Classic Quotations of Zhang Wei (philosopher Zhang Wei 10)

I don't know when it started. I feel that Zhang Wei-it seems to be a magical existence. Unlike many stars, he is really thoughtful.

I can't feel his songs; I don't feel his homophonic jokes either. However, he said something full of philosophical meaning from time to time, which really circled me. Many of them even changed my life-it really helped.

I am not a person who eats alone, so I decided to compile the wonderful words of the master teacher and share them with you, hoping to give you some inspiration. By the way, write down my interpretation and views on these words-I hope my interpretation can give you some inspiration.

(The quotation marks are Zhang Wei's original words. I made some changes in some places, because his mouth was so broken that it was not easy to understand the original words into words. )

I. About Marriage "The purpose of my marriage is to be practical, because I always feel that there is no home in such a big place in the world. People always say that they want to look outside, but I never want to. Anyway, you can go outside and ask for money, but you can't go home and ask for money. "

I'm sure countless people don't understand this truth, because-if everyone understood this truth, so many people wouldn't cheat. People should be wary of their own thoughts and actions, because many times, we are short-sighted and reckless, and always feel that we are right.

What do you mean? For example, when you get married, you meet someone who excites you. At this time, you may make mistakes. When you make a mistake, you will find reasons to convince yourself that it is nothing, and you don't think it is such a big mistake. Besides, you are reckless and just want to enjoy the pleasure of the moment.

When you get married, you should understand the bottom line and the meaning of marriage. When you wander off, you can tell yourself: Yes, the outside world really attracts me, but it's not worth it.

You can go out if you want, but you can't go home if you want-I hope everyone will engrave this sentence in their hearts.

Second, about the "spark" of love, fight if you can. Don't rub hard when you can't hit it. They are both injured. "

This is really right! ! !

If I had understood this truth more than ten or eight years ago, my road to love would never have been so bumpy, nor would I have suffered so much because of love.

One of the studies I often mentioned in my recent articles is the study "How long does it take to fall in love with someone" conducted by the University of Pennsylvania. The results show that it only takes 0.2 seconds to fall in love with someone.

Feelings can't be cultivated. This thing is just like Tang monk meat, and it can't be raised artificially. Yes, you may cultivate feelings similar to love, but that's not love.

If a person doesn't like you, don't be hard, don't be both hard and soft, and don't always want to touch each other. It is largely useless.

So, if you think a person doesn't like you, please leave him at once. You can't work hard on this thing. I don't like sweets. People tried to persuade and seduce me again. Even if I eat them, I don't like them.

Third, about betrayal "I don't have to be my own traitor. I can betray anyone, but I cannot betray myself. "

In fact, we always feel that cheating is intolerable because we feel that the other party has betrayed me.

But from the cheater's point of view, before he betrayed others, he had betrayed himself-when he got married, he vowed to be kind to someone and said that he would never leave, and he was moved to tears. As a result, not long after I got married, I began to betray myself. Betraying others begins with betraying yourself.

Of course, when the teacher said "Don't betray yourself", he didn't just mean marriage.

Just remember two sentences about this. First, life is too short, please don't be your enemy; Second, if something pains you, then you should reflect. But if this has caused you pain for a long time, please leave as soon as possible.

About happiness "In order to pursue your own happiness, you have to abandon those things that make you unhappy."

I understood this truth when I was very young, because when I was a child, I especially liked watching Arabian Nights, which often mentioned a sentence, "Let go of unnecessary things, and life will still be complete."

I understand the truth, but it is only in recent years that I really understand it and take it as the guiding ideology.

Like us, the rented houses in Beipiao are very small and the home is always full. The house is full, so it is particularly prone to chaos. You just packed today, and tomorrow it will be messy.

Later, I started throwing things regularly. Many things I bought before, I think the packaging is beautiful, keep it; Many things my girlfriend gave me in the past, I think they are memorable-now, I have thrown them away.

Life serves the present and the future, not the past.

I also began to delete friends, and 5,000 friends deleted more than 4,000; I also stopped making friends, because if I keep making friends, my energy will be scattered and my happiness will be reduced.

I began to stop brushing short videos and reading articles that made me feel sad. These things are meaningless.

What makes you unhappy is the things that waste your time and disturb your mind. Happiness is calm, free from distractions, and putting the most energy into the most valuable and meaningful things. This is not a waste of time.

Verb (abbreviation of verb) about insisting that "going backwards on the wrong road is going forward."

In this regard, I want to say to those who love but can't, and have been broken up, you are comforting yourself by saying how affectionate you are and how patient you are.

If a person doesn't love you, you should keep trying to touch him and try to save him. This is not persistence, it is laziness.

Just like lying on the ground when you fall, that's not persistence; Just like you don't want to get up in winter, but you insist on lying in bed. This is not persistence.

Affection is not only for you, but also for countless people.

For example, lovelorn, your feelings, stupid things you have done, nonsense you have said, your apology, your retention-countless people have done the same thing and said the same thing to you.

