Love battle tells us eight truths.

Love battle is a love counseling program launched by Tianjin Satellite TV. When men and women in the world of mortals are worried about their feelings, there is always a program that will touch your heart when watching the guests on the stage happy, crying, hesitating and wandering.

1. There are no shortcuts in the world.

Girls and boys are college classmates, and their love at graduation has also been tested by breaking up in different places. The boy promised the girl that if she returned to her hometown, her job, house and hukou would be solved. The temptation of big cities is enormous. The girl and the boy went to his hometown together, but none of her promises were fulfilled. Girls work hard, but boys are addicted to games. Even if the girl's parents come, the boy just shows up and asks when they will get married. The boy replied that he didn't know at home yet.

As long as you leave with this man, you can leave the small city where you live on the 18th line and come to the big city where you are tempted. But I forgot that that person doesn't represent a big city, and the shortcut I thought made me pay more. Down-to-earth, the road is getting wider and wider, and the winding shortcut has become a cecal path.

The influence of family background is very important.

Psychology especially emphasizes the influence of family background on individuals. For example, children whose parents quarrel are likely to continue this pattern in their marriage, because they did not learn the correct way of falling in love in childhood. Another example is the family where the father is absent, and the son is often more attached to the mother, because the mother often regards the son as the imaginary "other half".

One issue of love battle told a story: Brother-sister relationship is very common, right? But that woman shouted the slogan "it's either your mother or me", which is very unusual. As it turns out, neither boys nor mothers like older women who have "bad jobs". Every time a woman goes to her house, she doesn't give her a good look. Even though the woman arranged hospitalization for her and reimbursed all the expenses, she turned against her when she left the hospital. This man really doesn't want to disobey his mother, but he doesn't want to leave his girlfriend. The woman quit, the man ate her and drank her, and even she gave the money to the man to raise her mother, and the result was not good.

I was deeply impressed by a man's words in the program: "I spent some money on you. What happened?" Not many men in the world can take women's money for granted without dignity. More like a child complaining to his mother. After careful inquiry, I learned that when a man was a child, his parents divorced, and he lacked the image of a man that his father should give him. The strength of his mother also made him have no independent personality. Of course, he didn't learn to be an indomitable person. Although he is an adult, he behaves more like a boy looking for "breast milk" everywhere.

In my opinion, the so-called fate refers to being born into a family. You can't choose to come from a family, and you will probably live according to its trajectory. It is never easy to get rid of it, and it takes great efforts.

3. Like-minded

These two young people are soul mates, they love each other, and they may love each other even more. Because of looks, temperament, material and knowledge, I don't know why I am infatuated. Because love throws us together, those who decide to be together are always like-minded.

In a program, there is such a pair of childhood lovers: a girl and a boy have been in love since junior high school, and both parents agree. Is this completely happy? End. But after graduation, differences came: boys want to stay in their hometown and get married early, while girls want to go to Guangzhou to accumulate experience and start a business and get married for a while. In the live broadcast, the boys kept emphasizing: "Do you know how difficult it is to start a business? how much is it? It is good for girls to get married and have children early. " I don't understand girls' "asking for it" at all.

Seeing this, I really want to sigh that birds know the ambition of a swan. Whether it is stability or entrepreneurship, no one is right or wrong, just in different ways and without common goals. I can't give you the stability you want, and you can't stand the wonderful twists and turns I want. If two people are together, one of them must be wronged by himself, and he can endure the injustice for a while, but giving up his lifelong dream is tantamount to living in purgatory. Only two like-minded people can make life better. We are separated because we love each other, because we have different wishes and different ways. The love of adults is more important to know their own needs.

4. Don't fantasize about love

When Lin Yinhui faced Xu Zhimo's pursuit, he simply said, "He doesn't love me, but he imagines my romantic feelings with the poet." This is great wisdom, but today many people are still looking for the marriage of a lover addicted to fantasy.

In one episode, a girl falls in love with a young man and treats him like life, but she still can't stop the young man from having an affair again and again. The guest teacher advised the girl to leave, but the girl reluctantly said, "He is really good to me, and everything depends on me"; If you don't leave, the girl will be miserable again: "I really don't want to clean up his mess again." Every time the women he found asked me to clean, I was fed up. "

Do boys love girls? I don't know. What I know is that if there is such a girl who can be my free old maid and sleep with me, if I am a man, I will not refuse. Sweet talk, okay? Doing housework occasionally is a good man? A silly girl in love always has thousands of excuses to help her lover justify herself, but she dare not face the reality: he doesn't love you that much. Reality is cruel, but fantasy is happy. The fantasy is that he is still young, and the temptation outside the fantasy is great. The fantasy is that I think too much. Love always makes people blind and immersed in illusory dreams. Wake up, girl, is this true love? Ask your heart, it knows best.

