What do you mean by three books and six rites?

Three Books and Six Rites are the traditional marriage etiquette in China. "Three Books" refers to the documents used in the process of "Six Gifts", including letters of appointment, gift books and welcome books. "Six Rites" refers to the whole marriage process from marriage proposal to marriage. "Six Gifts" means accepting gifts, asking names, taking Ji, accepting gifts, inviting parties and welcoming relatives.

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"Three Books" are documents used in the process of marriage, which can be said to be an effective written record to ensure marriage in ancient times. It means:

Letter of appointment: namely letter of appointment. When Najib (a man and a woman are engaged), the man's family gives the book to the woman's family.

Gift book: a document used in the gift ceremony, which lists the items and quantities of the gift ceremony.

Wedding book: that is, the document to marry the bride. This is a document that the man gave to the woman when he came in to greet the bride.

Six rites

"Six Rites" are six rituals in the process of marriage, which refer to:

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When the children get married, the parents of the male family ask the matchmaker to propose to the female family they find. When accepting gifts, male families need to give about 30 kinds of auspicious gifts to female families; The woman's family also asked the matchmaker about the man's family at this time. Marriage customs of ancient Han nationality. It is very popular in many parts of the country. The first of the "Six Rites". The man wants to marry the woman, and the man sends a matchmaker to the woman's house as a gift. After being accepted, please ask the matchmaker to formally accept the bride's "gift selection". After the initial discussion, if the woman is interested, the man will send a matchmaker to formally propose to her family and bring a certain gift, so it is called. Goose is the only gift from Gunnar Chua Li. Naka is the beginning of all marriage procedures. The ceremony of accepting gifts in later generations basically follows the weekly system, while gifts have other provisions. Yi Li's Poems and Faint Rites: "Faint Rites are given orders and accepted. Use geese. " Zheng Xuan's Note: "If you want to marry him, you must first let the media family know what he said, and the woman will allow it, and then let people accept it." Its gift is a goose. Future generations gradually add gifts. In the Ming Dynasty, Chen Yan and her gifts were in the hall. In the Qing Dynasty, Chen Yi, a wedding guest, was invited into the palace. This book was fatal. The host received the book and sued the guests of the temple. The number of jewels collected by ordinary people is limited to four. [1] Customized at the beginning of Yongzheng, Han people get married, more than four items, limited to eight items of silk and satin jewelry and ten items of food. Less than five years old, less than two years old, less than eight years old. Military and civilian? There are only four boxes of silk and fruit. On the official wedding day, the official deacon was used, and there were 12 people with lights and drums. Among those who are not as good as officials, eight people carry lamps and drums. It is forbidden to waste money, and all officials and people are not allowed to use the gift cloud.

enquire sb's name

That is, after the woman's parents accept the marriage proposal, the woman's family will bring her daughter's age to the man's family, so that men and women are suitable and prosperous. The second ceremony of "Six Rites" in the Western Zhou Dynasty. The ceremony of "asking for a name" was first seen in Yili: "There are six ceremonies in marriage, namely, receiving a gift, asking for a name, Naji, soliciting, and welcoming a relative." He also said: "Ask the name: whoever asks the name will be blessed with good luck or bad luck." The Book of Rites Fang's Note also said: "If you ask the name, ask the girl's mother's name." When asking for names, use geese as gifts. "White Tiger Biography" Volume 4 "Marriage" says: "Take talents, ask names, take luck, invite the sun, and greet the wedding with geese. Zheng Na said it was Meng Xuan, so there was no need for geese. "

After the ceremony, the man asked the matchmaker to ask the woman's name, date and time of birth, so that the man could ask whether he was married and whether it was good or not. Or think that asking the name is that the man's messenger asks the woman's birth mother's surname to distinguish between true and false. The scope of the query after the name extends to many aspects, such as family status, position, property, appearance and health. When asking for names, you must also bring a gift, usually a goose. Betel nut is often used as a gift for ethnic minorities in Hainan, Guangdong and southwest China. The woman's wedding post and the man's birthday were divined, and it was confirmed that they could get married before the Najib ceremony.

Marriage etiquette is the second of the six rites. In other words, the man sent a matchmaker to the woman's house to ask her name and birthday. After getting Geng Tie back, Buji folded his character. Yi Li Shi Soul Li: "What's your name, Bin Zhi Yan?" Master Xu, the guest officer is seated. " Zheng Xuan's note: "Anyone who asks his name will have good or bad luck." Jia Gong Yanshu: "If you ask a name, ask a woman's surname."

