Expose the fraud of a matchmaking agency

Expose the fraud of a matchmaking agency

The cheating behavior of the matchmaking agency reveals that marriage is a major event in life, whether for yourself or for your family. China's huge single population has laid a market foundation for China's dating industry. But everyone must have needs, and the scam of the matchmaking agency was exposed.

Uncovering the matchmaking scam 1 Some insiders in the matchmaking industry and witnesses who have experienced the matchmaking scam revealed to reporters all kinds of scams in the matchmaking industry, including the top ten scams in the matchmaking industry:

"* * Filing": Many matchmaking agencies put up "* * Filing" signs under the pretext of opening, celebrations and festivals. In fact, the registration fee and admission fee of many matchmaking agencies are not the same thing at all. Only 65,438+00 yuan is needed for filing, but it takes 200 yuan to get to 300 yuan to become a member.

Exaggerate the actual situation of members: nowadays, members' marriage advertisements are more and more mysterious, and handsome, elegant and generous advertisements have long been commonplace. Even "having a car and a house", "starting a company", "earning 10,000 yuan a month" and "returnees" are everywhere. In fact, the "gold content" of this information is extremely low. Ms. Zhou, an insider, told the reporter: "The family lives in a single-family house and drives a motorcycle by themselves. It can be said that there is a house and a car; A monthly salary of 10 thousand yuan may be only one month in a year to reach this level; Even people who have worked abroad can be said to have returned from overseas. "

Fabricate excellent members: Although some matchmaking agencies boast about their members, there is no such member in the book. But if you want to know this person, you must join this club. After the meeting, this person will be too busy to meet, either going abroad or on a business trip, which will make you unable to find it anyway.

Verbal promises will never be fulfilled: some matchmaking agencies are becoming more and more "bold" and open their mouths to ensure success. However, this "guarantee" has no time limit, one year, two years or even ten or eight years. Anyway, you won't ask until you lose confidence.

Random Yuanyang: The matchmaking agency will actively provide you with a meeting object, but the conditions are far from your requirements. Dozens of people have seen it, and the suitors feel too picky. It is not the responsibility of the matchmaking agency to be unsuccessful.

Use members as "wedding brackets": Some matchmaking agencies use some excellent members as their "wedding brackets" so that they can meet other members constantly and then "get involved". Anyway, I just don't want people to be lovers, so excellent members will "voluntarily" continue to serve the matchmaking agency.

Hiring "marriage supporters" to cheat: this is a particularly common cheating behavior. Many matchmaking agencies directly hire a "marriage supporter" in order to defraud the suitors of their money.

"Matchmaker" often changes tricks to deceive people: many suitors have encountered a situation, that is, after paying the money, they have never accepted the service of a matchmaking agency, and they have found that "matchmaker" has changed one after another and said, "I just came here and don't know the situation. Let me check it for you. " I don't know when this survey will be conducted.

The quantity of lively social gatherings is not the quality: many matchmaking agencies hold large-scale social gatherings, but only require the number of people attending the social gatherings, not the quality. As long as someone comes, they will not check their certificates, thus providing a place for some lawless elements to commit crimes.

Lack of business premises: Some matchmaking agencies are playing an "empty city plan". After the members pay the money, they can't find anyone when they come to receive the service.

The secret of matchmaking agency fraud 2 "blocking" means "blocking the road" By asking the reasons for being single, members found it difficult to find a suitable candidate on their own; "Poke" means "poke the sore spot", thus improving the urgency of users' love and marriage; "Digging" refers to the initial digging of members' assets and mate selection requirements, judging their purchasing power, and paving the way for "selecting candidates" ... Recently, some media reporters undercover well-known dating websites and found that buying and selling matchmakers used the background to "obtain" members' privacy information and other suspected illegal acts; Some sales matchmakers register as members of other dating platforms or participate in offline dating activities in order to obtain resources, leading to vicious competition; The signing price of a blind date service package with a price of 10,000 yuan varies from person to person, even if the same or similar service cycle and content are provided.

