Scientific positive discipline guides children to enrich festivals —— A letter to parents and friends before the Spring Festival in the Year of the Tiger

Dear parents and friends: Hello everyone!

On the eve of the Year of the Tiger, on behalf of all the teachers in Qiao Yuan, I wish you a happy Spring Festival and a happy family!

The Spring Festival is a traditional festival of the Chinese nation. There are many traditional customs in northern Shaanxi, many of which are unknown to our children. Then, let me tell you how to guide your children to have a beautiful and fulfilling Spring Festival!

First, adhere to positive discipline.

1. Give children a chance to express their views. Opportunity is the platform. Karl witte educates his children-Carl Jr. with positive discipline: Witt encourages Carl Jr. to ask more questions and try his best to answer them. He told his son the cause and change of things in the form of discussion, and he would try not to give a general answer, because his main goal was to impress little Carl with everything. Unlike most parents, he never tried to lower the level of conversation to suit his son in ordinary walks and conversations. He believes that language is a tool for thinking, so he points out that every child should learn to express his ideas clearly, fluently and comprehensively in his mother tongue as soon as possible. From the father's point of view, the most crucial step in Carl's education process is to learn the accurate pronunciation of letters and words in an all-round way and their accurate application in different contexts. At the same time, Witt also stressed that anyone who talks to children, including mothers, nannies and visitors, should carefully choose the form of speech. Under such strict and prudent family education, it didn't take long for Carl Jr. to show his outstanding intellectual ability. In addition, he also showed a love for knowledge that was not commensurate with his age. When he was less than seven years old, everyone who knew him was surprised by his rich knowledge, which was due to his early education. His logical thinking ability, comprehensive and accurate understanding of many things and proficiency in language use left a deep impression on everyone. In this way, Witt Jeancard fully expressed his views or gave Carl the opportunity and power to speak, and Jeancard spoke in his own language and mother tongue (mother tongue), which not only exercised his logical thinking ability, but also his language expression ability.

2. Make friends with children. Children's world is rich and colorful, which is completely different from our adult world. Only when they really become friends will the children speak to us. When children talk, we must listen patiently and carefully before we can communicate. We must not let the child talk for a long time without any response. In the long run, children will not communicate with us, and the parent-child relationship will become awkward. As children grow up, we don't know what children are thinking, the "gap" will get deeper and deeper, and the relationship will get farther and farther. Japanese writer Tetsuko Kuroyanagi tells the story of Xiao Doudou in Xiao Doudou by the window: Xiao Doudou likes to drill barbed wire, and his clothes are often cut as a result. Once, his clothes were badly torn, and Xiao Doudou lied to his mother that "he was stabbed by someone throwing a knife from behind." I think any mother can realize that this is a lie, and the key is how to deal with it. When Xiao Doudou's mother heard this sentence, she simply said, "Really? That's really scary. " My mother actually thought to herself, "Xiao Doudou is really a good boy", because she thought Xiao Doudou lied and found an excuse to lie to herself, because she was very concerned about this dress and didn't want to break it. When Xiao Doudou saw that his mother didn't blame him, she was very gentle, so Xiao Doudou told her the truth, and her mother's reaction was "That must be very interesting". As a result, Xiao Doudou talked endlessly about his drilling barbed wire. Seeing Xiao Doudou so excited and happy, my mother actually felt that "for adults, it is not fun at all, but it will only make people very tired, but children can have such a good time, and I really envy them ..." Thus, Xiao Doudou's mother is not only gentle, patient, but also empathetic, willing and able to stand on the side of children and feel happy for their novelty. When children are willing to tell themselves, they will listen attentively with empathy, and when children are unwilling to tell themselves, they will not get to the bottom of it. This is Xiao Doudou's mother, and this is the way and advantage of making friends with children!

3. Scientifically handle children's faults. "Wrong" For a child, he may not know at all, let alone "where is wrong". At this time, we must never scold or even beat the children. We need to "analyze" how adults view this matter. In the adult world, children's behavior and language are inappropriate, and even hurt others. Only in this way will the children believe in our words and realize that "so it is!" . When Mr. Tao Xingzhi was the principal, one day he saw a boy hitting his classmate with a brick, so he stopped him and told him to go to the principal's office. When President Tao returned to the office, the boy was already waiting there. Tao Xingzhi took out a candy for this classmate: "This is a reward for you, because you got to the office before me." Then he took out another candy and said, "This is for you, too. I won't let you hit your classmates. You stopped it right away, which shows that you respect me. " The boy took the second candy in doubt, and Mr. Tao added, "As far as I know, you beat your classmate because he bullied girls, which shows that you have a sense of justice. I will reward you with another candy. " At this time, the boy was moved to tears and said, "Principal, I was wrong. If my classmates are wrong again, I can't take this approach. " Mr. Tao then took out another candy: "You have admitted your mistake, and I will reward you with another piece." My candy came out and our conversation was over. "Thus, in cultivating students' moral character, the effect of persuasion is much better than that of rough treatment under traditional education. Punishment and criticism can only be effective in the short term, and often punishing children will also cause children's rebellion, revenge, self-abandonment and other consequences. Therefore, as parents, when children make mistakes, we should encourage them to learn from them. Mistakes are not terrible. The key is to know that mistakes can be corrected. We should be more patient, less impatient, more tolerant and less reprimanded.

