Put down the hoe and pick up the carving knife

Read such a fable: A farmer got a piece of jade and wanted to carve it into a beautiful work, but the tool in his hand was a hoe. Soon, the piece of jade turned into a smaller piece of jade. jade, while their shape is always like stone, and increasingly lose value.

I turned out to be a mother who used a hoe to carve jade.

My child once was not very good, her academic performance was not good, but because of my face, I was afraid that my colleagues would laugh at me, so when she came home from school, I would sometimes yell at her, She said many unpleasant words, which further dampened her enthusiasm for learning. Although she seemed to obey my words, I saw anger and dissatisfaction in her eyes. Many of her habits are not very good, such as not sleeping by herself, taking my bra to cover her face, not folding the quilt after getting up, occasionally urinating everywhere, always dropping rice grains when eating, and not cleaning up after eating. He does homework all over his desk and arranges it in an awkward manner, loves to buy things, is reckless and so on. At this time, I often used violence and intimidation. As a result, although she could make a little improvement at that time, she was still the same after that.

Actually, when I calmed down and thought about it, it wasn’t that the child was not good, but that I was impatient and didn’t use the correct method. (Because I am engaged in education, I feel that there are very outstanding students among the children I teach. It takes almost no effort, parents don’t have to worry, and more importantly, they can learn independently.) Sometimes I always wonder why my children are like this? In fact, many children have the same nature and need supervision and guidance. If we can use a carving knife to carve jade, the effect will definitely be different from using a hoe to carve jade.

During the Dragon Boat Festival holiday, my daughter was one day late, so she went one day later than me. After lunch, I was so tired that I wanted to rest, but I didn’t wash the dishes. She suddenly said: I will wash the dishes today. I was shocked, it was rare for someone to take such initiative. What happened today?

"I promised Teacher Xixi that I would wash the dishes three times a week, sweep the floor twice, and send her photos!" (Teacher Xixi is a young teacher in the children's composition tutoring class. She is very serious and dedicated. , I communicated with her about my child's learning attitude, and she promised to help me talk about my child.) "Okay!" I wanted her to say this. I encouraged her, but she didn’t know what to do when faced with a pile of dishes of different sizes. I fiddled with them a little bit, and then I returned to the next bedroom without mercy. As soon as I lay down on the bed, I heard a "bang" sound of a bowl being smashed. to the sound of the ground. She quickly ran up to me and whispered: "Mom, the bowl was broken. Last time a cup was thrown, and today another bowl was thrown." She quickly explained to me. I ran over and took a look, which made me smile bitterly. Bowls of different sizes were placed together randomly by her, with the small ones at the bottom and the big ones at the bottom. It would be strange if they didn't fall out.

My anger suddenly rose, and I wanted to scold her, but suddenly I realized that what is more important than the child's mood? If something breaks, you can buy it again. Where can you find a child if his enthusiasm is gone? She already knew she was wrong, so why should I hold her tight and not break things? She never knows how to put things away in an organized manner. Thinking of this, I quickly softened my expression and said, "It's okay. Do you know what to do next?" You see, housework is not easy, right? You should cherish the fruits of your mother's labor in the future, right?" She responded, and then she placed the pots and dishes with my help. Completed this mission.

I think after this time, she must have remembered to be careful when doing housework in the future.

So our child is like a small piece of jade. Whether she can turn into a satisfactory work depends on the tool in our hands - is it a hoe or a carving knife? Just being careful is not enough, you have to use the right tools and learn the right methods to carve her into a handicraft that will be priceless.