Why don't some people go home for the New Year?

As the saying goes, "long term and short term, full time." This means that no matter what job you do, you should have a holiday and prepare to go home for the New Year on the 24th of the twelfth lunar month.

Those who work outside usually have to make every effort to find a reasonable excuse in order to get approval smoothly. In the season of "going home for the New Year", no one will deliberately delay the holiday.

When most people around them are busy grabbing tickets, buying gifts and rushing to embark on a trip home, some people choose to "do the opposite"-not going back to their hometown for the New Year.

People who regard their hometown as their hometown are like a dandelion seed. Where it falls, it will take root, sprout, blossom and bear fruit.

If they don't have to contact their hometown occasionally, they will ask where they come from.

Live a carefree life with a natural attitude. There are several reasons for choosing not to go back to my hometown for the New Year.

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Nothing can be achieved, and it is impossible to face the "Jiangdong Elders".

Historically, emperors and heroes who conquered the world immediately had a hobby, that is, after conquering the world, they always returned to their hometown in clothes.

For example, after Emperor Gaozu Liu Bang put down the Ying Bu Rebellion, he led his troops back to Xi 'an and passed by his hometown Pei County, so he stayed in Suoxing for a few days and invited his hometown to celebrate the festival. When he was full of food and wine, he couldn't help singing "Song of the Wind": "The wind rises in the clouds, the weaver girl returns to her hometown in the sea, and the warriors guard everywhere." Show the power and prestige that lofty aspirations can be realized.

In sharp contrast, Xiang Yu, the overlord of Chu, was defeated before. On the edge of the Wujiang River, the boatman intends to cross Xiang Yu and encourage him to keep the "Castle Peak" for another day. However, Xiang Yu, who is arrogant and awe-inspiring, is deeply ashamed. He doesn't want to see his elders in Jiangdong and would rather die than live.

Ordinary migrant workers like you and me don't have such a magnificent experience, but they also have the same difficult choice in "returning home".

Going out to work, the original intention is to change the difficult life and make a name for yourself. Not only for those who look down on themselves, but also for those who love their relatives and friends, and change the situation of the whole family by their own efforts.

When this wish gradually failed, looking back at my original choice, I only felt sad from it. Don't say that you repay your parents and support your loved ones, even your own life is difficult. Going back to my hometown for the New Year is mostly more sad than happy, and more melancholy than chic.

Therefore, it may be a more gratifying New Year gift to simply save the round-trip travel expenses and send them all back, and then find an excuse to be "busy" and let relatives in their hometown have another fantasy.

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I have been away from my hometown for so long that I am out of place with my hometown.

There is a poem in the song dynasty: "the sound outside the ridge is broken, and winter goes and spring comes." Now, close to my village and meeting people, I dare not ask a question. "

When I read this poem when I was young, it was difficult to understand what "now, near my village, meet people" looked like. I just feel "it's good to go home". I like the familiar scenery, people and smells in my hometown. Just like a baby who is not "weaned", he is bent on returning to his mother.

The more you experience, the more you will find that the longer you leave your hometown, the less you can go back to your original place.

Just like Alice, the heroine in Brooklyn, from an isolated rural town to a bustling city, she broadened her horizons and increased her skills in work and study, and her cowardice and timidity were replaced by skills and self-confidence.

When she returned to her hometown again, she exuded the charm of independence and self-improvement from the inside out, and the attitude of people in the town to her also changed greatly. While enjoying these belated respects and praises, Alice constantly examines her heart. Will small-town life be the rest of her life?

Soon, after being questioned by a mean former employer, Alice realized that the people in the town had never changed. They are used to living a short life in their parents' home and judging him, because this circle is too small, and new things and ideas are always excluded from this solid siege.

It is herself who has changed. Only by returning to the city that can give her free development can she live the life she wants. Therefore, Alice did not hesitate to leave her hometown again and settle in this city.

"This peace of mind is my hometown." When a person makes himself stand in a strange city, it means breaking with his hometown: giving up the philosophy of life, value recognition and way of thinking pursued by his hometown.

After a few years, when a person is used to another way of life and returns to his hometown again, he will appear "out of place", and there will be fewer and fewer topics to talk about, and even become "chickens talk to ducks". Is it necessary to go back?

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Emotional privacy, unwilling to be questioned.

In the acquaintance society in my hometown, there is no privacy.

The partners who grew up together are not relatives, friends or neighbors. They have known each other well since their ancestors. Even if we have forgotten ourselves, some people will remember what the girls of the Zhang family and the boys of the Li family did and what they became.

Back home, within two days, everyone knew. Living conditions and emotional conditions soon became a new "hot topic" for everyone after dinner. Once you go out, you will encounter all kinds of inquiries from time to time: some people are eager to match older unmarried men and women, and some people ask for a job in the city.

How many people can bear this "soul torture"?

In addition, there are all kinds of red tape and etiquette during the New Year's greetings, and time is spent there, but there is nowhere to put emotions.

All these, to name a few. How much courage does it take to face it?

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Conclusion:

On the journey of life, you must learn to be yourself.

People who don't go back to their hometown for the New Year are not impersonal, but know that some people and things are destined to be the past, so it is enough to remember this warmth.