What is the internalization and transcendence of work itself?

When Maslow was studying "self-realization", students and professors kept talking to him, and they all wanted to work with him. However, Maslow is skeptical about their attitude, even very depressed and disappointed, and has no expectations for them. This is the conclusion reached after long-term practical contact with their half-tone fantasies. These people always talk big, draw big cakes and are enthusiastic, but when you ask them to study hard, they can't get any results. Therefore, Maslow directly explained his attitude regardless of any respect. For people who are half-toned (as opposed to workers and doers), he also directly shows contempt for them.

For those guys who have unrealistic impulses, Maslow often arranges things that look stupid on the surface, but are actually quite important and worth doing. Nine times out of ten, I failed the exam. Later, he found that it was more than just a test. If they fail the test, they must be put aside. He suggested that they join the Coalition of Responsible Citizens. Knock down those students who are strong outside and hollow inside, talk without practice, and have taken classes all their lives but have learned nothing.

This test is meaningful to anyone: you can know whether he is an apple tree-can he grow apples? Will he bear fruit? From this process, we can distinguish between productive and barren, between empty talk and practical work, and find out who can change the world and who is not.

On the other hand, it is about the topic of personal redemption. Maslow once held an existential meeting in santa rosa and talked a lot about this topic. He once retorted rudely, showing his contempt for those who sought salvation. Of course, the premise is that they are extremely selfish and useless to society and the world. In addition, psychologically, they are also stupid and wrong, because seeking personal redemption can not really achieve the purpose of personal redemption. The only way is revealed in the Japanese film "Desire for Life" (the work of Japanese director Akira Kurosawa): Only by working hard and devoting yourself wholeheartedly to what God and personal destiny call you to do, or any worthwhile and valuable work, can personal assistance be truly realized.

Maslow once quoted some heroes who were not only saved personally, but also received sincere concern and admiration from all who knew them. They are all excellent workers and have no complaints in their environment.

To put it simply, the act of realizing oneself by investing in important work is the only way to achieve human happiness (different from directly seeking happiness: happiness is an incidental phenomenon and by-product, which does not need to be pursued deliberately, but an indirect virtue return); Another way-deliberately seeking personal help, this way of cave introspection, is not feasible for anyone.

It is true that it may work for Indians and Japanese, but according to our past experience, it has no effect on others. Because, a happy person has accomplished what he thinks is valuable.

In addition, as mentioned in Maslow's works and previous articles, all the themes about self-realization emphasize this point: these people's transcendence motivation (self-realized employees will pursue higher-level needs after their basic needs are met, that is, seek the satisfaction of existing values, such as truth, goodness and beauty; Also known as growth motivation or existence motivation) comes from exceeding the needs, which come from the input, dedication and recognition of important work. This is true in all walks of life.

Otherwise, we can irresponsibly assert that liberation is a by-product of self-fulfilling work and self-fulfilling duty. The problem of young people in our society is that the concept of self-realization suddenly struck their brains like a lightning bolt, and they didn't want to realize it through their own efforts. On the other hand, they unconsciously think that self-realization means getting rid of prohibition and control and supporting willfulness and impulsiveness. I lost patience with them. These people are not persistent, persistent and can't stand failure. Obviously, the characteristics they identify with are just the opposite of the characteristics of self-realization.

Then again, there is absolutely no need to do this, thinking that efforts to eliminate self-awareness or self-awareness can achieve self-realization and transcendence. The work of self-realization is not only to seek and perfect self, but also a way to reach the realm of non-self, that is, the final expression of true self. It solves the difference between selfishness and selflessness, internal and external-because the purpose of self-realization has been internalized and become a part of self. Therefore, the world is no longer different from the self. The inner world and the outer world have been integrated, and there is no difference between subjective and objective.

We once talked to an artist in Dassault Hot Springs. He is a real artist, a real worker and a real winner, and his view on self-realization is very advanced. He has been urging Maslow's wife, Beta, to shape herself, dispel her worries and defensive psychology, and ignore any explanations or excuses from her, thinking that these arguments sound too fancy and high-profile. "The only way to become an artist is to work, work and work again." He particularly emphasized self-discipline, labor and sweating. He kept repeating a sentence: "It's better to do something with wood, stone or mud. If you think the work is not good, it is better to throw it away than to do nothing. "

He said that he would never accept an apprentice who hasn't done it himself for several years in a row, and he didn't forget to remind her when he said goodbye to Beta. He told her to go to work immediately after breakfast, just like a plumber who runs around for a living. He must go to work on time every day, or he will be fired by his boss if he doesn't do well. You should do this job with a serious attitude of making a living.

Obviously, he has a strange idea and speaks boldly. However, you must attach importance to him, because he has the characteristics of success-he is not a person who talks but doesn't practice. He revealed a simple truth: the only way to prove the value of life is to work, work and work again.

During their conversation, Beta put forward a very valuable research topic: Assuming that creative people like their own tools and materials, of course, this can be tested. The next question is: Why don't people create and work? Conversely, everyone has the motivation to create and work, including children and adults. This has been assumed, and now it is necessary to explain the prohibitions and obstacles. What hinders people's creative motivation?

Another direction of thinking: lack of motivation is a low-level motivation to meet basic needs, and the four needs other than self-realization belong to the scope of lack of demand. These needs are all due to personal deficiencies, and I hope to work hard to get them. After being satisfied, I no longer feel lacking. We always think that creators have special talents and talents, which have nothing to do with health and personality. But now there are two reasons: hard work and willpower. Some people are bold and arrogant and think they are artists, so they really become artists. Because he regards himself as an artist, naturally, others gradually agree with him.

