How do you tell your child that mom and dad are divorced?

Sasha is sitting on the sofa reading a picture book, and her mother is preparing lunch in the kitchen. At noon, the sun shines directly into the living room. Sasha's gentle and sweet voice is stronger than the penetration of sunlight, and her mother feels extremely warm.

Listen, there is no sound in Sasha's room. Mother is full of flour in her hand because she wants to make a birthday cake for the baby.

"What happened to Sasha?" Mother touched the little guy's forehead with her forehead to see if she had a fever or looked so ugly.

"Dad," Sasha bit her lip and uttered a syllable.

"You have no father." When Sasha sees the father in the fairy tale book, she will bother her mother with this question. My mother always answers with this sentence. Her heart is like knocking over a five-flavor bottle and crying in front of Sasha.

"The rabbit has a rabbit father, the dog Niu Niu has a dog father, and the duckling has a father. Why doesn't Sasha have a father? " Mother dared not look into Sasha's innocent eyes and turned to look out of the window without saying a word.

Parents' divorce is a very helpless thing, and the biggest victim is underage children. The child is innocent, but hiding or avoiding the fact that his parents have divorced will only make things worse and make the child more miserable.

As the saying goes, a lie should be compensated by a hundred lies. When parents use "you don't have a father {mother}", and your father {mother} doesn't want you, and your father {mother} dies, the child's doubts will deepen, and he will wonder if it is his reason that made his parents leave, so the child will feel guilty or become anxious. It will even affect children's future concepts of love and marriage.

In young children, we can also get infected from parents' emotions, such as Sasha's mother's silence and tears, which will make Sasha feel at a loss, but the problem remains, and the children are still seeking answers in their own way. This kind of parents' ignorance or white lies that attach too much importance to children's feelings will lead to the estrangement between parents and children. Once there is a forbidden area between anyone, their relationship will become subtle and cautious, and parents will lose the trust of their children because you don't trust him at all.

Parents don't have to worry too much about their children's endurance or lack of love in family education. For younger children, father or mother is just a playmate concept, and sensible children will accept this reality frankly. Only when parents are calm enough can children live a more sunny life!

Say divorce to children, just three sentences:

"There is a problem between mom and dad. It's not your fault. "

"Mom and Dad don't live with you, but they still love you."

"He is your good mother or father."

It is very important for children to tell them that they have parents and love them deeply. Not seeing your parents doesn't mean you don't have them. Regularly check the number or contact with the first half of your life and try to make up for the missing love. Colleagues should not indulge their children because they lack fatherly love or maternal love, or treat them as their own everything. Only an optimistic and active life of parents is the best education for children.