What kind of talent is the most suitable for your marriage partner?

Suit yourself. This question looks simple on the surface, but it's actually very difficult.

Because its standards are very complicated, such as personality, temper, pace of life, direction of life, future life and so on.

You have to let people think for themselves. These suitable points are endless.

Then how can a person dare to get married when he has these countless standards and can't meet these standards that suit him?

In fact, finding a suitable marriage partner is not that difficult. As long as you can simplify some standards, the problem becomes simple.

For example, I have summarized the following five criteria, and meeting three is enough.

Don't be too picky, because there is no perfect person in the world, and there is no one who is completely interested in you.

Choosing important standards and discarding unnecessary standards is the best policy.

1, material conditions

One of the most striking and frequently discussed issues in contemporary marriage is the issue of bride price.

The bride price issue is also a financial issue. It is not a one-way problem, but a two-way problem, and both men and women are responsible.

On this matter, we often see some representative examples from online videos: "Because the man can't satisfy the bride price proposed by the woman, the woman won't give in, and finally the two sides break up and go away."

Don't think that this kind of thing will only appear in the video. In fact, this kind of thing is quite common in reality. There used to be two couples around me who parted ways because of the bride price.

I'm sorry, but I think they chose the right one, not the wrong one.

Seeing this kind of thing, we have to think about two questions: "Which is more important, custom or emotional relationship?"

"Is money important, material or emotional?"

Let's not solve these two problems first. Let me start with an essential question. Both men and women have quarreled over the bride price, which shows a very serious problem. This serious problem is divided into three small details.

Emotional problems: If both sides care about each other and are willing to sacrifice a little for their feelings, there will be no quarrel.

The common way to deal with it is for both sides to take a step back, or for one party to resist the custom and sacrifice more.

Family problems: If both families can agree with the chosen one, there will be no quarrel.

Personal opinion: People who refuse to return because of the bride price are often people who lack self-confidence and self-determination.

With these three small details, the answers to our above two questions will be solved.

In fact, material conditions are really important, but this material condition is not a hard-core standard, let alone an unbalanced "unreasonable" standard.

It is impossible for ordinary families to come up with high bride price. If the bride price is forced, there will definitely be problems.

In fact, the real material conditions do not refer to these, but to the same material conditions that two people jointly build and realize, as well as the concept of joint efforts and joint efforts.

If a person pushes you hard because of the bride price, then I suggest you really think about it.

By the same token, if a person is willing to resist the custom for you and not talk about the issue of material bride price, then you should cherish him more.

Such people, both men and women, are independent people who are willing to sacrifice themselves for their feelings and deserve to be cherished and respected.

2. Personality standards

Sometimes it's amazing between people. Let two strong people live together, and there are indispensable trivialities in life.

Let two cowardly people who are used to escaping live together, and life will lose direction and motivation, so complementary personality is very important in marriage.

As for the need to choose a gentle person in marriage, this gentle character is mostly not born, but tempered.

This is not easy to find, there is no need to hardcore.

However, there are several points that must be considered on the issue of personality: Is there any big problem with the other person's personality? Such as irresponsibility, extremes, violence, mania, etc.

Can you accept half of each other's personality?

If you can determine the answers to these two questions, you don't really need to struggle too much.

Because everyone's personality has problems, and there is no perfection. As long as we can accept half of it, we'll leave time for the rest.

Almost all personalities without major problems can be changed slowly in life.

3. Conduct and virtue.

This question is really important. Try to keep a distance from people with bad conduct and morals. This question is still an old saying I often say:

"He has grown so big, and his parents haven't changed him. Guide him well. Do you think you can? "

In this case, you must be sober and remember that you don't have superhuman powers.

At the same time, the problems of conduct and virtue can also reflect many problems. People with bad morals are often not well guided when they are young.

The responsibility for this guidance lies with his parents. In fact, as long as you look closely, you can find the fact that "people with good conduct and virtue often have a good family and a pair of good parents behind them."

This problem is bound to affect your married life, so be careful.

4. See the emotional truth in daily behavior.

In fact, now everyone is arguing about marriage, not only about people, but also about the environment.

It is very difficult to fall in love now, and some people can even talk about a love in three to five days. Just like fast food, this is not a good thing.

At the same time, there are also a few people who don't follow the trend and are not affected by the environmental atmosphere, so most people's views and concepts on love change with the environmental atmosphere.

This is normal. Like a class of 30 people. Even a good teacher may not be able to take care of all 30 people.

Those who study well often do not rely entirely on teachers' teaching, but on self-study and self-research.

On the other hand, it is more reliable to be cautious about people in love, which is the same as a good student who studies by himself.

Furthermore, a person who is willing to pay for it will pay attention to what you need and hate in daily life.

He will stand up when you need him.

And those who only say good things about you, draw you cakes, coax you with sweet words, and don't really pay for you are unreliable.

Don't think this is a trivial matter, it is also very important.

People who are willing to pay for you and work hard for you will be your shelter tree in your marriage life and in your future life.

And those who only say they won't pay for your material things, you can't count on him in your future marriage.

So before you decide to get married, get along more and observe more.

A moment of happiness is not a lifetime of happiness, but a lifetime of happiness.

5, pick people, don't pick feelings, reality should be considered.

Will you choose the person you like or the person you like?

In general, it is the best policy to choose people who like you, and people who don't believe in evil can choose what they like.

The three views of two people are very important issues, which determine people's perspective, thinking angle and handling methods.

But it is impossible for the three views to be in harmony. You just need to choose the two most practical ones, outlook on life and values.

The most suitable personal value for marriage is "willingness and ability to pay for marriage, family and lover as the meaning of life value".

As for the standard of outlook on life, it depends on your personal standard.

Personally speaking, people with correct values are often people who are willing to work hard for their own lives, which is the strongest sense of responsibility.

Whether a person has the ability to be responsible for others depends on whether he knows how to be responsible for himself.

So don't talk about particularly stable jobs. For people with correct values, work problems will be handled by themselves.

Therefore, people who eat to death at work are not reliable, because they are not responsible for themselves, let alone for your future life.

Even if he wanted to, he didn't have the ability.

As far as the criteria suitable for marriage are concerned, it is not necessary to meet all the above five criteria, as long as any three can be met.

Because every standard can basically reflect a person's personality characteristics, sense of responsibility, and attitude towards feelings and lovers.

These are the key ways for you to get to know each other and the favorable factors for you to make an accurate judgment.

Life is changeable, and things are unpredictable. No one can guarantee that he will be able to choose a person who is completely suitable for him and choose a person who can accompany him for a lifetime.

However, almost everyone can make a "relatively accurate" choice, as long as they don't blindly follow the trend and respect their own wishes and hearts.

Although twisting melons is sometimes sweet, not everyone has this condition, so don't force marriage and don't compromise.

Marriage is like a ship sailing in the sea, and its destination is happiness island.

You are at the helm. Don't make the choice of the sea easily before you are sure, and don't change your original sailing direction easily.