True love can cross the gap, but there is too little true love.

Talk about a suitable topic. The girl has a good family condition and is willing to buy a house after marriage. The condition is that the man's son-in-law is adopted by his wife. The man's condition is poor, but he is not lacking in ambition and resolutely refuses to accept it. Say that two people have love? This does not seem to be the case. True love is that I love this man, regardless of his status, but the girl thinks that this man can't eat western food, doesn't know Japanese food, only sings drooling songs, and only loves this man's Gao Shuai. The man doesn't like the girl's luxury.

The gap between families has brought about different views and living habits, which has always been a gap. Your frugality has become haggle over every ounce in my eyes, while my usual consumption is your extravagance. Without true love, going to the wrong door is a disaster. Any little thing will be the fuse to detonate the bomb. Since then, the air has been filled with smoke, and there is no peace at home.

6. Noisy is life, and there is no perfect lover.

Some people's marriages are respectful and like-minded, such as Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang. Some lovers are noisy all their lives, but they never give up. For example, a couple have been quarreling since they got married. My wife opened a clothing store to measure male customers. The husband is jealous and the wife is disobedient. What about the wife? Blame her husband for fooling around every day, and he hasn't saved a suite after 20 years of marriage. The husband resents his wife for not being gentle and gives orders to him all day; The wife accused her husband of dreaming all day and not keeping his feet on the ground. The husband wronged his only voice for many years and wanted to make a movie, but his wife didn't support it. At first, the two quarreled and accused each other on the stage, and the audience felt the rhythm of divorce. But when the wife talked about suffocation, things took a big turn. The husband went to his wife and wiped her tears with paper.

It turns out that no matter how many years of quarrelling, their love has always been there. After a fight, after a fight, or together, this is probably true love. We often do one thing: we don't know when we will be blessed. Those who lack love envy those who have love, while those who lack money always stare at those who have money, and their shortcomings are longer than others. No one is perfect, and there is no perfect lover. Be more tolerant and less complaining.

7. There is no love for no reason

I believe all women have a little woman's dream in their hearts: no matter how powerful they look, they all want a man to lean on in their hearts. Therefore, raising you is probably the most beautiful love story in the world.

This is a story about me raising you. The girl found a boyfriend who is eight years older than her. The beauty of a girl makes a man automatically shield all her shortcomings in the early stage of love, such as not doing housework, not working and spending money. But it's ok to take your girlfriend home like a fairy for a day or two. After a long time, men will also complain: "It's very tiring to go to work, and it's very stressful to go home and do housework. Girls never help me share, they only go shopping. " Girls are also very wronged. "When I fell in love, I said I was willing to tolerate all my shortcomings. It only took a year to change? I am also trying to change, but I can't eat a big fat man in one breath. "

Obviously, what boys want is a caring lover, while what girls want is to find a long-term meal ticket that is good for her. But how can there be love for no reason in this world, and how can there be love that pays wholeheartedly but asks for nothing in return as in the novel? Love between urban men and women is warm to each other. I take care of you, you care about me, and I pay for my harvest. This will always be an exchange of equal value. People's hearts are all flesh, and sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity.

8. Stop it, girl

Girls who have seen "The Roar of Lions" should remember the lines inside: From now on, you can only be nice to me; Spoil me, don't lie to me; You must do everything you promised me; Everything you said to me should be true. Don't lie or scold me, but care about me; When others bully me, you should come out to help me at the first time; When I am happy, you should be happy with me; When I am unhappy, you should make me happy; Always thought I was the most beautiful; You want to see me in your dream; I am the only one in your heart.

For a long time, this has been regarded as the golden rule in love. Girls use it to test boys' love, but they can pass the test. In a certain issue, a boy and a girl have only been in love for nine months. They can't stand the girl's work: girls must like comments within five minutes when making friends, otherwise they will call each other in series. Send her home, even if you fail the final exam. You must buy two gifts, one for duty and the other for surprise. You must buy whatever you want, and you will be scolded if you are slow. Girls don't like boys' fitness, so they rush to the boys' dormitory and tear all his fitness clothes to pieces. Make a scene in the boys' company because the boys are going back to work in the girls' hometown. If you love me, you must put up with my work. Oh, no, this is not the so-called, this is a heavy test of the sleeping beauty princess castle.

I can tolerate your work once or twice, but I am also a mortal. There is no one in this world who doesn't need the love of others. If falling in love only needs others to be kind to you, and you don't have to pay anything, what is it? What do you mean by attachment and love? Girl, don't wait to kill your boyfriend to regret it.