Talk show jokes about puppy love

Adolescent love refers to love behavior that occurs in adolescence, or

admiration for the opposite sex. In China, the elders with traditional ideas and the exam-oriented education community generally believe that dating before the age of 18 should be regarded as "puppy love" and strongly oppose this kind of love behavior. This approach is wrong on multiple levels.

Yuan Mei's "Zi Buyu" records a story:

A certain Zen master in Wutai Mountain accepted a novice monk at the age of three. Wutai Mountain is the highest, and masters and disciples practice on the top of the mountain and never come down from the mountain. More than ten years later, the master and his disciples came down the mountain. When a novice sees an ox, a horse, a chicken, or a dog, he doesn't recognize them. The master pointed it out and said: "This ox can be used to plow the fields. This horse can be ridden. These chickens and dogs can announce the dawn and guard the door." Novice Weiwei. After a while, a young woman passed by, and the novice asked in surprise: "What is this?" The master was concerned about her temptation, and told him seriously: "This name is a tiger. Anyone who comes close will be bitten to death, and no bones will be left." Weiwei. When we went up the mountain in the evening, the master asked, "Did you think of anything you saw at the foot of the mountain today?" He said, "I don't think of anything except the man-eating tiger. I always feel like I can't let him go."

This story illustrates a young man’s yearning for the opposite sex.

In the scientific community, adolescents' admiration for the opposite sex due to normal physiological and psychological development is classified as "puppy love" in a broad sense, which is against science.

After entering adolescence, teenagers who have heterosexual love tendencies will take the initiative to approach the opposite sex they like. The two parties have frequent interactions and are attracted to each other, which may lead to love.

(1) It is caused by sexual impulse and external attraction, lacking ideological and emotional considerations;

(2) Each other is often caused by a certain aspect of the advantages of both parties. Admiration, lack of comprehensive evaluation of the other party;

(3) Lack of sense of responsibility and ethical and moral constraints, prone to sexual behavior.

Ambiguity

Adolescents are not clear about the outcome of the development of puppy love. Teenagers who fall in love just long for alone contact with the opposite sex, but they are not concerned about the formation of future families, handling the relationship between love and studies. There is a lack of clarity on issues such as relationships and the distinction between friendship and love.

Contradiction

Adolescents who fall in early love are full of contradictions. They want to have contact with the opposite sex they like, but they are also afraid of being discovered by their parents. It can be said that pleasure and pain coexist in the process of puppy love. For those in early love who have a secret crush, this ambivalence is also reflected in the contradiction of whether to declare love (confession) to the admirer.

Variability

Friendships are full of changes and extremely unstable, because teenagers often lack the skills and experience to deal with interpersonal relationships, resulting in a lack of mutual trust between the two parties; relationships are generally difficult to last. It is this that often causes psychological pain to both parties.

Differences

There are obvious differences in the puppy love behavior of teenagers. In terms of behavior, they are extremely covert, conveying feelings through letters, phone calls, mobile phones, or the Internet, and conducting secret private communications and emotional exchanges. It is difficult for parents and teachers to discover, but there are also teenagers who will disclose their relationships. , in pairs on many occasions.

To a certain extent, most puppy lovers mainly communicate feelings or play together; from the perspective of interpersonal relationships, they generally do not exceed normal friendships, but some puppy lovers develop very deep relationships. In addition to exchanging feelings, sometimes they even have sex.

In terms of age preferences, girls usually like boys who are older and more mature than themselves, while boys usually like girls who are younger than themselves and reflect their masculinity in their interactions. Some psychologists believe that girls will take the initiative when they are of the same age, but according to the actual situation, more boys take the initiative. This phenomenon has yet to be determined.

