I laughed at Dink No Country for Old Men and insisted on sending my children abroad. Now I live worse than Dink. what do you think?

There is never a hard and fast rule, and things in the traditional sense must be adhered to; No one can assert that new things can replace long-standing inheritance and habits as a means of bringing forth the old and bringing forth the new.

The essence of raising children and preventing old age is independent personality, but they can help each other. What should be the boundary between the dependence of parents and children? Of course, this dependence includes both mental and physical.

The Wall Street Journal once said that during the five years from 20 15 to 20 19, the number of international middle school students and exchange students in Toronto soared by 42%, and three-quarters of them came from China.

There was a TV series called "Take Dad to Study Abroad" before, and one of the scenes impressed me deeply. Liu Ruoyu in the play is a well-qualified brain surgeon and is known as "a knife outside the brain".

Worried that her children would not adapt to studying abroad, she resolutely quit her promising job and went abroad to become a companion mother.

Accompanying classmates came in the eighth year of her son's graduation. She thought she had finally survived and could be reunited with her family, but at this moment, she received her husband's divorce agreement.

If you don't choose to go abroad with your children, Liu Ruoyu's career will be very successful, and her marriage will not break up because of her long-term separation from her husband.

It is the wish of every parent in China to let children have a long-term dream, a long-term dream, a long-term dream and a bright future. No matter what the motivation is, we should consider all the possibilities, make sure that these possibilities are within our affordability, and then put them into action.

Of course, everyone's personality and needs are different, and their yearning and choice for life are different.

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In fact, for the "Dink" clan, this is nothing new, and everyone must be familiar with it. They usually don't have to be tired of their children when they are young and live a chic and stress-free life.

There are two situations in old age. First, when I was young, I overspent and had no savings. No Country for Old Men; Second, prepare for a rainy day when you are young and have enough money to support happiness in your later years.

The protagonist of our article today brings us: when I was young, I worked hard for my children all my life and was exhausted; Old, lying in a hospital bed for a long time, my heart is bleak.

Yang, 68, was an ordinary employee of the factory when he was young, and her husband was a sanitation worker. But it is such an ordinary family that made the decision to let their son study abroad more than 20 years ago. At that time, Yang's mother-in-law and husband felt that their lives had failed, and hoped that their son would not be reduced to the bottom of society.

At that time, their sons all graduated from junior high school with average academic performance. The children were not admitted to key high schools. Yang heard from her colleagues that if she went abroad for further study, she would be more glorious than a key university when she came back, and it would be easy to find a well-paid and decent job.

So mother-in-law Yang insisted on raising her son to study abroad that year. Regardless of her family background and her son's own opposition, she sent her child abroad. At that time, my son cried and begged his parents. He doesn't want to go to that strange, distant and ignorant country, where he has no relatives and no friends to scare him.

But mother-in-law Yang sent her son away. She thought to herself that she did it for the good of her son. In the future, when her son grows up and has a successful career, he will certainly understand his good intentions and appreciate himself.

From that day on, Yang's mother-in-law and her husband began to tighten their belts. They saved all necessary or unnecessary expenses. Even if I haven't bought any new clothes in seven or eight years, I still wear work clothes at work, and I don't care if my clothes are patched and washed white.

Yang's husband leaves home at 4: 30 every morning and works until 7: 00 to have breakfast. What you can't shake for breakfast is porridge, pickles and a boiled egg brought from home, and for lunch, pickles and rice. Her husband saw that other people's breakfast and lunch were just for swallowing, so the couple broke a penny in half to pay for their son's going abroad.

At first, my son was very uncomfortable abroad. He called his parents overseas to complain. Yang Popo quickly comforted him, so she thought about hanging up the phone to save money.

In fact, the couple are very worried about their son. When her son just went abroad, Yang's mother-in-law often couldn't sleep at midnight. Suddenly she sat up and asked her husband when he was with his son and what his son was doing now. Are you hungry and cold? Are you sick?

Later, after a long time, my son's phone calls were less. They don't know how much loneliness and indifference their son endured there, and how he overcame homesickness step by step, but they are excited in their hearts, which shows that his son has adapted to life there.

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Once, Yang's mother-in-law saw the news that an international student was killed, and she quickly contacted her son abroad. She was relieved to know that her son was safe. But from that day on, she often suffered from insomnia and poor appetite, and she was on tenterhooks every day.

