Why are there so many male bachelors in Hunan?

I used to work in a factory. Before the handover of Hong Kong, several factory workers were from Hunan. How many mainland workers were drooling over the debt, but they were run away by Hong Kong people. In 2012, in There were two Hunan boys and a girl in the Taiwanese factory. The boy loved the girl so much. The girl was very beautiful and was attracted by the Taiwanese guy in the factory. He tried every means to get the girl. Finally, he got help from the girl’s relatives and fellow villagers who worked in the factory. , got this girl, but the boy is still waiting, waiting for the girl to change her mind, the girl had a child with a Taiwanese guy, and went to Taiwan, the boy is still waiting, how many girls in the factory want to be friends with other people, he can't see it superior. You can tell at a glance why there are so many single men in Hunan.

To say that there are many singles in Hunan, we can only say that there are many singles in the whole country. The main reason is that the country's male-to-female ratio is seriously imbalanced, which is also a huge social problem facing the country. Hunan is close to Guangdong and is also a major labor export province. Hunan has green mountains and green waters, and there are many small western-style buildings and villas in the countryside. I live in the countryside of Hengyang, Hunan. Apart from education and medical care, I feel there is no difference from the city. As for transportation, it is now accessible to every village. , Say goodbye to that kind of muddy road long ago! There are not many betrothal gifts in Hunan. The custom in my hometown is to lose money when marrying a daughter. At first, the man gives 30,000 to 50,000 yuan, but in the end, the mother's family usually has to add some money to marry the daughter. If the man gives the woman 50,000 yuan, in the end The dowry purchased by my mother's family will cost more than 50,000 yuan. Hunan people are hard-working and domineering, but Hunan people are smart, family-oriented and know how to coax their wives. The actual situation is caused by the current imbalance between men and women in the country. There are more male bachelors in many places than in Hunan!

Singles do not distinguish between provinces, countries, species, or even planets.

In China, it is said that there are 30 million singles. Some people even say that no matter how ugly a woman is, she can get married, but no matter how handsome a man is, he may not be able to find a suitable girl. In my opinion, this is all nonsense. We are humans, not animals. We are looking for a partner for a better life, not for breeding. Being single does not mean that you cannot find a wife. Most people are single because the one they like doesn't like them, and the one who likes them doesn't like them. This is the simplest reason.

Today, my junior brother is here to talk about this topic and share with you some English knowledge points about "single".

Bachelor: bachelor. How to read it? I won’t write the English phonetic symbols because I’m worried that many friends have never been exposed to English phonetic symbols. Translated into Chinese pronunciation, it means "Bye~che'er". At the same time, this word also means "bachelor's degree".

So how to express the opposite "couple"?

When you say, "She is my lover", in this sentence, the lover is "lover", which is pronounced as "热我儿~", but when you introduce, "We are lovers" At that time, it became "lovers", pronounced as "热我儿~子". In addition, valentine also means a couple, which is pronounced as "a favor outside the home". When reading, be more tactful, stress the word "outer", and pronounce the rest quickly and briskly. Has everyone learned it?

Not only in Hunan, but also in Shandong.

My family is from a rural area, and all the villages are bachelor villages.

Are there many singles? Yes, more than 200 million!

What age group are the majority, 80 and 90?

Are they all men? No, there are also many female bachelors.

Do you think it’s just the parents of male bachelors who are anxious? The parents of female bachelors are just as anxious. So it's very contradictory and absurd now. This country is as absurd as it is sophisticated.

You think marriage is too simple, just a broken house can beat many mandarin ducks.

Material things can never fill people's yearning for love.

Life is inherently dull. No, it is your self-hypnosis (you are a slut). Without an interesting soul, life is very boring.

(Just living)

Is it shameful to be a bachelor?

No shame, do you need others to tell you when you are alive? Be your own bachelor and let others tell you!

I am waiting for the government to provide free housing before I consider marriage. Waiting for government welfare policies, like the West, with various subsidies, before considering children.

My personality is radical. If everyone thought like me, houses wouldn’t be so high, prices wouldn’t be so high, and taxes wouldn’t be so high.

Stupid and short-sighted, comparison-loving women force men to buy a house and take out a loan for more than 20 years. Ordinary working-class workers still have to support 4 elderly people, have 2 children, and work. I know many people go to bed worried at night. I couldn't sleep, I was under a lot of pressure, and I was very anxious.