4. Praise at any time and criticize regularly. Excellence is boasted, not scolded. Karl witte taught young Carl this way in positive discipline: When Carl worked hard, Witt would say, "Yes, this is your duty, and I am very satisfied with you!" Then tell his mother or other friends what he did. However, when Carl does something meaningful, Witt will tell his mother, good friend or himself what he has achieved with great joy, even some sacred feelings. In short, in Witt's mind, he instilled the idea that happiness in the world can be bought through hard work, and people's satisfaction can be obtained through noble behavior. However, in order to get money, Carl must do his work beautifully, and money is the reward for his work. If he doesn't do a good job, he can only get a little money, and he knows very well that even that little money is not what he deserves, just a little recognition of his efforts. When neighbors have unfortunate experiences, Witt will help them in his own unique way. He will never ignore Carl's threesome, 5p or 9p. On the contrary, he will accept it solemnly in the name of the person he supports and thank him every time. Then I handed it in intact. On the donation form, his pennies will be written side by side with Witt of 20 yuan, and Witt will explain to Carl that they pay the same amount. However, even if Carl does a wonderful thing, but violates the higher moral requirements, he will not be rewarded. If the mistake is small, Witt will say, "If you can work as hard as you do today and do well tomorrow, I will give you today's money together. "Usually he is the most strict with him. Carl never complained about the punishment, but he was sad that Witt was worried about his wrong behavior. It can be seen that the best education is positive encouragement, and it is more effective to give encouragement when doing the right thing than to punish and encourage mistakes. Encouragement is to acknowledge the achievements and sense of responsibility that children have made in their efforts, and to make children feel valuable with respect and appreciation. The long-term effect of encouragement is to make children more confident!

Second, bring the wisdom of the Spring Festival to children.

1. Make a scientific schedule to ensure early to bed, early to rise and adequate sleep. Get up at 7:00-7:30 in the morning, rest at 2 1: 00-2 1: 30 in the evening, and take a nap at noon (12: 30-13: 00) for 20-30 minutes. The schedule of primary schools will not change much. "Early to bed and early to rise, full of energy" is an old saying, which is also scientifically based. It is a "physical hygiene habit" necessary for children's brain development and intellectual education. Taking a nap for half an hour at noon, primary school can't see its importance, and junior high school is too important. Children in junior and senior high schools usually get up at 6 o'clock at the latest, study at 2 1:30 in the evening, and start doing their homework around 22: 00 when they get home. When do children usually go to bed? We have examples around us. Parents of middle school students at home know more about their sleep. Half an hour at noon, catch up on sleep, so as to have a good study state in the afternoon (not sleepy), and there are not a few students who study by themselves at night (in the classroom). Therefore, the habit of taking a nap for half an hour should be developed from primary school.

2. Take the children for a walk in nature and chat. There are too many mysteries in nature, which we adults have become accustomed to, but more than 90% of children don't know (plant names, habits, families, animal names, habits, families), and there are natural phenomena caused by the alternation of natural seasons, which children don't understand. Talk to the children while walking. If possible, let the children (6-7 years old in our school) imagine "graffiti" when they get home, and listen to the children talk about their graffiti (that is, the operation method of picture books in the school). In Positive Discipline, Karl Witt enjoys nature through various trips to Jeancard. Whether in Harley, Leipzig or Mazeborg, wherever Carl goes, he will seize every opportunity to observe rare birds and animals and all kinds of things worthy of careful observation and experience. The sea, the furnace, the engine of the steam engine, the air pump, the basalt and the crater-shaped hole on the top of the mountain all provided Witt with the opportunity to introduce and impart natural science knowledge to Carl. Even at home, a drop of dew, barometer, thermometer, crackle when the stove is fueled, water vapor on the window glass, etc. You can tell it to the children. Carl's instruction to learn geographical knowledge begins like this: Witt took Carl around at an early age for every village that can be seen at the top of the tower. If the weather is fine, Witt will take a pen and some paper and take Carl to climb the tower. First, draw the general outline of the village in the middle of the paper in an appropriate proportion (usually drawn by Calbi Witt), and then draw a point on the paper to represent the nearest village-Libennau. Other villages that can be seen will also be drawn in the corresponding position on the paper, and the name of each village will be marked on it. Salle River, elster River and other rivers, as well as forests, grasslands and fields, are all marked in red on the map. When finished, I will show the pictures to Carl's mother and ask her to grade them and write comments. Then, climb to the top of the tower again and draw a map that is at least correct for them very carefully. Then, take out the standard map of Salle District and compare it with this map, and modify the map according to the standard map. The purpose of this is to form a correct concept about geography for Jeancard and arouse his interest in geography. Every time he comes back from a trip, Carl can tell and mark the general location of his place on paper. Nature is an endless treasure house of children's knowledge and the best soil for early education. Facing nature, they are shocked, awed, admired and yearning. Even the roads, books read, mountains climbed and rivers crossed in the future are forgotten with the growth of age, but the vision and pattern brought by the beauty of nature are hidden in the hearts of children and precious with the growth of time.