Enduring grievances to maintain feelings is not forbearance, but cowardice and greed. Only "reluctantly giving up what one loves" is the real skill.

About self "What is happiness? Happiness is peace. This world has nothing to do with me. I am a person, I want to live like me. "

Except the extremely poor, in order to survive, they have to accept things they don't want to do, people who don't want to make friends, and places they don't want to go.

But as long as you have no food and clothing, then everything else is your own fault.

For example, I am a mountainside in Courtyard Village, Lion Township, Pingba County, Guizhou Province. I don't want to go back to my hometown, but I have to do something in Beijing-I deserve it. If I complain about the high housing prices in Beijing, that I have no background, and that I have problems-I chose it myself, and I take all the responsibility.

People are unhappy and restless, that is, they do not bear the consequences of their own choices.

If you don't have enough food and clothing, then what you do is your own choice, and no one in this world will be forced to suffer.

Don't complain, accept it or leave it-for anyone and anything.

The freedom you want is not that difficult. If you are willing to take a gamble and admit defeat, nothing is a problem.

Seven, about cherishing "I will not please indifference, I will not live up to enthusiasm. I am a sun, and I will always be hot. I am doing it, I am also cherishing it, and I give up while walking. "

Many people found me, chatted, and then asked, "Wanwan, he doesn't love me anymore. What should I do?"

What should I do? What else can I do? He doesn't love you. Forget it. Why bother?

We need to adjust our emotions. Feelings should not wait for someone to love you, nor should they expect someone to love you. If you really want to love, then learn maternal love.

Motherly love is the sun, which is always hot and asks for nothing in return. Motherly love means: I don't ask you to love me. If you can give me a chance to love you, I will be satisfied.

You don't need my love, so forget it. If you happen to love me, I will cherish you. If you don't love me, I can leave you in 0.2 seconds.

Once I break up with someone, I will never say how much I love him and how much I have given up. Whoever I break up with is an ordinary person to me-you have your life and I have my journey. Let's stay out of it from now on. If we do, I'll tear your mouth off-you don't have to take it seriously for rhyme's sake.

Eight, about success "In fact, there are many people who can't succeed all their lives. Only those who are ambitious, self-respecting and jealous can succeed. Many people always think that successful people are successful because of the side they show, but in fact you can't stand his embarrassing side. "

That's the truth.

Many people tell you that success depends on cultivating your mind and being a better person. This is all a liar.

Whether you become a more elegant and tolerant person will be useful for you to deal with interpersonal relationships, especially intimate relationships, but it has nothing to do with success.

Most successful people are not because they do a good job. Success itself is a very dark thing, and those who are more jealous, more eager, more paranoid and even morbid are more likely to succeed.

What do you think of Jobs, Musk and Bezos? They are not beautiful people. They are basically a mess in "being a man". They have many defects in character and morality. Actually, personality has nothing to do with success.

Personality is linked to success, which is mediocre self-paralysis.

Nine, about dreams "There are many people who pin their dreams on their children. All my dreams have come true. I don't have any wish for my children to realize it for me. I have my own dreams. Why don't I chase it myself and let my children chase it? Isn't this crazy? "

There are many objective reasons why our previous generation failed to realize their dreams. For example, my father, who especially wants to go to college, is too poor to even eat. When he has books to read, his study always comes first, but he can't even afford to eat, so why go to school?

It is understandable that he let me realize his dream. But if I let my children realize my dream, I may be crazy-it's an escape.

Many parents tell their children to study hard while playing mahjong-forget it.

X. About the choice "Ask anyone, you say I will give you two choices. Are you willing to get married, have children and have a stable job? Are you still willing to be a person with dreams, passion and the ability to resist the world? Everyone will choose the second one. However, in the end, everyone lived to be the first. I think a middle-aged man is still hesitating, which means you have some problems. I always tell myself that I can't stay anywhere unless I move forward. Because if you don't go, someone will push you behind. If you don't leave, the people behind you will trample you to death. Adhere to your necessary persistence, but some unnecessary persistence, if you persist, you are destroying yourself. "

I collected this passage a long time ago, which is also my motivation to write this article.

When I was young, I liked playing and surfing. I spend all my time in love, chatting, watching movies, playing games and all kinds of time-wasting things.

What did I get? I have nothing.

Then at a certain age, I found that every day, every week, every month and every year passed very fast, and I remembered a popular saying, "The most romantic thing I can think of is to waste time with you"-Oh, I don't want to, I don't want to waste time with anyone.

Because life has a hard test, there are many thorny problems waiting for you to solve. If you don't take the initiative to prepare and meet, you will be embarrassed and helpless when you are passive one day. To put it bluntly, if you don't work hard, in case your parents die, you won't even have money for burial.

The purpose of writing emotional articles is actually to let my readers get rid of the control of emotions and emotions and move towards a life of "getting rid of sensibility and obeying purpose".

I sincerely hope that I can be of even a little use to you and not waste most of my time writing.