Companionship and listening are the most important

While riding the subway a few days ago, I saw a slogan:

“Company is the best education;

Listening is the best communication.

Care for the healthy growth of minors.”

The slogan was so brilliant that I immediately wrote it down in Evernote.

Regarding the education of their children, many parents send their children to various interest classes on weekends in order to cultivate their children's interests and hobbies. There is nothing wrong with this approach in itself. It allows children to discover their interests and receive professional guidance from the beginning.

But it is wrong to blindly follow the trend or compare. If you see other students enrolling in piano classes, you will also sign up; if other students enroll in 3 training classes on weekends, then your own children will enroll in at least 4 training classes. This will make the child very hard and not get enough rest during the weekend when they should be resting. It’s not easy for mothers either. Many mothers send their children to training classes on weekends, and then sit outside playing with their mobile phones while waiting for their children to finish class.

"Don't let your children lose at the starting line" is the slogan of many businesses. In fact, it is a bowl of "poisonous chicken soup", because it is not just the starting point that determines the child's future, but also the day after tomorrow. effort.

What children need most is the company of their parents, their attention, feedback and encouragement. Parents play with them and study with their children, which helps children gain more security and become more confident in themselves, learning and life.

Parents are the best role models for their children. If they want their children to become the kind of people they want them to be, parents should do it themselves first. Because the strongest ability of children before their teenage years is the ability to imitate. Parents should be good themselves and let their children receive positive guidance and influence. Instead of running outside the boundaries and asking your children to do this or that if you can't do it yourself. It is very easy for children to live like their parents in the future!

If we ourselves do not recognize exam-oriented education, then we should not let children study only for exams without taking the initiative to think and learn. Academic performance is only one dimensional measure of children's growth. Parents cannot just focus on how well their children do with their homework, how many points they get on exams, or what their ranking is. Instead, we should pay more attention to the growth and changes of our children. "Growth" is more important than "success". Any so-called success is not an end, but a new starting point.

On vacation, the best ways to rest include reading and spending time in nature. Cultivating children's reading habit or taking them into nature are good parent-child activities.

The communication style between parents and children has a great influence on the growth of children. "Preaching" or "political class" communication methods are not advisable. I think many people born in the 1970s and 1980s have had such unpleasant experiences. Their parents are used to "giving political classes" at the dinner table, which is annoying. , resulting in not eating well, and even polarized conflicts, and finally broke up unhappy.

The best communication is actually listening. Parents should not just focus on what is said, but listen to their children’s true inner thoughts. Without understanding, it will be difficult to communicate effectively.

In fact, whether in parent-child communication or in the adult world, the proportion of "listening" in communication should be greater than "talking". We are always impatient and forget to listen carefully.

Remember, "Company is the best education; listening is the best communication."