[Chaoshan] How do you say the bride gets married?

The traditional wedding custom "Xiaka" in Chaoshan is used to hold betrothal gifts. It is very delicate, with many layers, usually some candy and fruit, with some cash stacked on it.

Married people should put stickers on their doors such as "Kirin is here", "Phoenix is here" and "Phoenix is home".

Kirin is here:

Legend has it that the love story between Luotong, the son of Luocheng in the Tang Dynasty, and Dou Nong, the princess of Beifan: Princess Dou Nong fell in love with Luotong at first sight, but Luotong refused to accept it because she killed her brother. Although she was persuaded by Emperor Taizong, she was still in the bridal chamber, bring disgrace to oneself. In a rage, the King of Tang ordered Luotong not to remarry and buried Princess Dounong at the foot of Qilin Mountain. Later, Cheng persuaded Tang Wang to let Luo Tong remarry, but she was a silly girl. On the wedding day, the bride's sedan chair turned into a silly girl through Princess Dounong of Qilin Mountain, which made her smart and beautiful. Later, in order to make the daughter-in-law a beautiful bride like Princess Dou Nong, people wrote red notes "Kirin is here" on the top of the door and in front of the sedan chair.

(But what about "Phoenix is coming"? )

When a Chaoshan woman marries, no matter how much she marries, she must have three buckets: the foot bucket, the waist bucket and the excrement bucket.

The foot barrel is a big short barrel with a diameter of more than two feet. The barrel wall is six or seven inches high. The bottom of the board is coated with tung oil, which will not leak. It is used by women to bathe in the room, children to bathe, women to wash clothes and men to wash feet.

Necessary leg pliers, waist bucket, etc. When you get married

Waist and abdomen are also necessary conditions for traditional dowry, which is still very popular even in modern cities.

Place bamboo sheng in mistletoe and insert a ruler to show good intention of rising steadily.

Although oil lamps are not used in life now, they are still needed in weddings.

"Deng" is the same as "Ding" in Chaozhou dialect. This lamp should be placed at the bedside after being taken to the in-laws' house, which means that it takes the man to the in-laws' house.

Not to mention the mirror is also one of the dowry.

Longfeng candle

Grab the bed before marriage: put black beans, dried longan and coins in the four corners. At night, children will grab peanuts, sugar and cigarettes for them to grab. If they get a good share, they will say a lot of good things.

After marriage, tie a piece of pork and a hanging curtain with red-brown thread, and the poor will take it away and give it a red envelope.

We need to prepare some dried longan. Dried longan, called "longan" by Chaoshan people, not only contains the meaning of wealth and perfection, but also contains the desire to have a baby early.

At the wedding banquet, it is forbidden to eat the "four gold" of the three birds on the table, namely the head, tail and wings.

The wedding custom in Chaoshan must hold various ceremonies, and the woman's family should invite a blessed old woman to preside over various ceremonies. The old woman is called "Green Mother". The language sung by Qing Niang's mother in various ceremonies is called "four sentences", also known as Qing Niang song. For example, when the newly-married bride said goodbye to her parents and worshipped Si Gongming and other gods at home, she sang: "One person worships Si Gong Ming, a good mother matches a good gentleman, and both families in your family are very good, and both families are rich and prosperous." When the wedding float arrives at the wedding time, the green mother helps the newly-married bride to go out, and the bride says goodbye to her parents. The mother in green led the bride and sang, "The sedan chair stopped at the gate to say goodbye to her parents and raise the children. The parents in the class depend on their brothers and sisters, and their daughter will return to China in April. "After being carried to the groom's door, the mother in green led the groom to kick the car door, took off the" red seal "and" Kirin is coming "posted in front of the car door, and sang:" The leaves are red, please invite mom into the house. " Today is a auspicious day, they cherish each other and have a heart in mind. "Mother Qing led the bride down from the sedan chair and sang," The curtain of the sedan chair is rolled up, and she is very happy. Your mother is beautiful and gentle; The groom came to hold the bride's hand, and they walked into the house together. Aunt is wearing a red hijab. You got married today to take care of your family. Things at home are largely decided by * * *. At the age of 32, you are a responsible family. "When the green mother led the bride into the room and stepped on the fire smoke, the green mother sang," The bride stepped on the fire smoke and knew your son was a baby boy. It is right for husband and wife to sing bosom friends and be diligent in filial piety. Walking hand in hand with the bride into the new house, lights and candles glow on the couplets, and aunt Cuobian comes to congratulate her and celebrate the pairing of mandarin ducks. "After the groom received the dowry, the newlyweds sat on the edge of the bed, each holding a bowl of sweet soup pills made of glutinous rice flour. Qing Niang sang: "Both husband and wife are sitting on the edge of the bed, enjoying fragrant pills in the same room, and the situation in the city is comparable. They have lived together for a hundred years. A gifted scholar and a beautiful woman sat by the bed and took pills to each other. The life of husband and wife is as sweet as honey and won the first prize early. " ……