If you understand economics, you know that there is the word economic crisis. Crisis is a good thing. Crisis is the bursting of bubbles and irrational prosperity. There is no crisis in the planned economy, only shortages. But our country is not

I don’t agree with the saying that there are many singles in Hunan. I am a Hunan woman. Regarding this topic, maybe it is the homosexual problem among ordinary people across the country, right? That male or female citizen who said Hunan is poor, please come and see Hunan. Where is the poorest place in Hunan, the cities? Rural area? Townships, which city doesn’t have them? Which city does not clearly distinguish between local tyrants, rich second generation, poor middle peasants, and poor lower peasants? Do Hunan people eat your food or wear your clothes? At least the Hunan people are not holding the country back! Finally, let me tell you: Hunan people are not just singles, but unmarried, who would not be an embarrassment to the country!

Mainly for the following reasons

1. Hunan is close to Guangdong. Not to mention girls, boys have all gone to work. Who would look at people from poor places?

2. The ratio of men to women is already imbalanced.

3. Feudal thoughts are at work and always require betrothal gifts.

4. Stubborn personality. Hunan people are known as Hunan mules, stubborn, and there are no neighboring provinces where men can coax women.

Several reasons lead to the large number of singles in Hunan. In fact, although we Hunan men are not that good at coaxing others, we are chivalrous and bold and very reliable!

One of the countries with the most serious gender structural imbalance

From a global perspective, there are nearly 20 countries and regions with sex ratios at birth (that is, 100 female babies are born) The number of boys born) is relatively high, but China is the most serious. First, it has the highest sex ratio at birth, and secondly, it has lasted the longest, more than 30 years, and affected the largest population at the same time.

For more than 20 years, China’s sex ratio at birth has been higher than 115, and even reached 120 at one time, and some provinces have remained at 130 for a long time. In other words, for every 100 girls born, there will be 30 more boys. The internationally recognized normal level is that the sex ratio at birth should remain between 103 and 107.

At the end of 2015, my country’s sex ratio at birth was 113.51. Although it has declined, it is still far beyond the international normal level. When these boys grow up to be in their mid-twenties, they will face the problem of getting married, and may even become singles.

One of the reasons behind the unbalanced gender ratio of more boys than girls is the traditional Chinese mentality of favoring boys over girls. Inducements for favoring boys over girls appear in four areas: labor, property ownership and inheritance rights, sacrificial activities, and pension security. The deep-seated reason why people prefer to have sons is the imperfect social security mechanism.

The analysis found that the stronger the dependence on the next generation for old-age care, the stronger the desire to have a boy. Especially in most rural areas of our country, due to the lack of social security system, the only basic security that farmers can rely on comes from their families, so they have to choose to raise children to provide for themselves in old age.

Another historical background that cannot be ignored is the imbalance of sex ratio at birth and low fertility rate. Due to the implementation of the family planning policy, the birth rate has declined, which has widened the disparity in the sex ratio between men and women to a certain extent. The imbalance in the male-to-female ratio that began around 1985, about five years after the implementation of the family planning policy, seems to be proof enough.

Population research scholar Yuan Xin pointed out that people are having fewer children, which is a catalyst for the high sex ratio at birth.

In a common pattern around the world, countries with a culture of boy preference tend to have a higher sex ratio at birth as their fertility rates decline.

In addition, the popularization of B-ultrasound equipment in the mid-1980s, and the subsequent advancement of DNA and other testing technologies, to a certain extent made artificial selection of reproductive gender a reality. Scholars even pointed out that selective reproduction leads to an imbalance in the ratio of men to women.

In short, the idea of ??favoring boys over girls, the imperfect social security system, the popularization and abuse of B-ultrasound, and the catalyst of the low birth rate policy have all jointly led to the imbalance of the sex ratio at birth in our country.

Leftover women are of high quality, while leftover men are “diaos”

Nowadays, there are more and more discussions about “leftover women”, but not much attention seems to be paid to the issue of “leftover men”. Most people around me are lamenting: There are far more leftover women than leftover men now. In fact, the number of leftover men is far greater than the number of leftover women. It is just an "illusion" that there are more leftover women than leftover men.

According to Shanghai population data in March 2016, the ratio of unmarried men and women aged 18 to 40 in Shanghai is 53.24:46.76. Single men are significantly higher than single women. The results of the sixth census also support this One data.

In this case, why do you think there are more “leftover women”?

