What do you feel is the most important thing when maintaining a long-distance relationship?

Some people describe their feelings when they are in a long-distance relationship like this: "It's raining in your city, and I really want to ask if you have an umbrella, but I held back because I was afraid that you didn't, and there was nothing I could do." I'm sure you feel the same way when you're in a long-distance relationship: envy the couples who often accompany each other, punch in at the nearby online celebrity restaurant hand in hand after work, get up every day to see each other at first sight, give her a sweet kiss, and more often, share all the joys and sorrows with each other at the first moment when you see something delicious and fun. But what about you? Obviously talking about love, but every day life is like being single, going to the movies alone, going home alone, cooking alone and living alone.

When you are sick, you can only take care of yourself by yourself, although the other person is also anxious. When you are wronged, you can only talk to each other through the screen, but you want to rely on each other more to have a perfect sense of security. Knowing that long-distance love is difficult, you still walk hand in hand without fear. You must love each other very much, right? A few days ago, I saw a video about the experience shared by dozens of couples from different places who have made a positive result. I especially want to share it with you who are in a long-distance relationship. How to deal with the relationship between two people, so as to get rid of the clouds and make this long-distance relationship have a good result?

Before the boys left, they agreed in Chapter 3 that they must trust each other and never cheat each other. Even if one of them changes his mind, he should confess to the other. In this way, it lasted for three years, and two people ended their long-distance marriage, giving this love a perfect full stop.

There is a question on Zhihu: How to maintain a long-distance relationship? Gao Zan's answer made the key point brilliantly. She said: "I think the most important thing for girls is' not to die', and for boys, the most important thing is' not to spend your heart'. There is also a biggest principle on this, which is mutual trust." This kind of trust is not something to talk about. Trust is just like your bank account. You should always deposit it in it, and you can withdraw it in case of problems. If you are an unreliable person at ordinary times, if you really encounter a misunderstanding, don't accuse the other person of not trusting you. A long-distance relationship is so fragile that it is an ambiguous text message, a photo, or if you lie about who you are with and she finds out that it is not, you can overdraw all the trust accumulated before. Therefore, the most important thing in long-distance love is mutual trust, and I firmly believe that I will never be in a different place after all through hard work, and I am sure that I can join hands with each other to grow old.

I once knew a couple of friends who were both very hot-tempered, and they were still in different places, one in Beijing and the other in Shanghai. Therefore, every time we quarrel across the screen, we will say many ugly words. What's more, the girl will break up, and the boyfriend at the other end of the phone doesn't know how to retain because of face. In this way, the two people are cold and hard, honing their confidence in each other. Fortunately, under the guidance of friends, they agreed to hang up once they quarreled, and then continue to talk when they were calm, but every time they quarreled, they were not allowed to spend the night. In this way, from the beginning, there would be some quarrels, and then they slowly held back their temper. Some people say that when you are angry, the anger that the other person can feel from the screen is 2%, because when you quarrel, your self-esteem is at work. Once you can't control your emotions, you will say many ugly words. The speaker is unintentional, the listener is intentional, and it is obvious that a hug can solve the problem, but it is a shame to die. Therefore, for couples in different places, it is ok to quarrel, and it is normal to have contradictions, but only if the problems of the day are solved on the same day, and don't let the quarrel and the cold war stay overnight.

Because two people in different places have their own busy things, they often neglect to communicate with each other, which makes their feelings diluted by time. Among those couples who can make a positive result in different places, I find that they all have one thing in common: they say good morning and good night to each other at regular intervals every day, talk to each other by voice, video and phone at regular intervals, and nag about daily trifles. Don't underestimate this trivial little habit. Compared with cold language, video and telephone can feel each other's joys and sorrows and care and warmth in tone. Even if they are not in the same city, their hearts are connected, so they have more confidence to go hand in hand.