The custom of green mother doing "four sentences"

When Chaoshan men and women get married according to the old customs, they must hold various ceremonies, and the woman's family should hire an old woman like the object in the drama to preside over various ceremonies. The old woman is called "Green Mother". The language sung by Qing Niang's mother in various ceremonies is called "four sentences", also known as Qing Niang song.

Before a woman becomes a monk, she must take a bath and change clothes, then bid farewell to her parents and pay homage to Gong Ming at home. At this time, while teaching the newly-married bride to bow down, her mother sang: "When you worship Si Gongming, a good mother deserves a good husband. Both families in your family are very good, and both families are rich and prosperous. ..... "Read twelve prayers to Fu Lushou.

The four sentences at the wedding reception are: "The wine bottle is placed in the middle of the table, the wine glass is placed around the table, and the brothers and sisters share a table, which seems to be a good flower and a shed."

When eating vegetables, Qingniang's mother sang instead of the newly-married bride: "Ten bowls are thoroughly sandwiched, so leave them to the brothers to make a good family file;" Ten bowls are sandwiched together, and we will get together to visit the Imperial Street in the future. "

When the wedding car arrives at the wedding time, the green mother helps the bride go out, and the bride says goodbye to her parents. The mother in green led the bride and sang, "The sedan chair stopped at the gate to say goodbye to her parents and raise the children. The parents in the class rely on their brothers and sisters, and their daughter will come back in April. "

Send it to the groom's door. At this time, the green mother and the groom stood by and waited. When the sedan chair stopped, the mother in green led the groom to kick open the sedan door, took off the "red seal" and "Kirin is coming" posted on the front of the sedan chair, and sang, "The leaves are red, please invite mother into your room." Today is a auspicious day, they cherish each other and have a heart in mind. "

Mother Qing led the bride out of the sedan chair and sang, "The curtain of the sedan chair is rolled up, and the bride is very happy. Your mother is beautiful and gentle; The groom came to hold the bride's hand, and they walked into the house together. Aunt is wearing a red hijab. You got married today to take care of your family. Things at home are largely decided by * * *. At the age of 32, you are a responsible family. " When the green mother led the bride into the room and stepped on the fire smoke, the green mother sang, "The bride stepped on the fire smoke, and your son is a baby boy, which is too early." It is right for husband and wife to sing bosom friends and be diligent in filial piety. Walking hand in hand with the bride into the new house, the lights and candles glow on the couplets, and Aunt Kuibian comes to congratulate her and celebrate the pairing of mandarin ducks. "

After the groom accompanied the bride into the new house, he immediately returned to the sedan chair and gave the banyan branches and gauze lamps that had entered the new house to Qinglang who accompanied the bride. Mother Sang Qing: "The groom will carry the banyan tree to the sedan chair. Mr. and Mrs. Qi Mei will be one hundred years old, and Kirin will be reborn to give birth to your son. It will be a glorious day. The bride likes to pick up red lanterns, and the husband and wife cherish each other. Parents eat until they are 200 years old, and their children and grandchildren are famous. "

After the groom received the dowry, the newlyweds sat on the edge of the bed, each holding a bowl of sweet soup pills made of glutinous rice flour. Qing Niang sang: "Both husband and wife are sitting on the edge of the bed, enjoying fragrant pills in the same room, and the situation in the city is comparable. They have lived together for a hundred years. A gifted scholar and a beautiful woman sat by the bed and took pills to each other. Husband and wife live as sweet as honey and win the first prize early. "

After sharing a room with Maruko, both husband and wife went to the main hall to worship Si Mingjun, Heaven and Earth and ancestors, and offered tea and betel nuts to the older generation. People who are respected will give back red envelopes as gifts. The four etiquette sentences are:

"Husband and wife worship SiMingGong, early birth of your son early grandchildren.