The reason is that the ratio of leftover women is the highest in big cities. They are more likely to enter the public eye and are more eager to get married. Therefore, the crisis of "leftover women" has attracted attention on various social platforms. In addition, the proportion of women who are forced into marriage by relatives and friends is much higher than that of men. The pressure from relatives and friends to force marriage will also make single women in big cities eager to "leave singles", which will also give people the impression that there are many "leftover women".

Many examples prove this: the media learned from an online dating service provider that the number of women looking for partners on the website is almost four times that of men. For this reason, men can register for free and female customers You will have to pay a fee. Caihong, a matchmaker who works in marriage and love services, also found that every time a blind date meeting is held, many parents come, and there are far more parents of girls than parents of boys.

The year before last, a large dating website conducted a survey report on the single ratio in various provinces across the country. According to the ranking of singles across the country, "leftover women" in big cities are the most urgent. Among them, the proportion of female bachelors in Beijing ranks first with 36.

A real estate developer in Nanjing invited handsome men and beautiful women in cool summer clothes to put on a performance art show

But the unavoidable question is why there are still so many leftover women in China, when there are tens of millions of single men. Difficult to marry? The main reason is that China has a gradient marriage pattern in which a high-ranking person marries a low-ranking person. Rural girls want to marry into the city, while working-class girls want to marry a rich boy. The result of this mismatch of spouses is that men and women at both ends of the gradient are left - high-end "leftover women" and low-end "leftover men."

Many of the “high-quality leftover women” in big cities are white-collar workers. They have good jobs and can be completely independent in life. This directly leads to the “high-quality leftover women”’s negative attitude toward their partners. The requirements are higher, making it more difficult to "get out of the singles". "Never met the right person" is the main reason why they remain unmarried at an older age.

Unfortunately, when choosing a partner, the outstanding men in their eyes focus on the woman’s appearance, figure and age. They hope to find a girl with good looks, good figure and younger age. , high-quality women with high education and high income are not their ideal targets. So these high-quality women were ruthlessly left behind.

On the other hand, more men and fewer women will inevitably lead to "marriage squeeze." Simply put, due to the large gap between the male and female population of marriage age, a large number of men may not be able to find a spouse. When the post-90s generation enters the age of marriage and childbearing, starting from about 2015, this accumulation effect will be amplified.

At this time, women had more choices in marriage. More and more rural women chose to marry in the city, and they were even willing to lower the bride price and other conditions.

At the same time, in order to increase their chances of success, older men will choose mates from younger women, older men in the city will look for women from the countryside, and men from wealthy areas will look for women from less developed areas. The leftover men ended up in poverty-stricken areas. The leftover women in big cities look down upon these leftover men, creating a vicious cycle.

Therefore, current commentator Hong Qiaojun believes that these leftover men are at a real disadvantage in China’s marriage market, and their chances of becoming single are almost certain. It should be said that economically poor bachelors should be the main force of Chinese bachelors. Houses, cars, and betrothal gifts have completely overwhelmed Chinese men, and the rising housing prices have made it even more difficult for men to get married, causing the number of bachelors in poor areas to continue to increase. The greater the gap between rich and poor, the larger the ranks of bachelors will be.

In addition to the concept of "marrying down and marrying up", the reason why many "leftover women" remain single has a lot to do with their lack of opportunities to choose a mate. Nowadays, the pressure of life is increasing, the pace of work is fast, and there is less time for making friends. Coupled with the prominent problem of occupational gender segregation, young men and women have few opportunities to make friends.

More than 80% of single women said that their daily work pressure is too great, and their life is basically "company and home", and they have no time to expand their circle of friends. There are also 30% of women who said that they feel that they have “no time to fall in love” at all.

In addition, society imposes greater age pressure on women than on men. Thirty years old is the golden period for men to develop in society, but many people believe that women are no longer young when they are thirty years old and should focus on their families. This directly leads to increased psychological pressure on women at work. Many women have a mentality that they should work hard for a few more years while they are young and put aside their emotions first.

Problems caused by “leftover men” and “leftover women”

The imbalance between men and women affects my country’s population development. As direct childbearers, the "deficit" of women will inevitably lead to a decline in the birth rate, further reducing the total population and the size of the working-age population, and accelerating the aging process of the population.

The long-term imbalance of the sex ratio at birth is intertwined with the aging of the population, exacerbating the irrationality of the population structure, and is not conducive to social and economic development. In the long run, "surplus" men will have no spouses and heirs, which will cause problems for their own retirement and that of their parents in the future.

