A child with one child may not have a second child, but a daughter with one child must have a second child. What is this idea?

“It’s the same whether you have a son or a daughter, and a daughter is also the next heir.” Everyone who is a little older should remember this sentence! This slogan could be seen everywhere in rural areas in the 1990s. But, after decades, I didn’t expect that China’s patriarchal mentality is still so serious. Many people blame the excess number of boys and girls on B-ultrasound and believe that it is caused by B-ultrasound fetal identification. In fact, it is ultimately a problem of people's thinking. A few decades ago, Chinese people worked hard to have sons. Now, although it is better than before, the mentality of favoring boys over girls is still serious. Even among the younger generation of couples, they are still more inclined to have sons. Don’t deny that this is a fact. Many women regard having sons as a factor to consolidate their family status!

I remember ten years ago, when I first entered the society, sometimes my colleagues would get together to chat, and I found that those married women would talk endlessly when they talked about their sons, but almost No one talked about their daughters, so I said casually: "I found that all you married women have a problem!" Everyone asked "What is the problem?" I said: "Why do you all talk about your sons? I'm so happy, but I've never heard you talk about your daughter, how much credit you have for having a son." Although the eldest sisters did not admit that they favored sons over daughters, their expressions said it. Now, look at it now. There are only one daughter in the family, and a child who comes to the house has the same surname as hers. There are even only daughters who compete with their husbands for the surname of their children. This is actually caused by the idea of ????preferring sons over daughters. Nowadays, many girls are talking about taking their mother's surname when their second child is born. The reason is that men and women are equal. On the surface, the fight is about the surname. In fact, it is a kind of patriarchal mentality. If there is no son in the family, let the daughter pass on the surname. For example, an old cousin of mine was married to an only child, and they ended up having a lot of conflicts over the child's surname. So many people say behind their backs: "I didn't want to have a son back then, so I'll take over my surname after my daughter gets married." In fact, on the surface, these things have nothing to do with son preference, but in fact it is a different kind of son preference.

Back to the topic of the article, it doesn’t matter if you have a son or not, but if you have a daughter, you must have a second child. Don’t deny that this kind of thinking is common in modern society. This is What thoughts? Isn’t this just patriarchal preference? It doesn’t matter if the son has a second child or not. If the daughter has a daughter, then the second child will be a girl. To put it bluntly, the second child is completely for the son. After decades, this kind of thinking has not only not been eliminated, but has become more and more serious. It is just hidden. A relative of mine encountered such a situation. When she first got pregnant after getting married, the whole family believed that all children were their descendants. When visiting relatives, they met the seven aunts and eight aunts. They keep saying that sons and daughters are the same now, and some say that it’s good to have daughters now, and that it’s stressful to have sons. These are the things they say. At first glance, these elders are very sensible. When the aunt and the eighth aunt said this, the mother-in-law also started to say, she almost dug out her heart to show you, I really don't care whether you have a son or a daughter. How could a newly married woman understand the mouths and hearts of these seven aunts and eight aunts? She really thought that everyone didn't care. After the child was born, she was a daughter. After working hard in the hospital and returning home, the family should be happy. However, when the seventh and eighth aunts came to visit, their tone of voice made people angry. The eighth aunt said something to me, which means that the first child is a daughter, so you can try to have a second child to have both children. Young people can have children early while they are young, or they can not have a second child because if they have a second child, they can The pressure is too much if the baby is also a son. It doesn’t matter what the second child of your daughter is. I didn’t say that I wanted you to have a son, but the meaning is obviously that I want you to have a son. I have pity on my relative, who has just given birth to a baby and is still in the confinement period, and is really annoyed by the mood of these seven aunts and eight aunts. It is really the same before birth and the same after birth. It is said that in the end, my relative cried aggrievedly in front of her husband, blaming those seven aunts and eight aunts for not being able to take care of their own affairs and have no time to take care of other people's affairs. The idea of ??favoring boys over girls is so deep-rooted!

In the end, although everyone does not admit that they have a preference for boys over girls, most of them still aim to have a son when it comes to childbearing. The feudal bad habits that have existed for thousands of years have been deeply ingrained and penetrated into people's blood. It is impossible to completely eliminate these bad habits in just a few decades of social development.

well! It seems that getting married in 20 years will be more difficult than it is now!