Reading Notes on Developing Self-discipline

Chris, the author of this book, is a great man. He achieved a counterattack from a small city in the eighteenth line to starting a business in the imperial city through self-discipline. His great achievements are particularly numerous. For example, he was hit by the interview and spent half a year learning various interview skills. He changed from a "weak interview chicken" to a "super scholar"; For example, because I am not satisfied with my bloated figure, I quit sugar, oil and staple food running, and lost 20 pounds in 30 days to complete the marathon; For example, he insisted on getting up early after 4 am for more than ten years. ...

Such people talk about self-discipline, which is particularly worth seeing.

As for self-discipline, the author thinks that self-discipline is just a tool, a tool to achieve life goals. Self-discipline is not the ultimate goal. As a tool, as long as you know it, understand it, use it and master it, you can make the tool serve your wonderful life.

The author divides self-discipline into five systems: motivation system (cognitive breakthrough), action system (action breaking ice), achievement system (ending breaking ice), balance system (dynamic balance) and growth system (continuous evolution).

In the first system-motivation system, the author suggests writing his own life basic law from four aspects: life mission, life goal, life principle and life strategy. After a whole period of special meditation, write down the basic rules of life and provide motivation and internal drive for self-discipline. Think about it. If you died at the age of 80 and had the opportunity to go back decades and start over, how would you restart your life? This system is very important, it is a way of self-discipline, and the rest can only be regarded as self-discipline.

The second system, the action system, the author puts forward the ORK method. O is an object, a goal. Rk is the key result, the key result. What work must you do in order to accomplish your goal? In other words, as long as you complete KR, you can definitely reach O. In my opinion, this is an upgraded version of goal decomposition. I have heard of the book okr Work Law in Fandeng's reading club before, but because I have not studied it carefully and paid no special attention to its case, I only stayed at the stage of understanding the term okr. And by reading the detailed case of Uncle K, let me pay attention to this method again.

Second, full of passion. For example, I want to be a supermodel instead of losing weight. In short, I want to describe your goal with words that will make your blood boil.

Third, it is challenging. In this respect, I think it should be similar to that advocated in Flow. The goal set should not be too difficult or too simple, just stand on tiptoe and work hard to achieve it.

Secondly, the setting of key results is also necessary!

Heart. We must grasp two key words. Only in this way can we be targeted and spend our time and energy on the most important and easiest places to achieve results. The setting of key results needs to be studied, and every okr needs to be studied carefully. This reminds me of what Li Xiaolai said. If you want to do something, you must first see if anyone has done it. Secondly, study how they are made. If you use it here, it can become, when you set OKR, you can see who did it and how. In the book, the author teaches you how to set up okr: The first step is to find out what 108 wants to achieve most. Second, find out the key results corresponding to the goal. Third, the task is decomposed and executed. Fourth, weekly resumption and regular review.

I have been writing for nearly a year, but many copies are mere formality. The author summed up the essence of the resumption in four words: finding fault and praising. This tells us that the resumption is not only a record, but also a reflection and accumulation of experience. At the same time, we should also summarize and accumulate some templates of things, or call them routines. This routine is a framework, a process, an experience, a mode of thinking, and an artifact that can be directly used when encountering similar problems, which can simplify complex things.

In addition, the tomato clock working method mentioned in time management should be practiced in the future. I have heard this term many times, but I have never practiced it. I'll try next week.

The third system, achievement system. The author introduces the system from three aspects: positive feedback, concentration and micro-habit.

Positive feedback: the importance and psychological basis of positive feedback are no longer strange to many people, but how to actively design and make positive feedback work for us? The author lists four steps.

First, set quantifiable key results. The keywords here are quantifiable.

Second, set quantitative achievement milestones.

Third, establish an incentive mechanism.

Fourth, insist on tracking and continue to re-quote.

In the process of doing these four points, at the same time, we should pay attention to believing in the power of holding a group and use our imagination to reward.