Marriage, whether for yourself or for your family, is a major event in life. Different from pure love, marriage matching needs to consider factors such as appearance, work, property and status in detail. Single men and women not only hope to find a lifelong partner through marriage, but also a large number of people hope that marriage can achieve a class jump, at least not decline. An expert survey once found that 89.7 1% of young people pay more attention to each other's personality and character when looking for male and female friends, which is more than 46 percentage points higher than the option of "family status"; 73.9 1% of young people think that the combination of values and outlook on life is "suitable for each other", which is 49 percentage points higher than the option of similar social status of both families. However, if they really face the problem of marriage, they will immediately become a reality, and housing and hukou will become an important dimension to measure each other's economic conditions and family status.

"There is no cloud or rain in the sky, and there is no marriage on the ground." China's huge single population has laid a market foundation for China's dating industry. The core of marriage and love is people, but everyone must have needs, advantages and disadvantages. This demand for marriage and attachment to marriage and love create space for the matchmaking platform to earn the difference. Single men and women expect to spend some money to break through class barriers or reduce screening costs, but this beautiful idea is not so beautiful in reality.

On September 26th this year, Jiangsu Consumer Protection Committee released a survey report on the service status of dating platforms, which showed that five platforms, including Jiayuan, zhenai, My Master and Good Marriage, Lily Net and Netease Huatian, which participated in the survey, generally had problems such as platform information audit loopholes, false propaganda, unclear refund rules, and infringement on consumers' right to know and fair trade.

"Existence Everywhere", not just "Existence", tells the current situation of the matchmaking market-seeing customers' anxiety about marriage and making money by using information asymmetry. However, like many market behaviors, the marriage and love market often reverses. After learning about the shady market, some well-qualified and sought-after unmarried men and women often look for partners through more reliable channels, leaving some unmarried men and women with less "perfect" conditions to stay in this market for hard work, which will inevitably be "harvested" by the marriage and love agencies mentioned above.

Interestingly, the older you get, the deeper your anxiety and the easier it is to believe in blind date. In fact, this phenomenon also reveals contradictions: some people who marry late actually resist the deception of social customs, and finally fall into a deeper routine because of this "late". Where there is anxiety, there are routines; Where there are routines, there are liars. Liars use people's anxiety to "plant" leeks and then harvest them one after another. Anxiety about choosing a school, anxiety about work, anxiety about wealth, anxiety about face value, etc., but many anxieties are deliberately created, and they are all "leek fields" cultivated by "people with a will". This also shows that some members of society are intolerant, or complacent about their own advantages, or worried about their own imperfections.

Of course, all kinds of anxiety can actually be summed up as opportunity anxiety, fearing that you can't catch this opportunity and miss that opportunity. This not only shows the realistic state of opportunity acquisition, but also shows that the interaction between social psychology and reality does not happen simultaneously. In a society that has solved the problem of food and clothing, people should be more calm, tolerant and relaxed. If this is not the case, then we must think about whether the way, sequence and procedure of obtaining opportunities are reasonable and fair.

Revealing the fraud of matchmaking agency 3 "The current matchmaking market is too chaotic, and the fees are varied. Matchmaking agencies use wedding support to collect money. This advertisement is not worthy of the name and is exaggerated. It is said that the actual service is difficult to reach the designated position. The respected matchmaking industry in the past has now become synonymous with immorality and fraud. " A few days ago, Zhang Hong (a pseudonym), an insider who has worked for 20 years, exposed the cheating tricks of the matchmaking industry to reporters.

Practitioners expose themselves: the chaos in the industry is getting worse.

Chaos: the fees are "varied"

Zhang Hong told reporters that it is reasonable to say that the matchmaking industry should be standardized after 20 years of development, but the actual situation is "increasingly chaotic", especially the issue of fees, and there is no unified standard at all. Taiyuan Celebration Matchmaking Industry Association announced the guide price of matchmaking service fee, of which the highest column fee does not exceed 6000 yuan. However, some matchmaking agencies in the provincial capital divide their members into different grades according to the amount paid, and set up gold cards, silver cards and diamond cards. The consumers who join the club are artificially divided into three or six grades, and the highest cost reaches tens of thousands of yuan.

