How does the 33-year-old leftover woman feel when she finally gets married?

I don't know if the landlord who asked this question is a boy or a girl, but from A? Finally married? Many potential words can be interpreted in a few words.

One? Finally? It not only reflects their early anxiety, but also reflects the correctness of this era? Leftovers? Not very friendly. According to the answer that the landlord wants, the 33-year-old leftover woman will finally get married, and she should feel happy (of course, the premise is not to rush to find someone to get married casually).

If you just want to get married in order to cope with the pressure brought by family and society, then if you feel too much, you will be more helpless and wronged.

Leftover women? It has always been a hot topic of social discussion, such as all kinds of things we often see, such as? Do older women also have spring? ? Such a topic has its own eye-catching effect, which can always cause controversial discussions between the pros and cons.

Today, we might as well take a look, why are they leftover women? Hate marriage? ? One? Finally married? Honestly, how many?

What is 0 1? Leftover women? ?

Leftover women usually refer to those women who are single at the age of 30 or above. People vividly give them many names, such as? Remaining soldiers? 、? Pizza hut? 、? The monkey was left behind? Wait a minute.

The general characteristics of these people are:

Have a good education, a good job and a good income? The reason for staying is that one is voluntary and the other is passive. However, on the whole, most of them are caused by being too picky.

I have seen such a joke, an older woman, nearly 40 years old, is still unmarried. Looking for her lover for a long time, but still unable to find her, she decided to use the Internet to find her lover.

Then log on to the dating site and start a fierce operation.

The first search condition she entered was: handsome, with a car, and the search result was chess!

Then she continued to enter: be cool and feel safe, and the search result is Altman!

She is still unwilling, continue to input: money, housing, search results came out from the bank!

Looking for a long time, I can't think of an answer I want. The woman was very angry and finally entered all the conditions at once. As a result, the network searched for a long time and finally came out with a sentence: Altman is playing chess in the bank!

Seeing this joke, many people may just laugh it off, but it actually tells a common fact? The truth? When a woman looks for a partner, she needs not only looks, figure, security, but also ability, resources, wealth and so on.

A man who can meet this requirement at the same time can be said to be one in a hundred and one in a million.

Some women with better conditions have certain advantages in social conditions, and they are unwilling to lower their standards. In the end, the number of leftover women can only increase? Leftovers? .

Relatively speaking, there are much more elderly women in cities than in rural areas.

Why?

First, urban women have better educational resources, economic conditions and family background than rural women, which greatly promotes the cultivation of their independent personality. The advantage of rural women in this respect has obviously weakened.

To this end, girls in cities often treat each other with a mentality of never following their own inclinations, while girls in rural areas have no advantage in this respect, and most of them can only follow their inclinations.

Second, most people have their own ideological limitations. Women in cities have a wide social circle, strong ability to accept new things, strong opinions and are not easily influenced by other people's thoughts, while women in rural areas are often the opposite.

Due to the influence of traditional ideas and social and family pressures, rural women often give in.

Third, urban women are relatively independent economically and have certain careers, while most rural women have no economic foundation, which determines that they often have to make do and find ways to live together.

Of course, the happiness and misfortune of the above two seemingly different life choices are not for us to decide.

After all, choose? What about the rest? Yes, it's not necessarily what we onlookers see, it's happiness. What you choose to do is not necessarily a lifetime misfortune. The right to speak is in the hands of the parties.

Having said that, let's go back to the beginning of the question. Finally married? To a great extent, it shows that it is really a headache for the majority of older young women to take off their bills.

So, what about older women? How to adjust the mentality?

About the problem that older women can't find an object, someone once summed it up with a very classic sentence:

Who despises who.

Indeed, what an incisive summary, hit the nail on the head!

Therefore, older women should first start with the core issues, change their concepts, be down-to-earth and not aim too high.

Some women watch too many soap operas and bubble dramas, especially all kinds of romantic dramas, and soak themselves in sweetness? Honeypot? And the result? Poisoning? It is too deep. I always use the standard of perfect hero in TV series to find someone. Finally, I look around and see people around me. None of them are pleasing to the eye, and finally I can only be disappointed.

Therefore, if older women want to find an object, they must first find the reason from the root and balance their own standards.

Of course. What about the rest? This is not a shameful thing. We should adjust our mentality, look at the problem correctly and don't go to extremes.

summary

In a word, leftover women are a social phenomenon and a true portrayal of individuals' pursuit of ideal life. In such a civilized society, we should be more tolerant, respect everyone's choice and lifestyle, and seek common ground while reserving differences.

Because people's value is not necessarily measured according to the traditional definition.

In fact, is it? Married at 33? , or? Finally married at 45? It doesn't matter anymore. It is important not to be bound by too many worldly things. Because, life, living happily is the most important.

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