral therapy, exposure therapy, and medication. Social phobia can be overcome faster with professional help.

Finally, have a positive mentality and attitude. Be confident that you can overcome social phobia and that you can perform well in social situations. We must bravely face our own shortcomings and challenges, and constantly improve our abilities and self-confidence.

In short, overcoming social phobia takes time and effort, but as long as you maintain a positive attitude and adopt appropriate methods, you can definitely overcome this obstacle.

First, the root cause of low self-esteem and sensitivity is to break the worry that you are not good enough. There is a seed of "I am not good enough" in your heart, and you are afraid that others will think you are not good. If others think you are good, you will think yourself good. If others think you are bad, you will feel bad, so you will be afraid of negative reactions and evaluations from others.

In this way, you hand over the choice of your own happiness to others. He became passive.

However, even if others say something bad about you, are you bad? If a fish mocks a bird for not being able to swim, does that mean the bird is bad?

Is it true that you are not good enough?

Whether you are good or not is determined by your own thoughts! Every seed has its own infinite vitality, every life has its own life characteristics, and everyone is a good enough self that is different from others!

Second, break the misconception that you need to be recognized by others. People’s pain lies in their persistent grasping, trying to maintain a happy feeling by gaining the love (like, acceptance, recognition) of others.

Human growth is about facing reality and popping the beautiful colorful soap bubbles of childhood. Mr. Lu Xun once said that real warriors dare to face the dripping blood and face the bleak life. The truth is, there is no approval from others that you can grasp. This game of mistakenly believing that the love and approval of others that can be grasped will never change is just a child's beautiful soap bubble, which will burst as soon as it is poked and scratched. So this is just our delusion.

Many of us mistakenly believe that as long as I become good enough, more people will like me. But these are also beautiful soap bubbles and an illusion. Many people constantly want to climb up, thinking that if they climb higher, achieve more, or perform better, others will like them. However, even if you become the leader of a company, even if you become the president or prime minister of a country, you will still be criticized for what you did not do well enough.

Who in this world has been liked by everyone but not scolded? Is anyone scolding the good man Lei Feng? Get rid of the delusion that if I do well, I will be recognized by others. A great man has made outstanding contributions to the country and mankind, but some people still say he is not good. Even Confucius, Buddha, and Jesus, these saints who were compassionate to all living beings and all their actions were good deeds, still have people saying bad things about them. We think that if we become better, people will like us, and we strive to make ourselves more beautiful, more knowledgeable, earn more money, have more rights and status. However, even if our status is respected as a king, no matter what the king does, there will always be something wrong. Some people scolded them. As long as you care about clinging to other people's opinions and grabbing other people's approval, you will suffer because of your own thoughts.

So, whose responsibility is it to love and understand ourselves? Example: American country singer Carpenter suffered from anorexia because she wanted to lose weight to gain the favor of her fans, and died of malnutrition.

Even if you are a singer or movie star and become a heartthrob, as long as you don't understand that loving yourself is your responsibility and insist on thinking that you have to get others to love you to feel good enough, you will suffer. Who can ensure that if someone likes them, they will not change their mind and like others?

Third, if you don’t care about other people’s comments but care about other people’s opinions, are afraid of others’ ridicule, are nervous and avoid social interactions, can you truly be free?

You don’t sing well”, “You wear this color” "It doesn't look good", "You're so stupid, why should you study mathematics"... Everyone has heard comments like this countless times.

While you are sad, have you ever thought about why you want to Do you listen to and believe their comments?

We are all pursuing freedom, but are we truly free?

When you see babies playing, most of them are actually Free.

They will not worry about being laughed at, they will not be afraid of failure or rejection, they will express their emotions most sincerely, they will not be afraid to love, and when they look at When you fall in love, you will melt with love.

Others’ interpretation of your behavioral motives passes through the filter of each person’s own values.

So next time someone tells you. You, whether you are very good at speaking or you are very bad at speaking, can thank them for their feedback.