Najib

(Also called Wen Ding): After receiving the inscription, put it in front of the good or bad luck of the gods or ancestors to make sure that the eight characters of both sides do not conflict. After learning that there are no signs of contradiction between the two sides, they have initially agreed to this marriage.

Zheng Na

(also called gifts): that is, male families send letters of appointment and gifts to female families. One month to two weeks before the wedding, the man's family will invite two to four female relatives (who must be Quanfu) to make an appointment with the matchmaker and bring the bride price, gift money and dowry to the woman's home; At this point, the woman needs to return the gift. Conscription: Marriage custom of ancient Han nationality. It is very popular in many parts of the country. The fourth ceremony in the "Six Rites". Also known as "South City". That is, Naji, the male family, sends dowry to the female family. Confucius said in the Book of Rites: "Taking scholars also takes money. Those who sign, become also. Hire money first and then get married. " After the ceremony, the engagement was formally established. Marriage customs of ancient Han nationality. It is very popular in many parts of the country. The fourth ceremony in the "Six Rites". Also known as "South City". That is, Naji, the male family, sends dowry to the female family. Confucius said in the Book of Rites: "Taking scholars also takes money. Those who sign, become also. Hire money first and then get married. " After the ceremony, the engagement was formally established. Eleven notes in the Book of Jin: "In the eighth year of Taikang, there were ministers playing: Wedding Picking, Wedding Tie Si, Jiajue, and Ma Eryi. Princes will collect silk, add treasures and ride horses. The doctor tied silk and Meng Xuan together and added sheep. " Gifts used in the Song Dynasty no longer follow the weekly system, and gold, silver and silk are of different grades. The dowry in Ming Dynasty advocated frugality. "Thirty-one Records of the Ming Dynasty" official wedding: "Take a sign as an auspicious instrument, add a mysterious book, tie silk, and write a book, without geese." The ceremony follows the song system: "The guest delivered a speech saying that an official pays more attention to a couple and follows the ceremony. If you have money that you can't avoid, you must dare to ask for it. " The person who presided over the wedding said, "An official should get a heavy gift, but some people dare not accept it." Guests should give a letter to the married, and the married should also give a letter. "In modern times, there is no name" Zheng Na ",but there is a gift, or it is combined with Nakai, or more called Nabi. 1920 yingshan county annals: "in ancient times, there were six major weddings, namely, receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, inviting people and welcoming them personally. Today, we only use gifts and coins. "

Invitation date

(also called begging day): It is a good day for the man to choose his marriage and get the consent of the woman.

Meet sb. in person

(or wedding reception): On the wedding day, the groom in full dress will personally go to the bride's house with the matchmaker, relatives and friends. Before going to the woman's house, the groom needs to pay a visit to the ancestral hall of the woman's house, and then send the bride to the man's house in a sedan chair. After the ceremony of offering sacrifices to heaven, land and ancestors, the male family was sent to the bridal chamber.

Bride gift return

An engagement present (from the groom to the bride's family)

When recruiting, male families need employment money, gift money and bride price.

Including: (even number-meaning "yes")

A pile of gift cakes

Seafood (choose the style and quantity according to the economic situation): Nostoc flagelliforme (required), abalone, oyster sauce, scallops, mushrooms, dried shrimps, squid, sea cucumber, shark's fin and fish belly.

Three livestock chickens (two pairs) and pork (3-5kg): one piece connects two pieces, which means "Qi Fei", fish (big fish or shad): two pairs of coconuts (which means fishy smell): which means coconuts and wine (four pieces).

Sijingguo: dried longan, dried peach and peanut bear fruit: that is to say, they are full of vitality.

Tea, sesame: I wish my son who can't grow. It is like an engagement mailbox (gift box): it contains two pairs of lotus seeds, lilies, green shoots, cypresses and coconuts, sesame seeds, red beans, mung beans, red dates, dried peaches and longan, as well as red bean ropes, profits, bride price, decorative gold, dragon and phoenix candles and a pair of couplets.

return a salute

When the bride is married, the woman's family needs to reciprocate, mainly including:

Tea bear, lotus root, taro and pomegranate (one pair each) He Wei towel and trousers: it means long life and wealth shoes (one pair): it means to go with old cypress, ginger, tea frying pile and muffin, and then hire a golden coconut (if you receive one, the rest will be returned to the man's family): it means to go all the way.