Let’s talk about what happened after the college entrance examination. Getting admitted to a prestigious school = reaching the sky in one step? Failure in the college entrance examination = failure i

Let’s talk about what happened after the college entrance examination. Getting admitted to a prestigious school = reaching the sky in one step? Failure in the college entrance examination = failure in life?

The college entrance examination has come to an end, so today I want to talk about the things after the college entrance examination

First of all, let me state that the following are my personal views and feelings, not about life. The mentor’s experience sharing, after all, I am just an explorer on the road of life, and I am not qualified to be everyone’s life mentor, but I am willing to share with you and grow together!

I don’t know if you have ever seen a movie called Youth Party. I remember there was this sentence in the movie at that time: After passing the college entrance examination, there are only two kinds of people in the world: "One is those who pass the exam; One is those who failed the exam. "Have you just finished the college entrance examination and feel the same way? Or this sentence can be changed to a more appropriate statement: After the college entrance examination, there are only two kinds of people in the world, those who do well in the college entrance examination and those who do not do well in the college entrance examination.

To those who have passed the exam ideally, first of all, I would like to congratulate you very sincerely and from the bottom of my heart! Because after studying hard for more than ten years in Hanchuang, you finally gave yourself an explanation for your hard work and the teachers who have high hopes for you, and brought your middle school years to a successful end! The efforts of these ten years have finally not been in vain, and I have finally achieved the ideal results. But at the same time, I also want to give you some small reminders, because I don’t know if some students still believe that the teachers around them before the college entrance examination Or other people may have said something similar to saying that everything will get better if you go to college. I remember that when I was taking the college entrance examination, during the 100-day swearing-in ceremony for the college entrance examination, our school would ask each class to put up slogans about struggle and inspiration related to the college entrance examination at the door of the class. Then I remember seeing a slogan in the corridor. The class post read: "Work hard for 100 days, and you will be happy for 50 years." At that time, I didn't know how everyone felt. Anyway, I didn't think carefully about whether it was true that after working hard for 100 days, and then passing the college entrance examination, I would be able to 50 years of happiness. Because at that time, I still had some illusions about life after the college entrance examination. Yes, that’s right, it was a fantasy. At that time, I felt that maybe after the college entrance examination, I might be able to live a new or more ideal life. Moreover, teachers used to always teach us that we must take the path we should take before we can take the path we want to take. At that time, we felt that the college entrance examination was the path we must take and the path we should take. After taking the college entrance examination well, we would You can take the path you want to take, but in fact it is not that simple. For most people, even if you worked hard in high school and took the college entrance examination, you may not be able to take the path you want to take. Thinking of the way to go. Even if you get into a prestigious school, many things may not be what you imagine.

First of all, there is a sense of mental gap, which mainly includes two aspects. On the one hand, there is a gap in expectations for the school. It is possible that many students are not satisfied with the infrastructure, management system, teachers, teaching and other aspects of the prestigious school. The expectations are relatively high, but after enrolling, you may find that many parts of the prestigious school are not as good as you imagined, and you will feel a sense of gap.

On the other hand, there is a gap in personal expectations. Students who are admitted to prestigious schools are all very outstanding students in their own schools or regions in high school, but prestigious schools are a larger platform and are elites. It is a gathering place where the students here are all excellent. You may not be as outstanding as you were in this large platform. This is another source of the sense of gap.

You may have also read about what it is like to be a bad student at Peking University and Tsinghua University? There are also articles like "I went to 985, 211, only to find out that I have nothing" and so on. Some people may think that these students are not satisfied after being admitted to prestigious schools; students from prestigious schools have said so, what about students from ordinary schools? Or maybe you think these people are pretentious or something, but in fact, because these students from prestigious schools are not in other schools, they have no way to feel the pain and troubles of their classmates in ordinary schools. They can only feel their own pain in their own circle. , so there may be the suspicion of amplifying my painful feelings invisibly, but at the same time, I also feel that these feelings are actually very real, and to a certain extent, they can also reflect some problems: it is not necessarily that if you go to a prestigious school, your life will be It gets better, but you may become more anxious. Therefore, for these gaps, the most important thing is to adjust your mentality. Everyone must have a certain psychological endurance to bear these gaps, that is, have an expectation for these gaps.