Generations live in the same village, so the whole family should laugh less. "

"Husband and wife worship the gods in pairs. They work hard to get a good harvest.

Everyone is happy, and the family style is good from generation to generation. "

"Husband and wife hall ancestor worship, two surname harmony today.

People who want to do the right thing will live long and prosper. "

"Kneeling in the hall, with sweet tea in hand, I propose a toast to my father's milk.

Please drink sweet tea to add a hundred blessings, the four seasons are like spring, and you will always be safe. "

"Take betel nut to the hall, thanks to your uncle.

Come and ask betel nut to prolong life, and children and grandchildren will be scholars from generation to generation. "

"Betel nut with go to the hall, please aunt.

Please forgive my indiscretion, but please tell me what I did wrong! "

After completing all the formalities in the hall, the bride was taken to the kitchen by the green mother. She made rice heads and stirred the jar. Green mother sang: "When my mother won rice, the husband and wife felt the same way. Five men and two women were born, and their children and grandchildren wore red robes from generation to generation. The rice head is good to touch, the bottom of the mortar is good to touch, and the grandchildren are good at reading. " "M head for the cylinder hit well, children and grandchildren sit on the bench. Parents in the class eat for a hundred years, and couples have grandchildren early. " "Pigs are bigger than cows; The fish in the jar is deep, and the size wears silver and gold. In business, you can make a lot of money by grasping the edge of a jar. Open the jar and be the head of the family. "

After the bride and groom complete the above etiquette, neighbors, aunts and children will go to the wedding room to see the dowry and the bride. If the children want sachets, the groom should take out some handicrafts from the box for the children and let people look at the clothes. Qing Niang sang: "Open the box and open the bag, the groom and father, the splendid clothes are really good, and there are all kinds of rare birds and animals, and the crested crested chaplet is full."

The wedding night is the busiest time to meet new people. The green mother sings "four sentences", and the people who look at the bride also sing "four sentences", often in duets. Mother Qing led the bride out of the room for people to watch, and began to sing: "The bride moved out of the room, uncles and brothers congratulated the couple, and aunts came forward to salute and wish everyone good health." Then the audience sang, for example, "A new person is born like Guanyin. When a new person gets married, he will definitely have a son next year, just like a mountain in Lin Daqin." (Lin Daqin was the champion of fashion brand in Ming Dynasty)

In the process of watching the couple, someone made four sentences in a playful tone, such as: "The couple changed beds and the groom got married. They are tickling each other when they are asleep, and they will be very light before playing together. " "The carpenter's real name is home, and the bed is like a game shed. The first one came out to shoot trees with crimson jade, and the second one came out to get married in harmony. "

Some young mothers wrote four poems with ancient names or riddles, and those who look at the bride should also focus on the theme. Otherwise, they are regarded as having no saints and face in the village. However, some young women only learn a few simple phrases, and those who see new people will laugh at her. For example, they sang, "If you want to be a young woman, you can't write poems. If you want to be a mother pig, you can't pry the fence, and you can't learn how to spin. How can you make this money? "

In the noisy bridal chamber, sometimes until late at night, in order to persuade the bride-watchers to come back, the green mother sang, "Come to the side with sweet tea in hand, and the clock points to the sky with a short hand." At this point, it is already late at night. Please bring tea back to the circle. Your poems will make me bow to my knees. I will go to Beijing tomorrow in junior high school and high school. " If those who see the new couple still don't want to come back, they will sing: "I heard that Qing Niang is a talented person, and four sentences make up a big basket." I came here for advice tonight. Please don't refuse to go abroad. "

Finally, the bride-watcher ordered a boy to send a red candle, and the bride immediately came forward to receive it. This is called "connecting the light". Those who look at the newlyweds will sing, "Today, open a red light for the bride and groom to celebrate your marriage, and everyone will be happy here. I hope you both go to bed in the morning. " The bridal chamber is over.

