Never make friends with people who have double standards

Many people believe that the best attitude towards getting along with others is to "be strict with yourself and be lenient towards others." It means being strict with yourself and being generous to others. From ancient times to the present, being strict with oneself and being lenient with others has been a fine tradition of the Chinese nation and a guideline for people to interact with each other.

Yes, this is a treasure of Chinese culture. However, as the times change and we grow older, what we see is that more and more people are living the opposite of this sentence." Be lenient to yourself and strict to others." There are two sets of standards for speaking and acting, one that requires tolerance for oneself and one that requires harshness for others.

This is the kind of double-standard people we encounter in life. They always talk nicer than they do. They have no upline for others and no downline for themselves. People with such double standards in life are the most annoying. When you meet such people, you will be so angry that you want to beat them up.

01. People with double standards like to preach to others, but do not restrain themselves

There is such a person who always likes to preach in front of his friends. If he is a successful person, there is nothing wrong with him. , it’s just that he is an ordinary person. My work is not active enough, my achievements are not great, and I don’t know how to recharge during holidays. I either sleep or play games.

But when he gets together with friends, he is full of energy, talking about how this person is so successful, how that person is so developed, and they all achieved achievements at a young age, and as peers, they should work hard. It turned out that those people were successful only with the help of their family members.

To talk about success without personal qualifications and family background is to be a hooligan. On the other hand, he himself is not successful, but he makes irresponsible remarks and teaches others. Where does he get the confidence? Many times, if you can't do it yourself, please don't give advice or ridicule others, as that will only make you look superficial.

There is a kind of person in life who knows he is not good enough but always lets others do it; he has high standards for others and low standards for himself. They don't really want to inspire others, but they want to use the aura of successful people to suppress the ordinary people around them, so as to improve their own status and satisfy their own vanity.

The essence of this kind of people is weak, hollow, and powerless. They are just fierce in appearance and soft in the inside, and the golden catkins are rotten in the outside. They are a pitiful group of people. In fact, there is no need to fight back against them. Their "show off" and "teaching" will gradually make them leave the social circle and become lonely.

02. People with double standards always have different standards for themselves and others. In dealing with people, it is often the case that I can do this, but you cannot. Whether it is between adults and children, especially between parents and children, or between lovers, people with double standards are always very common.

A man and woman have established a relationship, but the boy has completely different requirements for himself and the girl. After boys and girls get together, they still keep in touch with many members of the opposite sex, and even chat late into the night. However, it restricts girls from interacting with anyone of the opposite sex. This is a complete double standard.

There are also some parents who cling to their mobile phones every day, miss the mahjong table, and watch TV every day. However, they are very strict with their children, not allowing this and not allowing that. You must know that adults are role models for children. You can do things you think are harmful, but why don't you set an example for your children?

Just like the classic sayings of some scumbags: "I can hurt you, but you can't hurt me." Such words can be said and such actions can be done. How can people with such double standards interact with others? If we have good relationships, how can we educate people well? If you can't change such double standards, you have no right to judge others.

There is a double standard: I can do this, but you can't. This kind of double-standard people, based on the mentality of "only state officials are allowed to light fires, and ordinary people are not allowed to light lamps", forcefully add a burst of privileges to the relationship to make them superior. People with this kind of self-arrogance should ignore them and don't bother to interact with them.

03. People with double standards always attribute benefits to themselves and responsibilities to others

I saw a video where an old couple gave birth to a son and a daughter. In order to provide for their son to study, , let her daughter drop out of school and go out to work. The hard-working daughter met her boyfriend outside, and later they returned to the boyfriend's house and helped her boyfriend in his small workshop. The business was not prosperous, but her life was not bad.

When it comes time to talk about marriage, the old couple will temporarily add a 200,000 betrothal gift to the original 100,000 betrothal gift on the wedding day. Faced with the rude request, the boy's parents were reasonable and financially acceptable, so they agreed. The marriage was finalized and the girl got a perfect ending.

The reason of the old couple is that they have raised their daughter so big that they have to marry into someone else’s family and have children for someone else’s family. What’s the point of asking for more betrothal gifts? Not long after, his son got married, and the other party also asked for a gift of 100,000 yuan. However, he was scolded and said that he was selling his daughter, and in the end he was only willing to give 20,000 yuan as a gift.

There is always a type of people in life. Their standard for judging right and wrong is whether the matter is beneficial to them. If it is beneficial, it is reasonable, and if it is not beneficial, it is wrong. Keep all interests and benefits to yourself and put all responsibilities on others.

In the eyes of these people, there is no humanity or morality. As long as they do not violate the law, interests always come first. They are people who fall in the eyes of money. They are selfish, greedy, and have no bottom line. To reason with them is simply to play the piano to an ox. When you encounter such people, you must stay away from them and don't be disgusted by them.

04. Staying away from people with double standards is to protect yourself

Associating with people with double standards always makes people feel like they have swallowed a dead fly. There is nothing that such people can do Communicate well, they can only act recklessly and act rogue without a bottom line. They live by two sets of standards, always keeping the one that is beneficial to them to themselves.

I couldn’t help but think of a classic saying I once heard: “The conflicts between people today mainly come from a group of people who are accustomed to measuring others by the standards of saints and by the standards of bitches. He believes that people with double standards are actually sluts.

As a human being, you must either be strict with others and be strict with yourself; be generous with yourself and be generous with others; or be strict with yourself and be generous with others. Never use one set of standards to be lenient to yourself and another set of standards to be strict with others. People's hearts have a bottom line. Don't exhaust other people's patience and make yourself a person that others hate.