Another reason for confusion and anxiety is unclear goals and not knowing what you want. Especially when they first enter college, many students may still be in the state of high school. For example, in high school, everyone is basically doing the same thing, and they all follow the teacher's arrangements. Or some students just follow the crowd in high school, and I will do whatever my classmates do. Anyway, in high school, whether you follow the teacher's arrangements or be the same as the classmates around you, you will probably get a pretty good grade in the end. But just like the contradictions I learned in high school philosophy, there are always contradictions. In high school, the college entrance examination was the main contradiction. But after the main contradiction of the college entrance examination is resolved, other contradictions will be reflected. In the college entrance examination, Before, you had a very clear goal, which was to take the college entrance examination and get into your ideal university. But after you go to college, you may not be able to find your goal for a while, and you will become particularly confused and anxious. And it’s impossible to follow the crowd in college, because you may see everyone doing different things in college. If you don’t have a clear goal, you will feel that you don’t know what you should do.

Moreover, the evaluation criteria of universities are very diverse. They are no longer just based on academic performance like in high school. However, this does not mean that academic performance is not important. The competition for studying in prestigious schools is still very fierce, and if you If you still want to maintain good grades in a prestigious school, you may have to give up some other things, such as doing internships, doing practical activities, participating in club activities, etc. At this time, you need to weigh which one is right for you. More important? The importance may depend on your own interests or future goals.

Therefore, everyone still needs to think about the path they want to take in advance, because a clear goal can help us better balance the relationship between study and various internships and activities according to our own needs.

Compared with ordinary schools, better schools may have more opportunities, but this does not mean that all students from prestigious schools have these opportunities. Not everyone can participate in various high-end competitions and win various awards. Many opportunities still belong to those who are particularly outstanding. However, it is very difficult to get to the top of a prestigious school, so even if you are admitted to a prestigious school There is still a long way to go, and it does not mean that passing the exam will be easy. But here I am not complaining about the hard work of going to a prestigious school. I just want to tell everyone that you must be mentally prepared. If you want to wear the crown, you must first bear its weight. After being admitted to a prestigious school, you still have to continue to work hard. Part of this effort is to complete your current studies, because the reason why a prestigious school can be called a prestigious school is that its requirements in all aspects are higher than those of ordinary schools, so Of course, students in prestigious schools need to work harder than students in ordinary schools, but there is absolutely no intention to discriminate against ordinary schools. The other part of the effort is to make efforts for future development. If you want to go better and more If it's far away, famous schools only provide you with a platform. You still need to walk the road in the future on your own. Nothing in the world is fixed once and for all.

Then I also mentioned opportunities before. This opportunity may seem relatively abstract. You may ask what kind of opportunities are they? In fact, this opportunity covers a wide range of areas. I will give you two specific examples. For college students, getting a postgraduate degree and finding a job are two important opportunities. Let’s talk about postgraduate study first. Everyone will talk about the postgraduate retention rate of prestigious universities. Very high. In fact, after entering a prestigious school, you will find that its graduate school admission rate is not as high as everyone exaggerates. Although compared with ordinary schools, there are still relatively more places for graduate school admissions in prestigious schools, but it is not as expected. It is too high, and the competition is also very fierce, which is not comparable to that of ordinary schools. Therefore, don’t think that there are so many opportunities to get a postgraduate degree after attending a prestigious school, and think that most people can get a postgraduate degree. In fact, this is not the case. Most people still cannot get a postgraduate degree. The fact is: there are no opportunities. There are so many as you can imagine, but the competition is quite fierce.

Secondly, another important opportunity for college students is the opportunity to work. Students from prestigious schools have an advantage: there may be more high-quality job fairs held in your own school. However, opening in your school does not mean recruiting all students from your school. Whether you can get the ideal offer depends on your individual ability. To be more specific, it may include your student performance, competition and awards, etc. Projects, internship experience, etc. It does not mean that as soon as you graduate from a certain prestigious school and your school is very good, many better offers will be made to you immediately. This is not the case. Maybe only under the same conditions, students from prestigious schools will have some advantages. But finding a job sometimes involves a lot of randomness. To put it simply, this randomness involves luck. Because sometimes information is asymmetrical, if you don't get that information and someone else gets that information first, they may do that work first. Therefore, we can only say that the overall employment situation of students from prestigious schools will be better, but there are many other influencing factors for individuals.