The last link for a green mother to do well is to be led by the corner. She sang while pulling the corner of the quilt: "The first peony embroidered by the corner of the quilt, the husband and wife are concentric, both of them eat until they are 200 years old, and the first lady is the male champion." "The third place is blessed by the horn. Mr. Right is accompanied by Juan. He will be together for a hundred years, and Gui Zilan will be in front of the sun." "Embroidery covers the mother * * * Jun, the grandson of the piano and singer, and leads Qi Mei's white hair, and his life is 800 years older than that of Peng Zu." The wedding night is over.

Author: Li

The basic procedure of Chaoshan traditional wedding

With the development of the times, Chaoshan people's weddings have become more and more fashionable, and many young men and women have already got rid of the marriage custom of "parents' orders and matchmakers' words". However, traditional weddings still exist.

Proposal, also known as proposal. That is, the matchmaker proposes to the man, or the matchmaker introduces the woman to the man first, and then proposes to the woman after the man approves.

Get married. Here are two links. After the two sides agreed to get married, the matchmaker wrote the woman's name, date of birth, place of origin and ancestors on Geng stickers and sent them to the man. If there are no unexpected and unlucky things in the man's house within three days, such as breaking bowls and pots, it is called "three days good" With this good sign, the man agreed to exchange positions with Geng. After changing the Geng post, please ask someone to divine and get married to confirm whether men and women are born together or together.

Engaged. After marriage, we enter the engagement stage, that is, the man prepares the gift and the woman is engaged. Gifts are usually a pair of gold earrings or a gold ring, as well as a gold necklace, sugar and noodles, which are all symbols of engagement. When a woman is engaged, she should distribute candy and cakes to her relatives and neighbors to inform them that the engagement has been reached, and then get engaged. Hiring people, also known as dispatching. In the past, the bride price of the rich was gold and silver, colored satin, pig and sheep wine and fruit; The poor are betel nuts and chicken wine. Chaozhou people regards betel nut as a symbol of good luck and a distinctive employment gift. Modern bride price includes physical objects and cash. There must be more than four items: sugar, noodles, Daji (Chaozhou orange), gold and silver jewelry, cloth, cakes and so on. , but they cannot be odd, but must be even. Cash, also known as bride price money, is divided into one, two and four, but they are all multiples. When engaged, the woman should return the gift, that is, return the cake and food in the engagement, and give back "mandarin ducks and bananas", oranges, pig hearts and so on. Yuanyang and banana are two bananas that coexist, symbolizing a hundred years old; The orange homonym "Ji" symbolizes good luck; The pig's heart (half left in the woman's body) symbolizes concentricity. At this time, both parties will solemnly distribute cakes and food from each other's gifts to relatives and neighbors to report the wedding ceremony. Friends and neighbors should also return gifts to congratulate them. Invitation date, after the engagement ceremony, we should choose the wedding date and tell the woman, including telling her when to cut the wedding dress, when to pull a face, when to take a shower and when to get married. Most of the invitations are held in the dark, and the custom of welcoming the bride in the dark is preserved, which is really an ancient heritage.

The wedding ceremony is the ceremony for the groom to marry the bride at the woman's house, and it is also the most important procedure in the wedding. There are two kinds of wedding banquets: one is the groom's wedding banquet, and the other is that the man invites a "lucky person" to meet him. At this time, the bride often burst into tears, which is called "crying marriage". On the one hand, I cry for being away from my parents. On the other hand, it is said that only tears can make my parents rich.

When the sedan chair comes to the door of her husband's family, they will set off firecrackers to welcome her. The groom kicked off the sedan chair, rolled up the curtain, pulled off the wishful thinking on the bride's head and put on airs on her forehead. Kicking off the sedan chair and tying a greeting message are intended to give the bride a fright: everything must be as her husband wishes in the future. This is a hint of husband's power. Then the bride stepped over a pile of burning "fire smoke" under the threshold with the help of the bridesmaid. After the bride enters the house, accompanied by the "mother-in-law" invited by her husband's family, she will "marry" the groom, enter the bridal chamber, and go to the hall to serve tea to her elders and peers. At this time, the green mother should recite carols beside her. On the wedding day, the bride's family will give the man lily soup made by brother in law. May the bride please everyone in her husband's family. The next day, I will send the bride fungus pig heart soup, hoping that the bride will not forget her family and relatives. Only for the third time can I stay in my parents' house for a few days and talk about my feelings of missing my parents.

