How to quit the glory of the king's addiction?

1. Aware of the "initial difficulties"

We know that "detoxification" is the most painful at first, because our dopamine secretion is driving us to do an act, but we are using willpower to give him a sudden stop. Similarly, when we want to give up a game, we also need to go through this difficult process. We need to struggle with our pleasure circuits and behavior drivers, so we have to bear great pressure and consume a lot of energy in this process. In this process, if we don't step on the brakes, we will be pulled directly to the temptation and then fail again in self-control.

Controlling the progress of your moderate game is like playing chess with yourself. Only when you know your next move can you make preventive corrections. When we know where our problems will occur, it will be easier for us to make effective improvements in this link. When we know that we are most prone to repetition and temptation in the early stage, we will concentrate more energy at that time to achieve the goal of self-control.

2. Reduce "moral permission"

Psychologists have found that some people who want to lose weight tend to indulge side dishes more when ordering light food on the staple food. This phenomenon is called "moral permission". This phenomenon often happens in our life. For example, after studying for a period of time, we will say to ourselves, "We have studied for so long, and reward ourselves with a game", but once this game starts, I think many people will fall into the strange circle of "one more game".

If we think we have self-control, we are actually making moral permission. Some studies on self-control have found that those who think they have self-control tend to trap themselves into more temptations. Figuratively speaking, most drowning people can swim. Because they think they can swim, they dare to go to dangerous places and swim further. People who can't swim are often more leisurely.

So many people who think they have self-control do not do better than those who have weak self-control. Because they think they have poor self-control, it is easier to uninstall the game and avoid temptation. Similarly, if you want to control yourself better, you can't expose yourself to more temptations just because you think you have self-control.

Looking for alternative behavior

We will find that many cigarette packages will be labeled as "smoking is harmful to health", but I don't think anyone will really quit smoking because of this sentence. On the contrary, people want to smoke more as a release of stress, because slogans cause anxiety. So, why did this sentence finally become an empty talk? The main reason is that the slogan lacks a reminder of alternative behavior.

It is difficult to change behavior patterns, and it is even more difficult to completely abandon a habit. If you want to get rid of a bad habit, you'd better look for alternative behavior at the beginning. This can reduce a lot of unnecessary self-consumption. Just like those who quit smoking successfully, most of them do not quit smoking directly, but reduce their smoking frequency by smoking e-cigarettes step by step.

Similarly, if you want to restrain yourself from playing the glory of the king, you don't need to suddenly stop all game behaviors, which will not easily bring about lasting changes. By controlling the frequency and time of your own games, you can achieve self-control step by step and be more sustainable. It has strong operability.