3. Watch Animal World, Poetry Conference, Idiom Conference, Chinese Dictation Conference, Reader and appropriate documentaries with children.

It is better to watch TV dramas and cartoons than to play games, and not to play violent games. The plots of TV dramas and cartoons are fixed, and children only watch without thinking, and their thinking is not trained. While playing a game in a certain situation, the game process is not fixed. Children should think and train their thinking, but they must manage (control time and management type). In Positive Discipline, Carl Witt tells how he plays games with little Carl: Carl has many small kitchen utensils to play with. In the kitchen, when Carl watched Witt prepare the meal, Witt explained everything to him. This attracted Carl and prompted him to imitate Witt with toys. Witt helps him, guides him, and gives him more and better guidance on all kinds of things with this game. Later, I bought Carl all kinds of containers, just like I did in the kitchen, and asked him to hold sand. Carl called the sand in the middle container flour, and the sand in other containers rice, salt, milk and so on. After this, he will choose whether to be a mother or a cook. If he chooses to be a mother, he can order what he wants, and then Witt will ask him some questions. If he can't answer correctly, he will no longer have the command and have to be a chef. Then Witt will be in charge, and Witt will tell him what to make this dish and what to make another dish. For example, he must find some vegetables in the garden to make soup. If Carl can't remember what Witt told him several times or find the wrong dish (which often happens at first), he will be fired, and Witt will tell him the reason for firing him. After that, he can't be a cook right away, so he can only help in the kitchen. They often play games together, so that Jeancard can form a correct concept of many scenes in life. Playing with children is a relaxed and pleasant thing, which can awaken, guide and stimulate children's potential strength, and as long as the method is correct, we can almost turn everything in life into toys with high educational value.

② Watch Animal World, Poetry Conference, Idiom Conference, Chinese Dictation Conference, Reader and other programs with children. After reading, let the children talk and we will listen.

4. Make necessary review and arrangement. The basic knowledge, basic skills and learning methods of various disciplines should be reviewed and consolidated regularly. Children (6-7 years old) are easy to forget. German psychologist H.Ebbinghaus found that forgetting begins immediately after learning, and the process of forgetting is uneven. At first, what we remember will soon be forgotten. We can forget 42% in just 20 minutes, almost 80% in one day, or even all of them. But if the time is longer, the forgetting speed will start to slow down. Memory can be divided into long-term memory and short-term memory At first, our memory was short-lived. How to turn it into a long-term memory? It needs to be repeated constantly to create a new forgetting curve. The more times you review, you can turn this short-term memory into your long-term memory.

Third, prepare for school.

1. Take care one week before school starts. If the child's holiday schedule is irregular, it must be corrected.

2. Preparation of learning tools. 4B pencils (just bring 2-3 pencils every morning and afternoon, no need to bring more, children lose pencils because they don't cherish, don't cherish, and form a habit); Rubber (a piece, shaped like a block, not grotesque); Stationery bag; Thermos cup (be sure to put it in the side pocket of your child's schoolbag, and consider the thickness and size to prevent the cup from hanging around your neck); Schoolbag (not too big, backpack).

3. Mental preparation. When children are nervous, help them analyze the causes of tension and then find corresponding solutions according to their actual problems. For those who are not satisfied with their studies, parents may wish to make a suitable and suitable study plan for their children to urge them to study better in the new semester; For children who have conflicts with their peers, we can reflect on the mode of getting along with them and help them find out the problem. ...

Fourth, insist on reading exercise-the most important thing is to read nursery rhymes, children's songs and picture books in grade one, nursery rhymes and picture books in grade two, and try to read the whole book (if children have difficulty reading or don't like it, they must not read it before grade three). Keep reading every day, or … "DuDu"!

Skipping rope and doing sports every day. At the end of the holiday, the second grade children jump rope 100 times/minute, and the first grade 80 times/minute is the best. Also teach children to "kick shuttlecock" (a third-grade sports event).

On the occasion of the Spring Festival, I hope to encourage your children to continue to face life with a studious, realistic and serious learning attitude and a positive attitude of self-reliance and self-motivation, and make unremitting efforts to achieve their goals! Finally, I sincerely wish you all a happy New Year, all the best, happy families, smooth work and good health!

Your child's principal teacher: Wu Zhiren.

65438+20221October 28th