After a woman gets married, she usually goes back to her house for seven days. What will an old mother say to her daughter?

China has a long history. In this long history of 5,000 years, a unique set of habits has gradually formed, which we call custom. There are different customs in different places, but there is one custom that should be found all over the country, and that is the return of married women.

On our side, on the third day after marriage, we usually pack up and go back to our parents' house, and usually stay for seven days, which is the traditional "mothering" in China. With the passage of time, the custom of returning to the door has been observed, but after seven days at home, it was gradually abandoned, because the wedding leave time was too short to stay that long.

What should I pay attention to when returning to the door? Going back to the door and getting married are all exquisite. Marriage pays attention to parents' orders and matchmakers' words. And there must be bride price, such as three gold and three silver, colorful and green, which is very complicated.

It may be easier to go back to the door than to get married. On this day, the husband and wife packed up and dressed up early, and the bride put on beautiful new clothes, that is, suitable clothes. The clothes are mainly red, which distinguishes the dresses on the wedding day. After wearing it, it not only has the joy of a beautiful bride, but also has mature charm.

Besides putting on beautiful new clothes, the young couple should also prepare a return ceremony. After all, this is their first visit to their parents' home. Originally the host, this time the guest. It's really hard to hear that, but it's just a statement. Whether you are married or not, it is the baby of your parents. Friends and relatives will be invited to get together at home, and boys can also take this opportunity to get to know their relatives in the daughter-in-law's house so that they can get along in the future.

I need to make a big headline about sleeping separately when I go back to my parents' house, because I don't quite understand this custom. This is the case in many places. When going home to sleep, the couple should sleep separately. One reason is that although married, parents can't accept it psychologically, so they will choose to let them go to bed separately.

Others say that the old mother will call her daughter to her side these days, and the two of them will have a chat. Because they may not go home often in the future, they will cherish the time these days and worry that there is not enough time, so they should put their daughter beside them. Once they think of something, they will say a few words quickly and forget it in a hurry.

It seems that this custom is not very good. How many words you can't say during the day, but you have to say at night, and you won't come back. Is it necessary to do this? Anyway, this custom has been handed down, and I can't figure it out. Does anyone know that it is troublesome to spread news?

What will an old mother say to her daughter? The old mother pulled her daughter to her side, not just to talk about things at home, but to say something to her daughter and convey some feelings. The clockwise summary should be as follows:

The old mother will ask her daughter if she is used to living in her husband's house; Parents are always the people who care most about themselves, especially when their daughters get married. Going back to the door is to appease parents' worries. After all, there was no developed information in ancient society and transportation was inconvenient. It is impossible to go home often, let alone make a phone call. It is necessary to answer the door in this way. Daughter's coming home can reassure parents. If she encounters any difficulties, her parents can also help her to give advice and make her daughter happy at her husband's house.

Conveying an idea of not forgetting one's roots has been said since ancient times that when a woman marries, no matter whether she marries a rich family or a government official, she must return to the door in time. One is to visit your parents, the other is to deepen your impression, and don't forget your roots. But in ancient times, I was concerned about the water spilled by married girls. I think it should be aimed at poor families. If you are rich, I really want to remind you that you should always go home and have a look if you have nothing to do.

Pass on your feelings about marriage and family to your daughter. After marriage, although the role has changed, the psychological change is still not easy. It will be difficult for a girl to adapt to her wife's role and teach her children, but this is what she will face. Therefore, it is really necessary for the old mother to take this opportunity to pass on her experience quickly and let her complete her psychological transformation quickly.

It's really interesting to read the precipitation of 5,000 years' history carefully, especially these customs that have been left behind have their specific meanings. In this discussion, I see more difficulties of my parents. They really worry too much.

Think back to your trip home. What did your old mother tell you? Share it and discuss it together.