Do sales work, will it be organized once a month?

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The day before yesterday, my friend Lu Jia resigned, not because of her ability and salary, but because she really couldn't adapt to the social culture of the department.

Lu Jia likes to be alone, and she is not very sociable. After work, she doesn't like to have any contact with her colleagues. In Lu Jia's mind, colleagues are just colleagues.

It sounds more self-centered, but it's also a lifestyle that many people like nowadays. After all, intrigue in the workplace is enough. After work, I have to deal with my colleagues. Not only can I not relax myself, but I always have the illusion that I have been at work.

However, Lu Jia's leader is a very enthusiastic person. He especially likes to organize activities, either going to dinner at night or climbing mountains at weekends.

in his words, this is to unite the forces. In the eyes of people in other departments, their departments do look more United, and some even envy their leaders who are so grounded and unassuming.

but in fact, without their own rest time, they are all miserable and have complained to each other privately. Especially for Lu Jia, I finally looked forward to the weekend and wanted to have a good rest.

Plus, she doesn't like having dinner and climbing mountains at all. What's more difficult is that although it's not working hours, a leader is a leader. When talking to him, you always have to think about it before you dare to answer it. She is always worried that if she accidentally says something wrong, the leader will take it to heart.

Lu Jia has refused many times, but the leader always intentionally or unintentionally said that she was unsociable, so Lu Jia finally chose to resign.

It's true that companies often organize some activities, which is really conducive to teamwork, but too often it may be counterproductive.

I once encountered a similar situation, and finally, like Lu Jia, I chose to resign.

In the department of my last company, there was a strange unwritten rule. Colleagues didn't know what the psychological reason was. Everyone had to take turns to treat people to dinner once a week, and it basically cost at least 5 to 6 yuan each time.

for a long time, I have eaten too much gutter oil, which not only makes my skin worse, but also makes it difficult for me to save money after eating this salary several times.

On weekends, they like to organize various activities such as cycling and running. In fact, it is good to sit in an office for a long time and exercise occasionally, but the problem is that I don't like sports.

and I have to do it about three times a month. I don't have any time of my own, and I'm exhausted.

In addition, most departments are women. Sometimes, if you are careless, you will get bald, and it is inevitable that something will happen. When you pass it on, it will become stale. To this end, I have had several misunderstandings with other people, which makes me bored.

I also made excuses to refuse several times. After several times, the remarks about my aloof and difficult to get along with spread out. In a rage, I resigned like Lu Jia. 3

For me, the most comfortable social interaction in the workplace is after a busy day's work. If there is nothing particularly important, I don't want to have too much personal interaction with my colleagues. Or I can have a time completely at my own disposal after a week's work.

Maybe many people don't understand why I want to keep away from my colleagues after work. Can't my work partners become friends?

But I still think that the best social interaction for adults in the workplace is not to disturb each other after work.

first of all, we are here to work, not to make friends. Moreover, most colleagues have too many conflicts of interest in their work, so it is difficult to become pure friends.

However, this may be related to your personality. If you like the distinction between public and private as much as I do, and want to have such a separate life from work, you can do the following.

1. Learn to set rules for yourself and know how to refuse reasonably.

As we all know, workplace dinners must have both good and bad sides. We can't generalize all corporate dinners just because Lu Jia and I have encountered such unreasonable dinners and hospitality.

Since ancient times, table culture has been very important. After work, we can relax occasionally, and have dinner and chat together. It not only eases the tension at work, but also brings us closer to our leaders, which is also beneficial to our work.

However, if, like us, you encounter such frequent meaningless dinners and feel that you have lost your rest time, you can openly refuse. For example:

1) Tell colleagues how many times they can attend each month;

2) You need your own time to explain your living habits;

3) Be gentle on the surface and firm in your words. Be sure to let the other person know that you are "persuaded" not to move.

Only when you make your position clear at the beginning, can you get away better in the subsequent dinner activities.

2. The surface is relaxed, but the heart is serious.

The company's dinner party is not a real sense of eating, drinking and having fun. It also includes ways to get along with each other between departments, leaders and subordinates, and colleagues. In fact, the corporate class still exists, so we should not relax our vigilance too much, and we should know how to look at things.

You are allowed to dislike this kind of activity, but you are never allowed to be too disdainful and uninterested when you attend it, so that others can see that you are a little unhappy, and you should know how to "take it as it comes". Corporate relations should still be maintained.

3. Be careful what you say and do, and drink moderately.

If you inevitably attend a company dinner, people with weak awareness of prevention may forget who they are after three rounds of drinking. Then everything will be revealed, regardless of who is listening to your story. Many people suffered such a loss, which led to the inexplicable loss of their jobs the next day after dinner.

on the other hand, if you are as bad at expressing yourself as I am, the best way is to talk less and listen more. When colleagues ask about their work-related topics, they should try to express them objectively. Don't express their opinions to anyone or their true thoughts. Being a good listener is also a good choice.

There is a passage in Mao Mu's book Fun:

I have always found that it is a good strategy in life not to speak when you have nothing to say, and to remain silent when you don't know how to answer others' words. In any case, in the workplace, many people can't help themselves, so let's not lose our original heart.