Young white boy makes me feel very inferior.

Enthusiasm, cheerfulness and unrestrainedness are the characteristics of young people. It would be sad to lose the nature that young people should have, but in reality there are indeed some people who are young and old and wear adult clothes all day long. Masks pursue the effect of youth and maturity, and pretend to be sophisticated and insensitive to deal with life. What they show is a twisted character. In fact, on the surface, they pretend to be blind to the people and things in life that really touch their hearts, but their hearts are full of contradictions and pain. This kind of psychological pain caused by a self-enclosed mentality is far more uncomfortable than other pains, and can even lead to a lack of motivation and willingness to degenerate. Because the inner world of human beings is made up of emotions. If you have to artificially suppress your emotions and deliberately close them up, how can you live a relaxed and happy life? I remember reading a book called "The Naughty Boy and Me". Teacher Ding Youkuan talked about a student named Xiaogang who was one of the best students in the class. He had a stutter, but he couldn't answer smoothly during an open Chinese class. The teacher's question made the students burst into laughter. This class also failed because Jian Xiaogang gave a speech. The teacher asked him not to speak in class in the future. After that, Xiaogang was not interested in anything and worried alone. He never talked to others and closed himself up. Sometimes he vented his anger on smashing public property and writing slogans attacking teachers. A year later, he stopped talking to others. A good student turned into a poor student in the class. His transformation shows that self-isolation is not conducive to the physical and mental development of our young people. So, how to overcome the self-isolation mentality?

First, respect and trust others. Living in human society, you must interact with others. If you are indifferent to interpersonal interactions, it shows that you have a sense of trust in people and a child-like innocent intuition. It has been destroyed by self-isolation, so you will not get the happiness you deserve from it, so you have to learn to relax your intense life rhythm and try to find fun in life, such as saying hello to new acquaintances and having fun with friends. Wait, so that you will not go into the closed abyss.

Second, learn to say "that's interesting." You will often find in life that things that are not laughable or interesting in the eyes of adults are so funny and funny in our eyes. Because of this, children's troubles always disappear in the mind soon. If we are like children and find everything "very interesting", then life will often be filled with hearty laughter and infinite joy.

Third, live life naturally. We are all used to having a plan and a purpose in everything we do, so that we can get things done. But in real life, we are not completely rigid. We cannot not make plans for one thing, or worry about not achieving the goal. If you plan everything carefully to make sure nothing goes wrong, you will unknowingly close your feelings tightly. We should recall our childhood, pay attention to the occasional inspiration and fun in life, and sometimes let ourselves relax and be happy. Don't rush around a clear goal or a problem all day long, that will be very tiring. We must understand that happiness is An important value standard in life.

Don’t suppress your true emotions. There will be many intoxicating things in life that are worthy of our attention. We should truly express our emotions. If you are about to separate from your best friend, you should let the tears that are about to well up flow out smoothly instead of holding back the tears in your eyes or hiding in the bathroom to wash them away. You should hide the most valuable part of yourself in order to avoid being gossiped about by others. This is It is self-destruction and meaningless. It is better to treat your own emotions, follow your heart, and listen to the voice of your soul, so that even if you make a mistake, you will not be too sad.

So I think when you encounter setbacks and feel troubled, you might as well tell your relatives and friends about your depression. There are some things you can’t say to your family, but you can tell your closest friends. There is a song that goes like this: "When my friends are sad, I cry; when my friends are happy, I am happy." If you can have such a friend, then you will be a very happy person.

In psychology, there is also such a rule: telling others about your troubles can reduce your pain by half, and telling others about your joy can double your happiness. In Christianity, people turn to others in order to alleviate their sense of sin. The priest confesses for forgiveness.

French playwright Grunay once said something similar: "People can alleviate their misfortune by talking."

To conquer fear and inferiority, you cannot talk too much and stop at fantasy. But it must be put into practice and seen in action.

The fastest and most effective way to build self-confidence is to do what you fear until you succeed. The specific methods are as follows:

1. Stand out and sit in the front seat

In various forms of gatherings and in various types of classes, the seats at the back are always filled first, and most of the people occupy the back seats. , all hope that they will not be "too conspicuous". And the reason they are afraid of being noticed is because they lack confidence.

Sitting in the front builds confidence. Because if you dare to be the first, to go in front of others, to dare to put yourself in the public eye, you must have enough courage and courage. Over time, this behavior becomes a habit, and inferiority complex subtly turns into self-confidence. In addition, sitting in a conspicuous position will enlarge your proportion in the field of vision of leaders and teachers, increase the frequency of recurrence, and strengthen yourself. Try this as a rule and sit as far forward as possible from now on. Although sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, remember that everything about success is conspicuous.

2． Open your eyes wide and look at others squarely

The eyes are the windows to the soul. A person’s eyes can reflect his character, reveal his emotions, and convey subtle information. Not daring to look others in the eye means inferiority, timidity, and fear; avoiding other people's eyes reflects a dark and unforgiving mentality. Looking squarely at others is equivalent to telling them: "I am honest and aboveboard; I respect you very much and like you." Therefore, looking squarely at others is a reflection of a positive attitude, a symbol of self-confidence, and a display of personal charm.

3. Walk quickly with your head held high and your chest high

Many psychologists believe that people’s walking posture and pace have a certain relationship with their psychological state. Lazy posture and slow pace are manifestations of low mood and a reflection of unpleasant feelings about yourself, your work, and others. If you observe carefully, you will find that body movements are the result of mental activities. Those who have been beaten down and ostracized often drag their feet and lack self-confidence. In turn, changing the posture and speed of walking can help adjust your mood. To show extraordinary confidence, walk faster than the average person. Speeding up your walking speed is like telling the whole world: "I want to go to an important place and do something very important." Walking briskly and with a high posture will bring a bright mood to people and make people feel inferior. Escape, confidence breeds.

4. Practice speaking in public

Speaking in front of a large audience requires great courage and courage. This is an important way to cultivate and exercise self-confidence. Around us, there are many people with sharp ideas and high talents, but they are unable to use their strengths to participate in discussions. It’s not that they don’t want to participate, it’s that they lack confidence.

In public, people who are taciturn think: "My opinion may not be valuable. If I speak it out, others may feel stupid. It's better for me not to say anything. Besides, others may think it's stupid." They know more than I do, and I don't want them to know that I'm so ignorant." These people often make vague promises to themselves: "I'll speak up next time," but they know very well that they can't fulfill this promise. Every time he becomes taciturn, he is poisoned by lack of confidence again, and he will lose more and more confidence.

On a positive note, if you speak up as much as possible, your confidence will increase. No matter what kind of meeting you are attending, you must take the initiative to speak every time. Many people who were originally dull or stuttered became confident by practicing speaking in public, such as Bernard Shaw, Tanaka Kakuei, Demosthenes, etc. Therefore, public speaking is the “vitamin” of faith.

5. Learn to smile

Most people know that laughter can give people confidence, and it is a good medicine for lack of confidence. But there are still many people who don't believe this because they never try to smile when they are scared.

Real laughter can not only cure one's own bad emotions, but also immediately resolve the hostility of others. If you smile sincerely at a person, he or she will have a good impression of you, which is enough to make you confident. As a poem says: "Smile is the rest for the tired, the day for the depressed, the sunshine for the sad, and the best nutrition of nature."

So I think that every young person should Show your youthful grace and innocence to your heart's content, face life with a warm and cheerful attitude, and let happy life embrace us.