But please remember that whether you are good at speaking or not has nothing to do with them, because you are mobile. , develop, and change, so whether you are good at it or not is not the final you, and the final you is when you choose to listen to your true inner voice, grow in the direction you want, and accept everything you are growing at this moment.

Never care about anyone’s evaluation of us, so that you will not unknowingly plant beliefs and values ??that limit your life’s fluidity and complexity. Sexuality and abundance are all decided by you. This, my dear friend, is the real freedom!

Fourth, transcending the feeling of inferiority is actually the messenger of life and the improvement of psychological quality. Gift. You do not have a problem of fear of communication, but a journey of inner exploration through self-esteem awakening to awaken our potential and wisdom from the depths of our hearts. /p>

There are generally two kinds of life: problem life and wisdom life. If you regard problems as problems, you will create an opposition for yourself and fall into the trap of so-called problems. Even if there is no so-called "problem", If a person does not have the courage to face life, he will still have this worry and that worry. Therefore, the so-called "problems" and "difficulties" in front of him are the steps to achieve himself, to achieve his own mind and wisdom, and to open up the wisdom of life. The more you treat the people and things you encounter as misfortune, the more you create your own unfortunate life. Due to the inertia in your psychology and behavior, you need systematic psychological training and adjustment to penetrate your current psychological reaction habits layer by layer. Obstacles and entanglements. Experience the freedom and freedom of life. Everything is not a problem now. Everyone is unique and everything happens. To achieve our success, everything that happens is a matter of training the mind, and it is a gift of life. Through this process, we can live a free and joyful life state. If a person is not confident, he will not be able to realize his ambitions and will be stuck in his own limiting beliefs. Through psychological counseling to resolve low self-esteem and detailed life goals, he can find his true life driving force. From the mental model of looking at things when others are bad and you are bad, you can see that everything is kind to you and beneficial to you. It is a gift of your life and is here to nourish you. This way you will feel happy and stronger.

Fifth, the road to reshaping the soul. When I was a teenager, I was also a patient with a very serious mental disorder. I once experienced obsessive-compulsive disorder (repeated checking, repeated worrying about various dangers), social phobia (Including sight phobia, peripheral vision phobia, blush phobia, avoidance of seeing people, nervousness, hand shaking, stammering, sweating, unnatural urination, etc.), anxiety disorders and their physical reactions (migraine, dizziness , insomnia, fatigue easily), depression, psychosexual disorders, emotional marriage and love frustration disorders and a series of complex psychological disorders. At that time, many psychological symptoms were tangled together. Thinking back to an experience I had in high school more than 20 years ago: I used to have very low self-esteem and became extremely sensitive.

During the ten-minute recess in high school, when several classmates were talking and chatting in a circle, I thought they were talking bad about me. When several classmates told jokes together, I thought they were laughing at me. During class, I felt chills running down my spine because I felt like others were poking at my back, telling me that I wasn’t good at studying, that I couldn’t play, or that I didn’t know anything. If anyone makes any noise, I think they do it on purpose and have a problem with me. Now it seems that I am actually too sensitive because of my low self-esteem. At that time, I felt like my sensitive mind was schizophrenic. I was afraid that I would not pass the college entrance examination. As a result, I fainted in the examination room and my mind went blank. I had to study for the third year of high school three times and take the college entrance examination three times. When I spoke to anyone in college, I was afraid of saying the wrong thing and being laughed at. When I spoke, I would blush, sweat, tremble, and stutter. In order to save myself, after ten years of non-stop self-analysis and experience, I conducted in-depth research on psychotherapy, gradually cleaning up my trauma and repairing my character flaws. This process involves disappointment, repetition, and giving up. Fortunately, I persisted in saving myself even in the hopeless situation. After years of tinkering with myself, I finally changed my appearance, repaired my past complexes, and clarified my position in life. Now I am comfortable and peaceful, and I have fully and completely recovered. If you want to merge into the vast sea of ??people, you must learn to adjust your mentality. No matter how impetuous the world is, as long as you love and accept yourself unconditionally, you will not be blindly arrogant or inferior.