Learn to accept your imperfect self (psychologically)

If you demand too much of yourself, too perfect and too strict, naturally you can't do it, so self-blame, worry and pain are just hard for yourself. At this time, you might as well be kind to yourself, learn to understand yourself, accept yourself, be kind to yourself and let go of yourself. Only by letting go of the burden can we move forward better.

As long as it is human, it will be imperfect.

We always have some shortcomings and deficiencies, and the present situation is not satisfactory, so we may be dissatisfied with ourselves or even blame ourselves too much. Of course, we need to grow and improve, but shortcomings and deficiencies are usually not corrected immediately, and the status quo will not change soon. Therefore, to maintain a good attitude, we need to accept ourselves first.

"Unconditional self-acceptance" is advocated by American psychologist Ellis, who is the founder of rational emotional therapy. Ellis suggested that people should learn "unconditional self-acceptance": an individual accepts himself completely and unconditionally, whether his behavior is wise, correct or appropriate, whether others agree, respect or love him.

Accepting yourself is not to feel that everything is fine, but to hold an objective and frank attitude towards yourself, clearly see your shortcomings and advantages, see your current situation realistically, learn to "understand" yourself, put down excessive standards and requirements, tolerate yourself, don't care too much about other people's eyes, accept your shortcomings and advantages peacefully, and accept the status quo. Just like accepting the heat in summer and the cold in winter, although the heat and cold are not satisfactory and beautiful, you can accept it calmly and live happily. In other words, if you refuse to accept it, you will struggle and worry about it, which will only increase your own difficulties.

Accepting yourself does not mean not seeking change, but knowing that change requires a process, accepting yourself first, and then gradually changing and growing with an eye to the future.