What advice do you give girls before and after marriage?

first: don't use money to please any man. Because he will probably only fall in love with your money, but not with you. Give him expensive gifts, invite him to eat in high-end restaurants and so on.

second: don't love any man more than yourself. Because when you put all your love into him, you lose yourself. When you lose yourself, you will definitely lose the whole world, including the person you love most.

third: don't take the initiative to ask out a man three times in a row. Because you are too active, you will often be passive in the end. When you are in a passive state, it is easy to be manipulated by the other party.

fourth: if you are going to marry a man, don't let him get you on the first date. Because he won't cherish what is easy to get, just like most people think that there is no good goods for free.

fifth: don't get pregnant before marriage. Because the risks inside are complex and changeable, and it is difficult to control, once you have the other person's children, you are easy to be bound, and because the children make more compromises and concessions, the other person will push his luck. Even if he doesn't push his luck, his family may.

sixth: don't overdraw your strength to pursue a man, because everything you get by overdrawing your strength will often be lost in the end. You overdraw your strength in the early stage and have no strength to maintain it later.

Seventh: Don't marry someone with unstable temperament, because your happiness will be broken in an instant. A person with a stable temperament will certainly be able to control himself, but it is actually terrible that he cannot control himself.

Eighth: Don't provoke people with bad habits, because they will lead you into the abyss of pain. Don't think that you can change him. His parents can't change him for decades. Don't be overconfident.

Ninth: Don't marry people who are often late for appointments. These people often don't love you very much and prefer to make excuses. Imagine, if he keeps making excuses in marriage, can you really stand it?

Tenth: Don't marry people who are sloppy and impolite. Such people are often poorly cultivated and have poor family education. If he says that he dresses casually because he treats you as a relative, you will feel that you might as well be treated as an outsider when he treats outsiders politely.

Eleventh: Don't marry someone who won't suffer. Such people are often selfish and stingy. In marriage, dedication is needed most of the time, and if he haggles with you in life, your marriage life is actually not easy.

Twelfth: Don't marry someone who doesn't know how to be grateful. This kind of person likes to take advantage of petty advantages and has a small pattern. He can't see your contribution and takes it for granted. If you stay with such a person after marriage, you will collapse sooner or later.

XIII: Don't make friends with people who can laugh when they see the tragedy. Such people tend to be abnormal and very scary. He won't let you see his true heart. He is very thoughtful. At first, you will feel unique, but it's actually horrible, because you never know when tragedy will befall you.

before marriage, many people will enter the marriage hall at a loss because of their elders' urging, friends' urging or unexpected pregnancy. However, if you are planning and preparing to get married and happen to see this article, you must calm down and think hard about how many of these 13 articles your current partner has occupied. If you occupy a large number, you should think about getting married more carefully.