Keep punching in. My house is beautiful.

In the past two days, a group of friends in the punching group said: I reveal a kind of happiness between the lines. I suddenly realized that my home has been greatly subverted in the past six months.

? Six months ago, my home looked like this in the morning. I get up in the morning, wash my face, make breakfast, and then wake my husband up: my husband will get up soon! It's half past seven! At this time, my husband often said: let me slow down for a while and get up later. So I went to wake up the child again. The child was in bed, moving around, but refused to get up, saying it would take a while. In this way, I told them to get up over and over again, and waited until they got up and washed before coming over for breakfast. After breakfast, it's nearly half past eight, one is rushing to work and the other is rushing to school. The children are in a hurry to go to school, prepare water bottles, spare clothes and collect the materials I need. Children are still slowly putting on their shoes, and sometimes they lose their temper and refuse to wear them themselves. Usually at this time, I can't help but get angry, and the child cries even more. At this time, my husband couldn't stand the scene of crying and screaming. He was angry! He criticized me again and yelled at the children. Such scenes are often staged. And the result? In the morning, we are entangled in this unpleasant mood, which in turn affects the mood of the day.

One day, my husband couldn't stand the chaotic situation in the morning and suggested that we all get up early to calm down the morning time. So, I set myself an alarm clock to get up at six in the morning, but I usually can't get up. By chance, I broke into the punch card group of Happy Mom's base camp. When I first joined this group, I had to set a punching goal. I was thinking, what goals should I set? After thinking about it, I finally decided to optimize the punching time this morning? So I set myself a punching goal: to ensure that we can calmly carry out the morning routine (washing, breakfast, going out), and that my husband and children have 15 minutes of parent-child interaction.

With the goal of punching in, every morning when I get up, when my husband gets up, when my children get up, when my husband and children play, and then when I make breakfast, these trivial times are recorded. Recorded these days, I found out which can be optimized, which can be fixed and which can be adjusted randomly. In this way, my husband and children and I get up more and more regularly. Later, my husband and I found that this morning's parent-child interaction time can be upgraded to 15 minutes of parent-child reading. I didn't expect 15 minutes of parent-child reading in the morning to upgrade the relationship between father and son, and they also agreed to date father and son alone every Sunday afternoon, so I also had half a day to be alone. At the same time, with the deepening of her husband's accompanying children, her husband gradually entered the role of father, and began to discuss with me how to cultivate children, what aspects children can do better, what aspects need to be corrected, and what excellent personalities they have. My husband also began to share with me what he has learned from his children and what can be improved in the process of accompanying them, such as lack of patience.

? At the same time, I gradually transferred the things I used to do, such as waking the children up and brushing their teeth, to my husband flexibly, and he became more and more comfortable. The morning rush gradually became calm and calm, and I began to enjoy the process slowly. Unconsciously, a month's punching passed, and I found that I had a lot of unexpected gains after sticking to it for a month, and I began to fall in love with punching. This month I set a punching goal for our family: to increase the expression of love on the basis of the first month. This goal includes two aspects: my husband and I, my husband and children, and children have 15 minutes of intimate time respectively. In the meantime, we only talk about what makes people. Today, we have clocked in for this goal for five days, but in these five days, wonderful changes have taken place in our family.

When I communicated with my husband about this month's goals, he also agreed. First of all, start with me. When I wake my husband and children up, I will give affirmation and encouragement to what they did better the day before. When I did this, I found that my husband and children were bathed in an atmosphere of encouragement, support and affirmation from the moment they woke up. They were so happy when they got up. And I am very happy to see them so happy, and sometimes I will receive the love and affirmation from my husband and children. I am really happy. Take this morning for example! When I woke my husband up to chat with him after washing, I was sure that the two sentences he said yesterday when he taught his children to eat gracefully were particularly classic. Ask him if he remembers. My husband probably said that. I said it again more accurately. My husband was surprised and happy to hear me express it so completely. He felt that everything he said casually was actually written down! The feeling of being valued should be wonderful! Then I took the initiative to wish him a happy Valentine's Day today! When he heard Valentine's Day, he told me two jokes reflexively, which made us laugh! Wonderful communication. Then I went to wake my son up. Affirm his obedience class last night, remind him of the goal of 2 1 day and tell his mother what delicious food she prepared for him. As soon as the son heard the food, he got out of bed, dressed, washed and read proverbs to his father. Read one sentence from dad and one sentence from son. Dad taught his son to pronounce clearly and loudly so that I could hear him when I was preparing breakfast in the kitchen. On such a sunny morning, the sound of reading came from the living room, and a fragrance floated from the kitchen. The family was happily playing a symphony of love. It's really wonderful!

At the same time, I also found that since I started the goal of expressing love, my observation has been greatly stimulated, and I began to pay attention to some special advantages of my husband and children, which I didn't notice at all. With this goal. Sometimes I have the urge to get angry. When I thought about my goal, I began to be patient. Husband and children are also influenced by this positive description, and often start to say some positive words to encourage people. The family atmosphere is getting better and better in this day-to-day punching, bit by bit optimization and step by step action!

Such wonderful changes have taken place in less than two months, which is amazing! This gave me a great enlightenment: the so-called happiness does not lie in how many things have been done, nor in how many achievements have been made. He is changing bit by bit. May you and I bathe in the sunshine of love in the morning!