Later, my son Yang found a job abroad after graduation. Yang and his wife actually want their son to return to China, but on second thought, they are both earning high salaries abroad. Wouldn't it be better to stay in China for a few years?

It may be because of long-term lack of nutrition, or it may be because of long-term fatigue. Yang's husband died before he was 60. During her husband's illness, Yang's mother-in-law called her son, who said she couldn't come back. In this way, Yang's mother-in-law experienced the whole process from her husband's illness to her departure.

After her husband died, Yang Popo lived alone for ten years. During these ten years, she missed her son very much, but he has settled abroad and gave birth to two children. My son teaches Grandma Yang a video, and he can contact her once a month to talk about anecdotes there and see his grandchildren.

What Yang's mother-in-law likes to do now is to take a walk with her neighbors' old sisters and then show off her son's happy life abroad.

At first, her neighbors praised her. Later, she always turned the topic to her son and was refuted by others: "You are so happy, you have raised a promising son, and you don't have to see your grandson." My grandchildren pester me every day, and grandma and grandma keep calling ... "

Hearing this, Yang Popo became even more lonely. During a walk, she accidentally sprained her ankle, fell to the ground directly after slipping, and finally went to the hospital to be diagnosed with a broken leg and stayed in bed for at least three months.

In the hospital, Yang's mother-in-law saw that all the old people in the same ward had their children and grandchildren visiting in turn, which made her even more lonely. When she was in bed, she contacted her son and wanted him to bring the child back to see her. His son spent thousands of dollars asking her to hire a nurse to take care of herself.

Grandma Yang is sad and angry, and wants to throw the money back, saying that I don't want the money, and I miss you. But she has no confidence. After all, the income from her work paid for her children to go abroad and even borrowed foreign debts. After retirement, she didn't save any money.

Later, mother-in-law Yang complained to her son several times. Every time her son was impatient, he hung up the phone on an excuse. When Yang's mother-in-law can't continue her daily activities in her hospital bed and her electronic products are not very useful, she feels more and more lonely. When she calms down, she can't help thinking.

Yang Popo always thinks: Is her life worse than Dink's? When she was young, she used to laugh at Dink No Country for Old Men. Now she obviously has a son, but she can't even see him.

Dink at least had a good life when he was young, but in contrast, when he was young, he was frugal and tired, and looked a few years older than his actual age.

Now Yang's mother-in-law says that she has completely regretted it, and she is hesitant. After all, she looked at the photos of her children and grandchildren, and her heart was still full of joy. She said she didn't regret it, but she was sad to see other people's children reunited with her and someone concerned about her illness.

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After all, the fact now is that Yang's son is unwilling to return to China for development, so he can only give two suggestions: whether Yang will travel or stay for a while after his recovery; Or go home when the son's family is on holiday.

In fact, Yang Popo's problem lies in her future planning. In fact, as an independent individual, children have the right to choose.

You can't push him out as soon as you let go, but you can pull him back by pulling a thread. At that time, Yang's mother-in-law forced her son to go abroad regardless of his wish to stay at home. Now, regardless of her son's career development abroad, she wants him to return to China. In fact, Yang Popo herself is contradictory.

Children are not marionettes and will not live according to your wishes. What parents can do is to establish a correct outlook on life and give him enough warmth, and the rest needs to be decided by him.

Of course, parents can make suggestions for their children's life planning, but when making this decision, you should think about whether you can bear the future results.

When I was a kid? Living in this world, everyone is under great pressure, and the older generation can understand your hardships, but after all, your parents are your closest relatives, so you should always care about them and go home to see them.

The news reported that an old man surnamed Liu in Guizhou suffered from hypertension for a long time and lived alone in an empty nest. A few days after his death, he was found by his neighbors and reported to the police.

As a child, no matter how busy and difficult it is, please take time to go home. Parents still have a place to go in life. When parents go, there is only a way home in life. Don't wait until the child wants to keep it, and then wake up with a nightmare in the middle of the night.

In fact, the filial piety of children at home is closely related to the living conditions and education in family of origin. However, whether you are very sure about your children's personality or not, I still suggest that the elderly should maintain an economic foundation that can support the elderly.