I am tired of working in state-owned enterprises. What if I'm exhausted?

This is the question that Zhihu invited me to answer.

Let's take a look at the whole picture of this problem:

"I am a woman, graduated from graduate school and went directly to state-owned enterprises. Frankly speaking, compared with many northern drifters, I am very lucky. I have settled the account directly, and the salary level is ok. A year after tax is about 654.38+0.5 million, and the working atmosphere is really unacceptable.

First of all, the leaders are bureaucratic and meticulous, and they are drowned in the mountains and seas every day. The work content is meaningless, and the ability to work has repeatedly depreciated.

Secondly, interpersonal relationships are complex, and there is nothing we can do about them, and our irrelevant workplace whites are simply the best targets for coolies and bullying. Sometimes if you do well, you will be jealous, and colleagues will talk behind your back.

I'm not young now, and I don't know where to go, because I want to have children. Can experienced comrades tell me how to solve myself and survive in this state-owned enterprise environment? "

I don't know why Zhihu knew that I was interested in this kind of problem and had my own ideas.

But I may not be qualified to say so, because I have been staying in state-owned enterprises, even without a system, and I have been in the power system. Therefore, my understanding is definitely very one-sided. It is not as good as those who have stayed in state-owned enterprises for several years and returned to state-owned enterprises. I have at least two or three such colleagues around me.

However, I can really talk about it, because this problem may have been encountered by all people in state-owned enterprises, perhaps experienced, perhaps thought about, and never left, which is exactly what we thought was the right choice at that time.

Is it really correct?

There are many answers.

One kind is people who have not left. When they met some former colleagues who had been struggling for their lives after leaving their jobs, they were glad that they had no impulse at that time. -he thought that his choice at that time was correct;

One is that people who haven't left will meet some former colleagues who get along well after leaving, and they will secretly feel that they were better than him at that time. If they leave, they may be better than him. He thought it might be an opportunity to leave, but he didn't necessarily think it was right to leave. He will feel that this kind of life and that kind of beautiful life are beyond his control.

One is the one who left. Most people I met who left were regretting it. What do you regret? I regret leaving late. I hope I leave early.

Of course, there are also some people who leave, can't stand the pressure and finally choose to return.

Having said that, it seems like a rashomon event. Different individuals have different descriptions and feelings about the same thing.

The only certainty is that only by personal experience can we know the joys and sorrows.

No one can choose for others. Choice is always your own business, but you can find out what kind of life is most important to you from the feelings and descriptions of others. You can choose it and enjoy the happiness it brings, as well as the new pain that comes with it.

Admit what I said before, and what I say below may be useful to you.

Let me talk about my views on this issue.

First, crows in the world are generally black.

All organizations are made up of people, and as long as they are made up of people, they can't escape human nature. Between countries, between families and even between people, these basic things of human nature have never changed for thousands of years, at least not dramatically.

Therefore, the interpersonal relationship between leaders and colleagues mentioned in the question can be seen everywhere from ancient times to today, from China to foreign countries. There are differences in the forms that can be expressed, but the fundamentals will not change. Again, those things, such as interests, such as honor, such as virtue and incompetence, such as strength and incompetence, are inseparable from the game and balance of these things.

-The world is as black as a crow!

Therefore, if we can't handle these relationships well in one place, we can't handle them well in another place.

Therefore, if only these problems make you exhausted, what needs to be solved is to improve your cognitive ability of these problems and improve your level of dealing with such problems, not to change places.

Second, narcissism deviates from the principle

The principle of narcissistic prejudice, similar to that of survivor prejudice, is that the understanding of reality is biased because the other party's excuses are not heard.

Because everyone is narcissistic, first, I am good; Second, I am better than others. Even if I am worse than you in this respect, I am better than you in other respects.

Therefore, narcissistic prejudice is mainly manifested in that all problems are others' problems, even if others have no problems, that is, problems of environment, system and atmosphere. All the achievements are the result of your own efforts, which have nothing to do with others and the environment, because if it were not for your own efforts and wisdom, it would certainly not be done so perfectly.

But the reality is often that you can succeed because the organization thinks you should do it well. Some people in the organization may not have enough support, but most of the resources still support you to do it well. There are some subtle differences between personal efforts and ability, only in this matter is it perfect, and whether it is completed on time.

I have a friend who was the head of a key department when his career was on the rise, because his unit was good and the leaders appreciated him. At that time, his scenery was infinite, and the leaders of relevant government departments and the bosses of enterprises around his unit called him a brother. People often beat their chests on the wine table and are willing to go through fire and water for him. Later, due to personnel changes, it entered a low tide period. Thinking of so many friends in the society, this guy started his own company. As a result, people who ask for help are unprepared and have great difficulties. Those friends are no longer friends.

So, don't overestimate your ability. Without this platform, we are probably nothing.

So, you should be grateful. It is precisely because of this platform that you can be better than most North drift situations, not your own ability.

With this mentality, I think, maybe mental fatigue will be alleviated.