So many descriptions are actually for cognitive positive feedback. If you don't want to know why, you can directly apply the personal achievement feedback system template. This template is the most important dry goods in this chapter.

Concentration: this is also a cliche. The method is to keep mindfulness, be stingy with cognition and reduce choices. Concentration is not always available, but it can be consumed, so do what needs concentration most at the best time.

Micro-habit: I have heard the book Control Habits before. Remember the four skills of forming good habits: obvious, irresistible, simple and pleasant. But the operability is not strong. The author of this book directly lists eight steps to apply micro-habits to our lives: first, choose a micro-habit.

Second, tap the intrinsic value of micro-habits.

Third, put micro-habits on the agenda.

Fourth, establish a return mechanism.

Fifth, record and track the completion.

Sixth, micro-start and overfulfilled.

Seventh, obey the arrangement, please have high expectations.

Eighth, pay attention to the micro-habit development logo.

What touches me most is the habit of starting small. For example, to stay healthy, start with one sit-up every day. Yes, not much, just one. According to the principle of micro-habit, it is much easier to implement the "battle years" plan I made. I believe it won't be long before I have such good micro-habits, which will gradually trigger other chain reactions.

The fourth system: the balance system. First of all, balance is the balance of life, body, intelligence, emotion and wealth. The second equilibrium state should be dynamic equilibrium. Balance does not require that everything should be divided into autumn colors at any time. Second, it means that the whole system can have different emphases in a certain period, but it seems to be balanced in a certain period. Third, balance is a three-dimensional balance of thinking, learning and action. Thinking determines cognition, cognition determines action, action determines result, and result determines fate.

This chapter also mentioned energy management, which is divided into physical energy, emotional energy, thinking energy and spiritual energy.

The fifth system: growth system. Three modes of thinking, cross-border thinking, borrowing thinking and potential thinking. Be as close as possible to the person you want to be, even if it's only physical distance. Take the initiative to link and find a life mentor. Take the person you want to be as a benchmark, see how he thinks and chooses, then analyze the logic and reasons behind it, and in turn check whether you need to adjust.

Writing here, it suddenly occurred to me that, in fact, targeting cattle people should not be just a slogan, but should form a routine and quantify it.

The growth system requires lifelong learning and requires people to constantly adjust their growth with a modest, open and positive attitude.

This book brings a good book:

Miracles of mindfulness, micro-habits, the power of habits, strange life, roads that few people take, principles, the meaning of life, life methods, anti-vulnerability, thinking technology, strong work, gentle life, everything can be done just because there is no time, how to measure your life.

The wonderful power brought by this book (TV series):

This is us, fighting, rich brothers and poor brothers.

A good case or sentence in this book:

1, micro-habit, the extraordinary transformation caused by the author's push-up every day.

Teacher Li Xiaolai said: You can write the first message today and the second message tomorrow. You can write one sentence today, two sentences tomorrow, and finally become a paragraph, an article, etc. Everyone's growth is accumulated bit by bit.

Most people overestimate their ability in one year and underestimate their ability in 10.

A good tool or thinking model for this book:

1. Reply: Find fault+like it.

2.Okr rules

3. pomodoro technique

4. The importance of routine

5. Achievement milestone design template

6 automatic driving

Reflections on this book

It is really important to study with a positive, open and down-to-earth attitude. I remember the first time I read this book, I read it quickly and glanced at it. Because I had learned a lot about it before, I just flipped through it. It was not until I read it for the second time to write notes that I realized that this book was worth practicing seriously. Yes, yes, many things in the book are not new, but have you practiced this knowledge and put it into action? The simplest example is that many places are shouting examples, mixing circles, benchmarking cattle people, approaching cattle people and becoming cattle people. Are these slogans realized in "How to benchmark"? It is useless to know too much truth without practicing it, which will only make people blindly confident or doubt the usefulness of reading.

