If you get married, your colleagues will give you a gift of 13 14 yuan. Do you hate it or not?

If you watch the news, you will definitely see an article about? Wedding ceremony? News screen.

The thing is this: In Chongqing, Xiao Xu, a bride from Hubei, and her husband wanted to hold a wedding reception, but she was very unhappy!

First of all, the company has 18 colleagues, and only two people came to the wedding scene in Xiao Xu; Secondly, the only 18 colleagues who unite to give gifts are 13 14 yuan; What makes Xiao Xu even more angry is that when he attended the wedding of these colleagues, he was generous with a gift of more than 300 yuan.

After all, weddings are full of joy. But when it was Xiao Xu's turn to get married, his colleagues came to such a play. Xiao Xu was so angry that she blacked out all her colleagues on WeChat.

Because Xiao Xu thinks these colleagues are bullying people! Her husband also thinks that Xiao Xu's colleagues have a bad relationship!

At this point, it is necessary to separate ugliness from ugliness. Let's be specific.

How to invite a wedding banquet?

Before discussing this issue, we should first find out whether you and I should invite colleagues to our wedding.

Because in the workplace, no one can avoid the topic of wedding. Many people have discussed this topic. Now, I'll sort out a few wedding principles for my colleagues and just pour chicken soup:

1. No one has the right to stipulate who to invite to the wedding. Of course, it is no problem to invite only close colleagues to watch the ceremony;

2. Wedding invitation colleagues must be several people in the company. In a company, if most colleagues attend your wedding banquet, only a few people are excluded, which will definitely lead to wild speculation. Of course, if only one or two close colleagues are invited, most colleagues will understand.

3, the wedding is not an office, just talk about the witness of love at the wedding, don't arrange seats like the office.

4, put a correct attitude, wedding parties should not take money too seriously! Money should be reciprocated, but we can't emphasize what comes and goes, because the human feelings between colleagues are not only reflected in the wedding, but in all aspects of work and life.

If you are a department head, if you want to get married, you should either invite all your colleagues or none of them, which is in line with the principle that a bowl of water is flat.

18 Do colleagues bully others?

Clear up the above four principles, let's analyze the right and wrong of Xiao Xu and her 18 colleagues:

First of all, Xiao Xu was wrong. He invited most colleagues in the department instead of the leader.

Regardless of the outcome, she invited 18 colleagues to the wedding. This 18 colleague is most of the colleagues in the department, and only the department leader is not invited. Xiao Xu put himself in the position of department head.

Second, Xiao Xu's colleague was wrong and did not follow the principle of reciprocity.

Gift money can be large or small, which is the touchstone to test human relations. Now that I'm here, I'll give you a gift, but 18 colleagues only paid 13 14 yuan. What do you mean? Every colleague only hired 73 yuan, which was a bit disgusting.

After all, when Xiao Xu attended your wedding, it was hundreds of gifts.

Finally, Xiao Xu's husband was also wrong!

The money for the wedding is subconsciously the touchstone for both husband and wife to test their human relationship. Just know what you know, don't take it too seriously, and it's no reason for the bridal chamber to blame each other overnight.

It's good to invite people to the wedding. It is always good for rich people to hold a money field, while those without money hold a personal field. What matters is thought. Take a step back and ask Xu, do you want this 13 14 yuan? Is it better without this 13 14 yuan?

Right? I believe everyone knows! Not to mention colleagues. ......

What do you think of the relationship between wedding and colleagues?

Because today's society is an iron boss and a mobile worker, the relationship between colleagues is not as close as that between parents, brothers and sisters, nor is it as good as that between classmates who wet the bed, carry guns and make brothers and girlfriends.

The relationship between colleagues is implied at work, while the wedding gift is placed on the relationship between colleagues, just like a monk holding an umbrella in rainy days. Say reasonable rain protection; It is unreasonable to say that monks practice penance. Why do you want to take an umbrella?

As a saying goes: the wedding banquet is to give gifts, whether to send them or not, sending more and sending less are all slightly embarrassing issues. The essence of gift money is social derivative cost, which is more suitable for relatives and friends.

Between colleagues, there are daily grievances, calculations in memories, more mobility in future work, and love to go. Who is as kind as his own purse?

Therefore, when partners walk together, intersection is very important; It is important to support your close friends; What's so important about getting along with colleagues? Long live understanding? Just these four words.

Colleagues get married, no matter what grievances come over, no matter the future geometry, it is just a blessing. ......

And red envelopes, gifts and money, just like these bad habits in China people's interpersonal communication, should be gradually abandoned. Instead, it should be the wisdom that a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water!