While spitting "996", ask the child "897". Are you such a double-standard parent?

To say the hot topic on the internet now, it must be? 996? Yes, what is 996? That is, go to work at nine in the morning, get off work at nine in the evening, and work six days a week. For many people, especially young people, 996 has become a very common thing, but even so, this high-intensity work style is unbearable for many people.

Similar to 996 for young people, some parents arrange 897 for their children to go to school at 8: 00 in the morning and finish extracurricular classes at 9: 00 in the evening. They don't rest seven days a week and go to interest classes or special classes on weekends.

Many parents feel very tired at work. When it comes to 996, they have endless complaints, but once they are put on their children, they will not push themselves and others. It is said that children can constantly increase their pressure for their future. Nowadays, many children, young, have endless extracurricular classes.

Is grades really the only criterion? In today's society, learning is no longer the only criterion to judge a person. Many people began to cultivate their children, and they developed in an all-round way, hoping that their children could do their best in all aspects. In order to make children become such people, parents keep signing up their children for various training courses, so that children can keep running between various training courses, even during recess.

However, parents who are bound by the dream of their children's success have never thought about whether this unbearable lifestyle for adults is reasonable for their children. Especially compared with some parents who enroll their children in extracurricular interest classes, some parents still like to enroll their children with good grades in cram schools, hoping that their children can go further.

Many times, parents are more strict with their children with excellent grades, but are grades really that important? Is it really the effect that parents want their children to work so hard? What kind of influence will it bring to children by blindly emphasizing not losing at the starting line and constantly putting pressure on them?

Academic stress has also become the source of children's psychological problems. In fact, many children can't clearly express their fatigue and dissatisfaction with the pressure they feel. Adults can't accept 996. They can vent their anger online and even choose to leave their current working environment. However, children have no choice but to passively accept the excessive care of their parents.

Under such circumstances, many parents think that their educational methods are very successful and will be of great help to their children's future. However, children's fatigue is ignored by parents, and even in the subconscious of parents, it becomes a painful process that children must go through if they want to succeed.

Nowadays, the number of children with mental illness has increased dramatically.

According to statistics, the incidence of depression in children is 0.4%~2.5%, and it may rise to 5% ~ 10% among teenagers. The prevalence rate of men and women was similar before 10, and then the prevalence rate of women gradually increased with age, approaching the ratio of men and women of 1∶2. The number of children and adolescents suffering from depression is also increasing year by year.

We can't say that this is entirely due to academic pressure, but it is a proportion. I have seen news reports on the internet countless times. Some children, because they can't bear the pressure of their studies, have made excessive behaviors and left letters, which makes people feel very sad.

? Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude? What we can't ignore is that some parents who enroll their children in various training classes want their children to become excellent because their children are not excellent enough, while some parents who take care of their children enroll in cram schools. In this kind of person's mind, on the one hand, enrolling in a cram school is for the sake of children not losing to other children, on the other hand, it is also for their own face.

But parents forget that in education, we should teach students in accordance with their aptitude, and each child's personality is different, so we should also take this into account when educating children.

For other children, interest classes may be something that children are interested in, but it doesn't mean that children at home will like such courses.

Moreover, children have their own areas of expertise, so when considering cram schools, parents should also consider the direction in which children are good at, rather than saying that children can't be worse than others. This kind of comparison education not only brings vanity to parents, but also does not help children's study or mental health.

? Focus and efficiency? The key point is that when some parents enroll their children in cram schools, they have various excuses, such as their children's recent decline in academic performance, or their children's lack of understanding of homework. These are the reasons why parents think it is necessary to enroll their children in cram schools.

But in fact, excessive study is not good for children. Children study too late every day, but their learning efficiency will decline the next day. In class, they are not focused enough, so they often doze off in class because they are too tired.

In fact, parents should find ways to solve the problem of children's learning efficiency and concentration in their studies rather than enrolling their children in various cram schools.

Because many children's academic performance has been unable to improve for these two reasons. The cram school is effective because it forcibly makes up for the loopholes and vacancies caused by the continuous decline of children's attention in class during the day.

This method is to treat the symptoms rather than the root cause. For adults, it is equivalent to putting off what can be done during working hours until after work, and then getting sleepy the next day because of working overtime and staying up late. The working condition is too bad the next day, so we can only put off our work until after work, thus falling into an infinite loop.

Parents, who are you for? Many parents always take a bite? I'm doing it for your own good, okay? There is indeed something good for children, but it certainly contains the selfishness of parents. Want an excellent child, as a show-off capital, as for children, will the pressure be too great, and most parents will use one sentence? Like other children? , to complain about children.

This kind of practice can not only stimulate children's competitive psychology, but also aggravate children's rebellious mood, especially when children reach adolescence, they begin to pursue individuality and have their own ideas about what their parents say. At this time, the care of parents is a kind of oppression to children, and it is an oppression to their own growth and freedom, thus seriously affecting family relations.

Every child is different, and every child grows up differently. It is understandable that parents want their children to become useful people. But now many parents are caught in a strange circle, that is, children who are not talents are not my children. Compared with success, parents should teach their children a positive and optimistic attitude, a kind personality and so on.

The shaping of children's character and outlook on life is what parents should do most. Parents in our country think too long. When children are young, parents can't wait to arrange their children's future. Even when children are five or six years old, they can see with their own eyes that children will succeed, or that children will succeed in the future.

However, this idea is completely misled by social utility. Parents can't decide their children's lives, and parents can't participate in their children's lives after all. There is no end to learning, even ultra-intensive learning is of no help to some children with low talent. Parents should pay more attention to their children's personality and outlook on life, which is the most precious education parents can give their children.