About dry goods: I finally understand why I have to talk so much and give so many examples instead of serving dry goods directly. The human brain likes stories and knows why. First what, then why, then how. How about the so-called dry goods? More than half a year ago, I was exposed to the knowledge of dry goods such as Tik Tok powder absorption method, and my husband also said that this was a slogan. However, because there are no stories and my friends around me have nothing to do, I have no interest and motivation to learn. Until recently, someone around me really started Tik Tok, just thinking, hey, good, I can do it myself. This is enough to show that the sensibility of the brain is far greater than rationality. I can think so now. Before writing dry goods, there are so many words just to satisfy the sensibility of the brain and mobilize the emotional brain before opening dry goods. This leads to another part of the practice of psychological knowledge, how to mobilize the mood of the brain? How to be a better elephant rider?

This book is very operable. To this end, I decided to set my own settings according to the author's various templates:

1, write the basic laws of life.

Life mission: According to the advantages and actual situation of Geplo paid some time ago, it is tentatively set as: combining study with travel, combining play with study, influencing more children, including sons, to have a wonderful childhood, better family education and a more optimistic and happy personality.

Life goals:

Health: I am healthy (I won't feel pain when I am old, I can climb Mount Tai, and I am in good spirits. Just like Mr. Zhong Nanshan, who is 83 years old, I can still make contributions to the society. Well-proportioned, excellent temperament, comparable to Tamia Liu, Angie Chiu, wear anything good-looking, no swimming ring. Good skin, good state, good energy, can run a marathon, beautiful)

Intelligence: cognition is constantly expanding and thinking is constantly upgrading. Clear, penetrating, intelligent, humorous, philosophical, eloquent and eloquent. High EQ makes people comfortable.

Emotion: love: correctly handle the relationship between husband and wife, communicate nonviolent, reduce the desire for control, and don't try to change others.

Affection: the son is well educated and accompanied, balancing the degree of pampering and picky, not a bad reviewer.

Friendship: three or five friends, till death do us part.

Wealth: financial freedom. Living a life with a nanny, a small garden, traveling everywhere and other American dramas.

The meaning of life: money is not the only thing. There is love. Valuable. Mindfulness. Reduce desire. A contented mind is perpetual feast.

Life principles: lifelong learning, initiative, kindness to others, moderate kindness, win-win, extreme altruism and contentment.

Life strategy:

Text: Please refer to the "Battle Years" plan for details.

Intelligence: reading books, communicating with experts, watching movies, thinking more, outputting and inputting. Different opinions about Hauser. Keep a diary every week. Practice deliberately. Tik Tok live.

Emotion: high-quality companionship. Create an atmosphere and visit more.

Wealth: bookkeeping, fixed investment, open source, etc.

Example: DW, Sister W, Peach, Sister ZJ, KXm, LJW, etc.

OKR template:

This week's resumption:

P 1

P2

P3

(template, see this week's resumption) goal (to become a thin and beautiful fairy)

KR 1: weight loss 10 kg

KR2: Get enough sleep 7 hours a day, 5 days a week.

KR3: Eat regularly, be nutritious, chew slowly, be seven or eight percent full, and don't eat junk food five days a week.

KR4: Exercise five days a week and apply a mask twice a week.

Next week's plan: this month's plan:

Personal achievement feedback system:

O: Become a thin and beautiful little fairy.

KR2: Get enough sleep 7 hours a day, 5 days a week.

KR3: Eat regularly, be nutritious, chew slowly, be seven or eight percent full, and don't eat junk food five days a week.

KR4: Exercise five days a week and apply a mask twice a week.

KR Milestone 1 Award Milestone 2 Award Award

KR 1 light and thin 4 kg Huawei bracelets are myopic when buying a skirt.

KR2 insists on watching TV one afternoon a week and going out to play 1 day.

KR3 insisted on rewarding herself with yogurt and nut snacks for a week and taking personal photos.

KR4 insists on weighing contact lenses, changing hair style and laser freckle removal for 8 weeks.