As long as you do something after breaking up, you can reverse the height and get back together smoothly.

1. Accept the objective facts and analyze the reasons for breaking up.

The first step to retain is to accept the objective fact that everyone broke up. In fact, many people can't accept it. Even if the other party is strictly separated, they'd better contact him as a couple, questioning the unfaithfulness of the other party and whether the other party has long suspected these things. In fact, these practices are not correct. The other person really wants to break up with you. By doing so, you not only touched ta, but also exposed your immaturity. Undoubtedly, let ta believe that it is right to break up with you.

The best way is to accept the objective fact that everyone broke up. The relationship between you is temporarily interrupted, and the past is the past. Since we want to get back together, let's not talk about the past, and attract ta for the second time! If you recognize "compound = secondary attraction", your mentality will never be so extreme, and you will never have too high expectations for the other half and expose too much demand. Hope is low, and temporary setbacks will not hurt the brain.

2, men and women think differently, leading to intensified contradictions.

I have actually said many times that couples have different ideas, but some people are not clear about it, or even if they know it, they can't control themselves. Now I must calm down and sum up my last relationship.

If you think you have solved it properly, you may just think from your own point of view and logic, not from the other side's point of view. You did the right thing, there is no way for the other party to break up with you. It's because the other person left because you just felt right. Now, if you want to attach great importance to this situation, you should know what the other person thinks.

3. Explore each other's spiritual needs

If you understand the differences between men and women's thinking, you will be more aware of each other's emotional requirements. In fact, I believe that everyone has a "projection" mentality. In the final analysis, it is to add your own needs and needs to others. You think the other person must need something in this relationship, so you will love each other in the way you like. But usually the other person doesn't think so!

Generally speaking, boys need to be respected, appreciated, understood and trusted in their feelings, while women need to be loved, cared for, recognized and tolerated in their feelings. However, it is only the broad needs of young people and women, and everyone should be treated specifically.

Now let me ask you, what is the most important need of your ta in your relationship? I think you probably don't know, not sure. Because a person who loved you before, if he can get real achievements from me, ta won't leave you.

But now, if you want to get back together, you must understand what spiritual needs ta has and what the most important emotional needs are. Let me give you an example to make you understand. For example, girls always complain that boys play games and let boys choose between them. Why do girls dislike boys playing games so much? Does it mean that she will be happy without playing games?

Actually, it's not. The girl doesn't seem to like boys playing games. In fact, she doesn't like boys playing games and ignoring her, because playing games delays tryst with her, because playing games deliberately doesn't return her messages, because playing games doesn't want to work.

In fact, what she values more is the boy's lack of companionship and renege, as well as his overall planning for her future, which does not meet her requirements for companionship and trust, nor does it meet her expectations for the future. Girls are very insecure at the moment, so they have to talk about boys' games in an attempt to make boys realize their problems.

Therefore, whether analyzing the reasons for breaking up or exploring the spiritual needs of the other party, we must not be confined to the surface, but go deep into the core of the problem! However, many people don't have this level. They will only go further and further on the wrong road, just like a blind man touching an elephant.

4, symptomatic treatment, change yourself.

If you do a series of analysis above, then you will try to change yourself! This change must be substantial, not superficial! If you want to change, please stick to it, there is no passion for three minutes! You don't change for everyone, just for yourself! !

If you really become a more successful person, you don't have to work hard to repair it, and ta will naturally stay with you. Even if it is impossible between two people, there will be a better half approaching you. Only oneself can benefit from the change!