4 Type Editor

The types of puppy love can be summarized into the following 8 types:

Admiration type

This type of teenagers are attracted by each other because of each other. The phenomenon of puppy love caused by mutual admiration for each other. This type of puppy love is very common, and according to different reasons for admiration, it can be divided into the following three categories:

(1) Appearance type

This type of puppy love is due to admiration for the other person’s external appearance It is caused by instrumentation and is also the most common, but the most difficult to sustain and stabilize. There are always handsome boys and beautiful girls in school who are highly admired by the opposite sex, and this is the reason why.

(2) Expertise type

This is a puppy love caused by admiring the other person for a certain ability or expertise that one admires. This type of puppy love often involves girls taking the initiative.

(3) Character type

This type of puppy love is caused by admiring some of the other person’s qualities that one admires, and it lasts longer in comparison.

Curious type

This is the phenomenon of puppy love caused by curiosity about the opposite sex. With the continuous development of sexual awareness, teenagers will become curious about the body, life, psychology and attitude of the opposite sex. This is a psychological phenomenon among adolescents. Teenagers are prone to sexual impulses and thus maintain a sensitive attitude towards the opposite sex. In order to satisfy this curiosity, they make friends of the opposite sex.

Imitation type

This is the phenomenon of puppy love caused by imitating behaviors in society, film and television works, newspapers and books.

Conformity type

This is the phenomenon of puppy love caused by pressure from peers around you. For example, a love relationship that does not exist may be fabricated by people around you, that is, "rumors" or "scandals." In such an environment, it is easy to fall in love with him due to the pressure of public opinion.

Pleasurable type

As classmates or even deskmates in adolescence, due to more communication and information transmission, they will have a more detailed and thorough understanding of each other. In this kind of Under such circumstances, puppy love is easy to occur. This is also an important reason for "love in the same class" or even "love at the same table".

Compensatory type

Some teenagers have suffered setbacks in their studies and life, which have damaged their self-esteem. In order to achieve the purpose of venting, they often find friends of the opposite sex, in which they forget the pain and so on. Seek compensation. This type of puppy love incorporates real feelings and is easy to develop and deepen.

Rebellious type

Due to social consciousness and public opinion factors, adolescents’ sexual intercourse is often subject to inappropriate interference from parents and teachers, which can easily induce “You don’t allow me to do this, I prefer this.” Do this” mentality. Under the influence of this rebellious psychology, originally normal and appropriate heterosexual interactions may quickly develop into puppy love.

Pathological type

In contemporary society, superior nutritional conditions can easily lead to overnutrition and the effects of sex hormones contained in food or various special physiological diseases, family genetics and other factors. Teenagers are mentally precocious and even sexually perverted. This is the main objective factor that induces early love among teenagers.

The above types are also common in adult relationships, especially those who fall in love for the first time. Of course, there are also people who have never experienced premature love. Moreover, because adults have greater power and more knowledge, the same consequences are sometimes worse than those of children who fall in love early.

5 Scientific Editor

Some emerging educators, psychologists and students believe that the term "puppy love" is not scientific. Because teenagers develop at an accelerated pace during adolescence, and after the appearance of secondary sexual characteristics, they gradually mature sexually and become adults physically and mentally. Therefore, developing a liking for the opposite sex or falling in love is a common situation in adolescence and an inevitable part of physical and psychological development. It should not be described with subjective words such as "puppy love".

In China, decades of surveys have shown that there are very few people who have not had a relationship in middle school. And most of them are secret love and unrequited love (unrequited love). Only if you have a good impression of each other can it develop into love.

Adolescent love behavior is the practice of adolescents' psychological transformation into behavior based on their sexual and physiological development. However, in China, the elders with traditional ideas and the exam-oriented education community generally believe that falling in love during adolescence will bring many problems, such as affecting the test-taking ability and academic performance of teenagers. Or they believe that early love often ends in failure, and it is rare that early love can last a lifetime. Stay together. However, some educators and parents of teenagers believe that early love is an exploration and learning of the relationship between men and women by teenagers to prepare for future love and marriage, and should not be overly restricted or suppressed.