Girls here also have the custom of giving money to their sisters when they get married. The "sister money" is given by the groom who came to get married to the younger brothers and sisters who sent the bride on the road. It's usually 4 yuan and 4.8 cents. Giving my sister's money to a man and a woman means "good". 448 points, which means "the world is good" and "the world is not divided (separated)"

The groom should hold a solemn ceremony of "making the bed" when decorating the new house. When I was in bed, I asked the fortune teller to choose a date, and the orientation of the bed was also particular. When you are in bed, you should do "four sentences" for good luck.

When the bride wears heavy makeup on the sedan chair, her family will pour a basin of water on the sedan chair and say, "When water is poured on the sedan chair, the bride will become new." My best wishes to the married bride. However, of course, the sedan chair is no longer spilled now, but bicycles or motorcycles and cars. In the past, the bride had to have two pairs of wooden shoes in her dowry, which not only facilitated her daily life, but also meant "growing old together" or "following suit". After the bride enters the door, she has to get up early every other morning to cook and cook a bowl of fragrant rice by herself. When the old man, the old woman and her husband's brothers and sisters get up, they are invited to have a taste. It is said that this bowl of sweet rice, sugar should be brought from her family, and the saliva must be mixed into the rice soup when cooking. Of course, saliva mixed with rice soup has to be done quietly, and people who eat it don't have to ask more. This custom means that the husband-in-law eats fragrant rice containing the bride's saliva, and the bride and the whole family can live in harmony.

During the three days of their wedding, the bride and in-laws should avoid meeting each other. On the morning of the fourth day, the bride will fetch water from the public well where her new home is located. Before pumping water, put a handful of brown sugar and soil brought by her family into the well. This is to make the bride not "acclimatized" and live in harmony with her neighbors.

Making trouble in the bridal chamber: A folk activity that has arisen in recent years is to worship the God of Wealth at midnight. No matter where, the climax of the wedding is "having a wedding." The same is true of Chaoshan. The sachet was embroidered by the bride in the boudoir before marriage. People should judge the bride's dexterity, clumsiness, diligence and laziness from the skill and quantity of these embroidery crafts.

If you want to see the bride's face, you must say "four words" to mean good luck, and then the bride will put down the fan that covers her face. There are also some humorous thugs who use the method of suppressing before promoting or suppressing before promoting, so that the bride doesn't know how to answer. In the past, there were many special wedding customs in Chaoshan area. With the progress of society, some of these marriage customs have been eliminated, and some have names, but their forms have completely changed.

Finger marriage (also known as early marriage): if an elderly friend or close relative is a man and a woman, both parents will designate two pregnant babies as future husband and wife, which is called finger marriage. When both men and women grow up, whether they like it or not, their parents will choose to get married one day, which is called "changing rooms"

The custom of sending betrothal gifts and returning gifts in Chaoshan

The custom of giving bride price in Chaoshan area is also called giving bride price, that is, after both men and women agree on the wedding date, the man sends bride price through an intermediary. There are wedding stickers and wedding books to send ancient gifts, and most people just send bride price. The bride price and the bride's dowry are agreed in advance. The engagement money is given to the woman's parents; Gifts such as gold, silver, jewelry, clothing and cloth are for daughter-in-law; Brocade candy, biscuits and curling irons were given as gifts to the lady's relatives and neighbors. If the woman has living grandparents, she must give a pig leg; If their parents are alive, they will give away pork (commonly known as excrement-washing meat) to thank their parents for their parenting.

The woman gave a simple gift, only candy cake, and asked the man to send away his relatives and neighbors and inform him of the wedding date. If the man has a sticker or marriage certificate, he will reply and exchange marriage certificates.

In addition to paper money, gold and silver jewelry, clothing cloth, there are electrical appliances, sewing cars, clocks and watches. It all depends on the man's economic strength, and so does the woman's return.