Then let’s talk about those friends who did not do well in the college entrance examination. First of all, I still want to say a thousand-year chicken soup. Friends who did not do well in the college entrance examination must not be discouraged and must not feel Life is over. If you who are reading this note did not do well in the college entrance examination, you may think that these comforting words mean that your waist will not hurt when you stand and talk. But in fact, there are thousands of paths in life, not only the college entrance examination, but also the college entrance examination. If you do well in the exam, you will indeed be sad or even desperate, but you really must not despair. Many friends may ask whether they should re-study. This still requires specific analysis of specific issues. You need to analyze your own situation first. Is it because you did not do well in the college entrance examination because you did not perform well, or because you did not review well in the first place, or for some other reason. ? How much potential do you still have in high school studies? Can I bear the hardship of another year? Can I bear the risk of doing worse than my first year? If you encounter many problems during the rereading process, can you adjust your mentality in time? Is your family supportive? Wait, if after calmly analyzing these situations, you still feel that you can't get over this hurdle and feel that you can't give yourself an explanation if you don't get admitted to an ideal university, then it doesn't matter. You can listen to your heart and choose to repeat your studies. , give yourself another chance. Many people may tell you how hard and tiring rereading is. Rereading is indeed very hard and tiring, but don’t blindly magnify the difficulty of rereading in your imagination. But this does not mean to encourage everyone to repeat the exam, because there is indeed a great risk in repeating the exam. It is very likely that you will not do as well as you did in the first year after repeating the exam, and you may encounter many unexpected problems during the repeat exam, so You really need to consider many issues carefully before making a decision. If you choose to re-study, then stop thinking about regrets, adjust your mentality, and go on firmly. No matter what the result is, treat it as an experience in life. I have heard this saying before, life is either gained or learned. If you choose to re-study, don’t think about what will happen if you waste another year. Everyone has their own time zone, so just go at your own pace. But don’t be afraid to reread it and then be unable to let it go. This will make you very entangled and painful. Sometimes in life, you just let go of things that you should let go of.

Of course, if you don’t want to re-study, it doesn’t matter at all. There is still a long way to go in life. You can also study hard after going to college and then take the exam to become an ideal graduate student. Or you can do more internships at university to gain experience for future work. Or you can take all the certificates you want to take, or you can try to start a business. This does not mean that it is easy or risk-free to take postgraduate entrance examinations, internships, certificates, and start a business, but there is nothing in the world that is unnecessary What about hard work without risk? Anyway, the college entrance examination does not determine your life. Even if you do not do well in the college entrance examination, as long as you are willing to work hard, there are still many opportunities in life. Not all successful people graduate from prestigious schools, and not all graduates from prestigious schools are successful.

In fact, after the college entrance examination is over, there are not only two types of people in the world: those who do well in the exam and those who do not. Because the college entrance examination is not the only criterion for distinguishing people, the college entrance examination does not define us, and then I also I would like to give you a quote from teacher Zhou Guoping: “If you want something too much, you will regard it as very big, even so big that it becomes the whole world and occupies all your thoughts.

My advice is, in the end, no matter whether you get what you want, you must jump out of it in time and see its true position in the entire world, that is, its insignificance in infinite time and space. In this way, you won't forget about it if you get it, and you won't be miserable if you don't get it. "In fact, the same is true for the college entrance examination. Doing well in the exam does not mean that life will be smooth sailing, and failing in the exam does not mean that life will be gloomy.

Some of the friends reading this note may not have participated yet. For college entrance examination students, I want to say that this article is definitely not telling you that the college entrance examination is not important. The college entrance examination is very important, but it is not decisive. The college entrance examination is an important node in life, but it is not the end of life. There is still a long way to go. , if you pass the college entrance examination, you still need to continue to work hard. If you are not ideal in the college entrance examination, there are still many opportunities for change. As long as you work hard, you will be able to live the life you want! Okay, that’s it for today! If you still have any questions! You can tell me in the comments or private messages, thank you for reading!