Zhang Hong once received a female boss who opened a coal mine. She paid a service fee of 15000 yuan in a matchmaking agency in the city. As a result, the meeting object provided by the other party turned out to be a man who was not divorced. Nowadays, some matchmaking agencies have turned their attention to migrant workers in other places. Young people from other places often go to the door to ask for marriage only when they see the advertisement of matchmaking. It costs thousands of dollars at a time, but it is difficult to get the corresponding service. When they tried to refund the fee, they were rejected. In the end, they can only eat dumb losses.

Chaos 2: using wedding support to collect money

Matchmaking should be a beautiful industry for adults, but now it has become a tool for some operators to collect money. Zhang Hong told reporters that individual matchmaking agencies often use "professional wedding services" to deceive consumers, so as to maximize their operating profits. A middle-aged divorced woman met a wedding supporter in a well-known matchmaking agency in this city. When they met, the other party claimed to work in the public security system. As a result, after careful understanding behind the consumers, it was found that there was no such person in the self-reported work unit. Finally, the person in charge of another matchmaking agency in this city confirmed that the man she was dating had registered with them. Zhang Hong also revealed that he once heard such an explicit phone call from a matchmaker in a matchmaking agency: "There is a person waiting to meet, can you come again and give the number to the elder sister? "

Chaos 3: You didn't discuss it.

Zhang Hong said that due to the lack of strong supervision and guidance, the quality of matchmaking agencies is now "boasted" by their own mouths. Some matchmaking agencies claim that they have been "approved by the Civil Affairs Bureau" and "qualified", while others claim that they are "designated brand matchmaking agencies" in the industry. In fact, this is not the case at all. It is common for matchmaking agencies to publicize false names and exaggerate.

"Making money has become the core interest of some matchmaking agencies," Zhang Hong said. When consumers come to the door for the first time, they will feel that the "teacher" of the matchmaking agency is very enthusiastic, and they will talk until you pay the money. If you only pay a small amount of deposit, you will continue to receive enthusiastic calls from the teacher, saying that there is an object that fully meets your requirements waiting for you to meet in the past. When you go, the teacher will ask you to pay the remaining several thousand yuan service fee before you can meet. At this time, you are eager to choose a spouse, but you can only fall into the money trap carefully designed by the matchmaking agency. "When you don't pay for heterosexual information, which one is right for you? When you really want to meet after paying the fee, either this person has gone back to his hometown or that person is on a business trip, and consumers don't know whether it is true or not." Zhang Hong said that such a matchmaking agency was just trying to get your money.

The reporter asked: Unsupervised is the root of chaos.

City celebration matchmaking industry association is responsible for the self-discipline and standardization of the matchmaking industry in the city. The reporter also interviewed the person in charge of the association for the first time on the chaos of matchmaking. Zhang, vice president of the association, said yesterday that the chaotic situation of the matchmaking market in Taiyuan has been going on for quite a long time, and its fundamental crux lies in the lack of industry management methods and industry authorities. He also felt helpless that the association lacked corresponding binding force on some behaviors of matchmaking agencies.

Vice President Zhang told reporters that before 2004, the matchmaking market in this city was relatively orderly, because at that time, there was a department of the Civil Affairs Bureau specializing in the management of the matchmaking industry. However, with the cancellation of the examination and approval system of matchmaking industry by the civil affairs department in 2004, matchmaking has also entered an unsupervised vacuum period. At present, there are fifty or sixty matchmaking agencies in Taiyuan. Because there is no competent unit for daily supervision, the industry is mixed, and there is basically no threshold for entering the industry.

The relevant staff of the Marketing Department of the Municipal Administration for Industry and Commerce said: "According to the management functions of various government departments, the industrial and commercial departments are only responsible for the issuance and annual inspection of the business licenses of matchmaking agencies, and their specific business activities are not within our supervision. "In other words, we have no right to supervise the matchmaking industry."