Third, the principle of two mice

"Biography of Historical Records and Lisi" records: "When I was young, I was a small official in the county. Seeing mice in the official toilet, I can't eat, and I am close to dogs. As soon as you enter the warehouse, you can see the mice in the warehouse, eating millet and living under the big guard, and you can't see the worries of people and dogs. So Lisnai sighed:' Man's virtue is like a mouse, in his own ears!' . "

When Reese was young, he worked as a small civil servant in the county. When she saw mice eating dirty things in the toilet, every time someone or a dog approached, she would run away in fear. I saw mice in the granary. They ate mountains of millet and lived in spacious houses. Their brains are full of fat brains and shiny fur. When they steal old grain, they are calm and generous, and they don't panic when they see people coming. So with a sigh said:

"Life is like a mouse! Not in the warehouse, just in the toilet. " A person's success, like this mouse, depends on where he is. You have to eat shit in the toilet and be scared; In big warehouse, I was eating food, undisturbed and comfortable.

The "two mice principle" has been mentioned by many big V's. For example, Ceng Ming, the famous education director of Lakeside University, summed it up as "point-line-surface theory", in which platform you are on, you will enjoy the bonus of which platform, and in which industry you are in, you will enjoy the average salary of which industry.

Xiang Shuai of Peking University's finance class also told a story. A pair of twins, with similar abilities, graduated from Tencent ten years ago, became multimillionaires ten years later and started a business. VC swarmed around him. One graduated into the People's Daily, still holding a salary and worrying about buying a house.

This is the importance of choosing which industry to enter, and it is also the reason why men are afraid of entering the wrong industry.

Even more frightening, it has entered a declining economy. If the country is an economy, in China, you can have enough food and clothing without too much effort; You went to Syria to do your best, maybe just to save your life.

From the current trend, the advantages of state-owned enterprises, a big economy, are gradually disappearing. In state-owned enterprises, the pursuit is nothing more than a sense of security, which comes from the certainty of expectations. However, this certainty is disappearing. First, stable income is no longer predictable, wages are high, and benefits are cancelled; Second, stable jobs are no longer predictable. When entering the new economy, many traditional industries have been unexpectedly plunged into the abyss by a new technology. For example, last year's paid girl was once a hot job and was cancelled in one sentence. For example, once glamorous bank employees are now facing the abolition of outlets and the reduction of employees.

Therefore, choice is very important.

To choose, of course, the first thing is to have the ability to choose, and secondly, not to look at stocks, but to look at variables, that is, to look at the future and trends. The third is to abandon the so-called 100% sense of security, which does not exist and is illusory. In today's rapidly changing society, don't try to learn from the experience and gains and losses of our predecessors. Those experiences are of little value in a slowly changing world.

Just like a joke, an old man in the northeast asked his grandson to go back and compete for a sanitation post with a monthly salary of 2000, on the grounds of stability within the system. According to his experience, this is a very good job. However, this kind of experience is useless.

So, how to choose? Look at the line (enterprise), surface (industry) and body (economic type) where your "point" is located. If you are sinking, or the advantage of your original decision is disappearing, you should consider choosing again.

Fourth, the comfort zone principle.

Everyone pursues being in the comfort zone, but when a person is in the comfort zone, it means that the person has stopped struggling and stopped making progress.

This kind of comfort includes two aspects: one is material, and when material needs are met, there will be a temporary comfort; One is spirit. There are many aspects of spiritual pursuit, such as superiority. Sometimes we don't understand why many rich people are so rich, but instead of enjoying life, they choose to live more tired than us and work longer than us, just because material or wealth can't satisfy his spiritual pursuit. When his spiritual needs are not met, he always feels very painful, and he can't enter his comfort zone, although in our view, he is already in the "comfort zone we think". That's why he can keep improving and keep updating his iterations.

For those of us who are in state-owned enterprises, state-owned enterprises are a comfort zone similar to "uterus". As long as we do things according to the established rules every day, go to work and finish the things assigned to us, we don't have to worry about other things. Everything is arranged by the unit. At a fixed time every month, a fixed amount will appear in our bank account. In fact, not only state-owned enterprises, but also people in any fixed organization are in such a comfort zone.

If we want more things, we must give up this comfort zone and enter an uncertain external world. Just like a baby, when she comes out of the womb, she learns from scratch, gropes for new knowledge and enters a new comfort zone. This cycle is the way a person grows and progresses.

There is an old saying: "People live when they move, and trees die when they move." The fundamental reason is that if a tree changes to a place, if the soil moisture and climate in that place are completely different from the previous environment, it basically has no way to change its original system immediately to adapt; However, when a person changes places, he will be forced to learn, progress and grow up because of the different pressure of minority and choice, so as to gain stronger cognitive ability than before, and may live better.

It is human nature that one wants to be in the comfort zone. However, the reality is that due to the rapid changes in modern society, a person's niche is actually accelerating. Therefore, if you ignore the pressure of choice brought by this minority change and continue to stay in the comfort zone, you are likely to be abandoned by the times.

Therefore, to some extent, pain is a good thing for a person and a necessary niche for growth. Only when we face up to the pain we feel at present, analyze the causes of our pain, strive to improve our ability and spur ourselves to grow constantly can we gain the right and ability to choose, which is the really important thing.

In fact, as long as we bravely step out of the comfort zone, embrace uncertainty, turn pressure into motivation, and look at this new world with an "empty cup" mentality like a baby, we will soon find that learning new things is not as difficult as we thought before.

I am tired of working in state-owned enterprises. What if I'm exhausted?

This is definitely an abnormal state. To solve this problem, we need to know ourselves, analyze the platform, perceive human nature, proceed from reality, find the factors that make us happy, keep learning and growing, and finally live a happy life that we are satisfied with.