The imbalance in the ratio of men to women also brings about the problem of employment squeeze. Positions traditionally dominated by women may be squeezed by men, which will have an impact on the improvement of women's employment status. A clothing boss who frequently travels between Guangzhou, Hangzhou, Shanghai and other places said that many textile factories are currently closed because they cannot recruit female workers. In 10 to 20 years, male labor surplus and "gender squeeze in employment" will become increasingly serious.

The excess male labor force will increase competition in the labor market and make it more difficult for women to find employment; in some industries and occupations, there may be a shortage of women and men will be required to replace them; some male jobs will be lost due to excess labor. , triggering fierce competition among men.

The social problems caused by the long-term high sex ratio at birth are the first to hit remote and poor rural areas, not cities. Due to the lack of information in these backward areas, the crisis of “leftover men” rarely comes into public view. But in fact, the potential harm of the "singles crisis" to society is even more significant.

The continuous accumulation of the number of men who are eligible for marriage but cannot be married has greatly increased the risk of social instability and instability. It can be said that the larger the ranks of bachelors, the more likely it is to lead to an increase in cases of sexual violence, human trafficking, purchased marriages, and missing children.

The "Technical Report on the Survey of Gender Imbalance and Social Stability in 100 Villages" shows that older unmarried men in some of the villages surveyed have participated in activities that undermine social security in the past three years. The incidence rates from high to low are: Gambling, rioting, stealing and fighting in groups.

How to turn the situation around?

In fact, the postponement of "marriage age" and the increase of single people have become a worldwide trend.

For example, in the 1950s, only 22% of the U.S. population were single. Today, more than half of Americans are single, and 31 million of them live alone, accounting for about 1/7 of the U.S. adult population.

In his book "The Single Society", New York University sociology professor Clinenberg clearly pointed out that "our society has transformed from a society that protects people from harm. It has become a society that allows people to maximize their talents." Postponing marriage or even becoming single is one of the choices to "maximize your talents."

Therefore, when dealing with the phenomenon of "leftover men and leftover women", it is necessary to rationally distinguish the attributions and treat them. On the one hand, the phenomenon of being forced to "remain", such as rural men who are difficult to get married due to objective reasons such as poverty, requires comprehensive guidance and intervention from the public sector.

A commentary article published in the "Xinhua Daily Telegraph" in February this year stated that when individuals are unable to solve the marriage problems of leftover men, governments at all levels and social organizations should lend a helping hand. Because leftover men in rural areas are not only an individual crisis for leftover men, but also a rural crisis, and may also affect urban development.

On the other hand, please be tolerant enough to young people who postpone marriage or even hold the concept of being single because of their own choices, such as the majority of urban "leftover women" and older young people. For example, the phenomenon of "forced marriage" that seems to have become more and more serious in recent years deserves to be taken seriously.

It must be noted that this trend has a certain inevitability in a competitive society, just as predicted in "Single Society" - we are learning to be single, and this has brought a new way of life.

Hunan alone has more bachelors than just Hunan? There are more than 30 million singles in the country, with an average of more than 1 million in each province. There are more than 50 singles in each village here. Seeing the current situation, I can't help but think of the big slogans posted everywhere in the past, saying that family and state affairs are world affairs, and family planning is the most important thing. Due to the one-child policy at the time, some had their first child aborted after finding out it was a girl. Some gave birth to a boy for the first time and then tried to give birth to a girl, but were arrested by the squad and sent to the county hospital for sterilization. There are so many bachelors now, isn't it because there were so few girls at that time?

What you said seems to be less in other places. In fact, it is the same. Especially in rural areas, there are so many bachelors that it is difficult to guard against them. Now it has become a serious social problem. The older you are, the worse it is. When talking about a partner, women have a strong sense of superiority, and they have everything from betrothal gifts to cars and cars. Because things are rare and expensive, if there are fewer women, competition will be fierce, driving up "prices", making it more difficult to find men with average families. Daughter-in-law, a vicious cycle!

This problem should not be labeled "Hunan". With the serious imbalance between men and women, "bachelor men" are already a problem that cannot be ignored across the country. However, areas with better economic development are relatively better. The more Poverty-stricken areas are becoming more and more serious. I think this should be one of the original intentions of the country to liberalize the "two-child" policy for the population, right? Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "if a family has girls, hundreds of families want them". It can be seen that unmarried women of the right age have always been "in short supply, scarce and beautiful". This is a major livelihood issue that requires the attention and resolution of the whole society.