Without a specific supervision department, the matchmaking industry is in chaos. Vice President Zhang said that in order to standardize the market, the Municipal Celebration Matchmaking Association and the Provincial Administration for Industry and Commerce jointly formulated a matchmaking contract. On the one hand, this contract regulates the behavior of matchmaking agencies, and on the other hand, it provides legal protection for marriage seekers when their rights and interests are violated. However, due to the lack of promotion by the competent authorities, this contract was only accepted by a few matchmaking companies.

Vice President Zhang said that although the national standard of "matchmaking service" has been issued, it is difficult to implement this good system without the promotion of the competent authorities. Even if consumers encounter matching problems, they have nowhere to complain.

Typical case: the suitor was cheated.

Speaking of the chaos in the matchmaking industry, the experience of Xiao Xia (a pseudonym), a 26-year-old Taiyuan marriage seeker, is very telling. 20 10 On April 24th, encouraged by her family, Xiao Xia got up the courage to walk into a well-known matchmaking agency in the city center. The teacher who received Xiao Xia was very enthusiastic. She said: "We have many men with good conditions here, including hospitals, banks and bosses. If you pay today, you can arrange to meet tomorrow. " Xiao Xia clearly told the other party that if he wants to find an account in this city, he must have his own house, and his height is over 1.7 meters. The other party said that their fees ranged from the lowest in 600 yuan to tens of thousands of yuan. The higher the price, the better the service and the higher the introduction level. Therefore, Xiao Xia chose a service of 2,800 yuan according to his economic situation, and paid the fee for joining the club.

On the second day after joining the club, the matchmaking agency arranged Xiao Xia's first meeting. Xiao Xia, full of expectation, ran to meet someone who didn't meet his requirements at all. Xiao Xia made it clear that he couldn't. The person in the matchmaking agency actually said: Idle is idle, let's talk for a while first. At that time, Xiao Xia was still thinking: Why did the matchmaking agency introduce her to a man who couldn't do it at first sight? Later, an insider told Xiao Xia that introducing some unqualified objects is a common trick of matchmaking agencies, so that you can gain trust without knowing it.

In contact with other members, Xiao Xia heard that some matchmaking agencies "only collect money, regardless of matchmaking agencies". Xiao Xia didn't believe it at first. As a result, apart from "meeting" the next day after joining the club, until May 2, the people in the matchmaking agency never contacted Xiao Xia on their own initiative. Xiao Xia asked to meet the male object advertised by this matchmaking agency, and a service teacher even said, "Is it really possible for such an excellent person to have a blind date?" Xiao Xia later discovered that after paying 2800 yuan to join the club, many services were not enjoyed. Even the propaganda of "meeting every Saturday" and "getting a membership card after joining a week" has disappeared.

Xiao Xia was dissatisfied with the service provided by the matchmaking agency and asked to withdraw from the meeting on May 8th. The other party said that you can retire for a while, and the money will not be refunded. Angry Xiao Xia immediately went to the matchmaking agency to talk face to face, and the other party confidently said, "The contract you signed says no refund." The non-refundable fee is clearly written into the matchmaking contract, and the other party is obviously prepared, which is obviously an unfair overlord clause. At this point, Xiao Xia realized that he had been cheated. In desperation, Xiao Xia had to call 1 10 to report to the police. Under the mediation of the police station, he got back part of the expenses.

Afterwards, Xiao Xia found all the illegal acts of this matchmaking agency on the Internet: the contract was self-made, not a formal contract between the Industrial and Commercial Bureau and the Taiyuan Celebration Matchmaking Industry Association, but only one contract was signed; The content of the contract is to the consumer in obviously unfair; After paying the money, only the receipt is given, and there is no invoice; The promised service is seriously inconsistent with the actual implementation.

Recalling this irritating experience, Xiao Xia still has a lingering fear. "Matchmaking agencies seize the eagerness of suitors to choose a spouse, artificially link money with the grade of the introduced object, and lure you to pay more money and get money unscrupulously. I no longer believe in matchmaking. " Xiao Xia told consumers with his own personal experience that in order not to harm their legitimate rights and interests and not to be cheated again, please carefully choose a matchmaking agency and sign a formal contract.