Elders often say that "beating you is for your future". Does hitting people really have the effect of educating children?

Can't play an educational role. When children make mistakes or disobey, many parents' first reaction is to threaten, abuse or violently hit their children. This will have an immediate effect, and children will calm down and stop being naughty, so many parents mistakenly think that beating and scolding education is useful.

In fact, children are "obedient" because they are forced by the authority and pressure of their parents. When children grow up and have the strength of their parents to compete, they will talk back, resist and rebel.

My uncle was strong-willed and grumpy when he was young. When my cousin does something wrong, he only beats and scolds. When my cousin was in 1 grade, she fell in love with her deskmate's pencil case and quietly took it home. When my uncle learned about this, he indiscriminately called my cousin "shameless, stealing, and not learning well since she was a child". It seems that only scolding can't educate her cousin, or even slap her in the face.

My uncle educated my cousin, and my cousin never took other people's things, but my cousin became more and more indifferent to my uncle and even had some hatred. When my cousin comes of age, she can't forget her uncle's shameless words. She and her uncle are never close, and they don't like going home at ordinary times. Yelling and cursing, even punching and kicking, this rude way of education will only destroy children's hearts and make them alienate and resent their parents.

Violent corporal punishment will make children realize that when other methods fail, they can use force to solve the problem. Moreover, people's emotional judgment follows the "emotional judgment priority law". The law of priority of emotional judgment means that emotion takes precedence over reason and affects people's judgment.