If you think you are important to the world, you will naturally become important. You feel that you have become very important, which is equal to the internalized importance in your heart. This is also the way for human beings to overcome the existing shortcomings. If you fall down, get sick and can't work, it will have a great impact. So you must take care of yourself, respect yourself, rest more, don't smoke too much, don't drink too much, and naturally you won't want to commit suicide-this is very selfish and a loss to the whole human society.

When you come to this world, you are what the world needs and is useful. This is the easiest way to make you feel needed. Mothers with children usually don't think of suicide as easily as women without children. People in concentration camps usually undertake important tasks, live for a responsibility or for others, so they must live; Others give up on themselves, fall into a state of numbness, and finally die worthless.

The easiest way to build self-esteem is to make yourself an important person.

You can say loudly, "We are at the United Nations …" or "We therapists …". When you can say, "We psychologists can prove it …", you will naturally enjoy the glory and happiness and be proud of being a psychologist.

People's recognition and internalization of important goals and work can expand themselves, make themselves important, and make up for real human defects, including IQ, talent and technology.

For example, science is a social system that emphasizes the division of labor and develops personality differences-making people who are not creative become creative, making people who are not smart become smart, making people who are insignificant become great, and making people with limited abilities become miracles. Any scientist should receive basic respect, no matter how insignificant his contribution is, because he is part of a large-scale undertaking and must be respected for participating in it. In other words, he represents this cause, just like an ambassador (here is a good example: ambassadors from an important country are often treated better than those from stupid, slow-developing and corrupt countries, even though they all belong to human beings and have the same shortcomings).

The same is true of individual soldiers. A soldier from an army with great military achievements must be treated in the opposite way to another soldier from an army that often loses battles.

Other scientists, intellectuals and philosophers are in the same situation. Although they are all flawed individual forces, they are all important together. They represented a victorious army, social reformers and created a new society. They became heroes because they participated in the heroic cause, and they tried their best to make the little people great. Because there are only small people (at all levels) in the world, perhaps only the participation and recognition of important goals can make people feel healthy and have stable self-esteem.

This is related to Maslow's saying that "responsibility is a response to the objective requirements of the objective environment". "Requirement" refers to the desire for an appropriate response, that is, people are required to have a "demand character", which depends to a great extent on the self-conscious personality or temperament of the perceiver, making people feel a great motivation to do things well and a heavy burden on their shoulders. People of this character feel it necessary to revise those boring slogans. To some extent, this is the recognition of self-existence. In an ideal situation, there will be a phenomenon of isomorphism between mind and matter, which is a two-way choice between individuals and self-realization (goals, responsibilities, orders, occupations, tasks, etc.). Each task only needs one employee who is most competent for this task, just like the one-to-one correspondence between keys and door locks, and this person is also the most sensitive to this requirement, and can respond to this call and feel its call. This is an interactive and adaptive relationship, just like a pair of lovers and two close friends, each other exists because of the existence of the other.

What if someone refuses this unique responsibility? What if he doesn't accept this unique responsibility? Or does he not listen to any advice? Of course, we can say here that this is an innate evil or maladjustment. But just like dogs want to walk upright, poets want to be entrepreneurs, and businessmen want to be poets, everything is wrong, inappropriate, and even out of this field. Your behavior must match your destiny, or you will draw water with a sieve. You must surrender, you must surrender, and you must admit that you have been chosen long ago.

Some people may think that this is Taoist thought, but we think it is necessary to emphasize it. In Rogelik's X theory, responsibility and work are regarded as a barely tolerable burden. People are forced to do it because of some external morality, or because they are considered as "should" and "must", not because of natural will or free choice, so they don't feel any joy or comfort. But in an ideal situation-with healthy selfishness, the deepest and initial animal spontaneity and free will, and being able to listen to inner impulses, a person will take the initiative to control his own destiny, just like choosing a partner.

This kind of cooperation with one's own destiny-believing in the feelings generated by one's response to the other half-is like two people hugging each other in love. In the embrace and communication of love, the active and passive opposites are transformed and melted, which is the most ideal state. The difference between will and trust has also been resolved, the difference between the west and the east no longer exists, and free will and destiny do not conflict with each other. One is willing to accept one's own destiny. To put it better, he can realize that the predestined self is the true self, but it is not the same as the self under incomplete cognition and integration. This is a manifestation of self-love and acceptance of one's own nature. All things belonging to the same family blend together and enjoy integration more than separation.

Therefore, laissez-faire-not self-control-is the same as spontaneity, and it is also an initiative, but it does not oppose and break away from passivity, and even has no difference with passivity.

Therefore, identifying a person's sense of responsibility or work, like intercourse and hug in love, transcends all contradictions, opposites and transformations and becomes one. This also reminds me of Wang Dali and his "design of fate", which is to agree with the suitability, relativity and correctness of things because of conforming to fate.

It is very difficult and vague to apply this concept to the relationship between employees and work goals, but it is even more difficult to apply this principle to the relationship between two people who are suitable for marriage and two people who are not suitable for marriage. But one thing is certain, in the same fate design, one person's personality can be regarded as consistent with another person.

If work is internalized as a part of self (it will happen more or less, even if one party tries to stop it, the relationship between self-esteem and work will be closer, especially sound and stable self-esteem). We must establish a sense of value, glory, influence and importance through the internalization of important work. Perhaps most of the reasons for modern people's depression are that internalized work is disgraceful, mechanized and trivial. Whenever I think about my job, it is hard to feel proud, self-love and self-esteem. If you work in a chewing gum factory, a false advertising agency or a factory that makes inferior furniture, you will have the above psychology. "Real achievement" is the basis of stabilizing self-esteem, but this statement is still too simplistic and needs to be explained in detail. Real achievement represents a valuable and noble task, and doing a meaningless thing well is certainly not a real achievement. It can also be said: "What is not worth doing is not worth doing well at all."