How to communicate with the parents of underachievers

In daily education, the transformation of underachievers is an important part of school work. In order to change the underachievers and promote the harmonious and all-round development of students, schools and families must form a joint force to coordinate education. The head teacher is in the middle position, not only educating students, but also knowing the communication skills with parents. Only when schools and families act in concert and have the same interests can we effectively transform underachievers. Practice has proved that the school has not achieved good results in transforming underachievers, because the class teacher failed to communicate well with parents. Years of experience as a class teacher made me realize that to do a good job of transforming underachievers, we must build a bridge of communication with parents.

Let's start with the students in this class.

At the beginning of school, I said to my students, "Some students like to go back and speak ill of their teachers in front of their parents and distort the facts. Some parents are as knowledgeable as their children. As far as I know, there are such students and parents in our class. Some parents not only scold their teachers on the phone, but also go to school to shoot benches with their teachers. Imagine what a gaffe it would be if your parents "made a fool of themselves". Not only will it be embarrassing to get along with the teacher in the future, but no one will look up to you in front of your classmates, because everyone will think that your parents are poor and their quality is not much higher. " You can also joke: "In a few years, when it comes to finding someone, your classmates will still say that your parents have no quality. Therefore, in order to make the teacher have a good mood to teach you, the students will have a good impression on you, and they will stop sneering at you for several years and become the talk of others after dinner. Please keep your mouth shut and cultivate good parents. In this way, the teacher is grateful to you and the society is grateful to you. "

Secondly, when we meet for the first time, we should leave a good impression on our parents.

When I first met my parents, the head teacher and parents felt the same way, and both wanted to know each other. The head teacher wants to see the parents, and parents also want to know what kind of teacher the child's head teacher is. Many underachievers hope that their children can meet a good teacher who can help change their children. Therefore, it is particularly important to meet the parents of underachievers for the first time. When I first met, I often paid attention to the following points: introducing successful cases in teaching appropriately to convince parents that I am a good teacher; Cleverly expounded my teaching and educational ideas and some activities to be carried out for the students in this class; Put forward clear requirements to parents in order to gain their cooperation and understanding. Only in this way can parents have enough trust in their teachers. They will actively cooperate with teachers in future education and teaching, and this trust will also have a good psychological effect on their children and our students.

Third, treat each other with sincerity and pay attention to speaking skills.

The most fundamental thing to educate underachievers is to do the ideological work of parents. To do ideological work, the class teacher must first be honest with the parents. Only sincerity can touch parents' hearts and make them cooperate with you happily. For parents with low quality, it is best to let the class teacher communicate by phone before letting him come to school. When parents come to the office, the class teacher must get up to meet them and move the chair to pour water; When parents leave, they get up and say goodbye, with a warmth and a bosom friend. After reporting the basic situation of the students in a friendly way, the class teacher can talk to the parents about the following points:

First, "through a few words with you, I think your quality is very high and you respect your teacher very much." At this time, most parents will say, "I haven't read any books or received any education." You can say, "Just because you don't read many books doesn't mean that your quality is not high, nor does it mean that you are not smart." My parents must be very happy to hear the news. If you need to invite parents to school, strike while the iron is hot. Because you are a high-quality parent, you cooperate with the teacher to educate your children. Please come to school sometime. (and added:) "Students are very afraid of their parents meeting their teachers. Even if you stay here for a short time, students will feel that their parents attach great importance to themselves. "

Although this parent had a lot of dissatisfaction with the teacher before, after the current class teacher said so, parents who have no quality will also be respectful to the teacher when they come to him. In addition, students see the United front of parents and teachers, which also reduces the possibility of distorting teachers with parents after returning home, and also recognizes teachers' education more.

Second, tell parents that a student is one in a million for a school; For a class, it is one tenth; But for a family, it is 100%. Therefore, the parents who suffer the most are those who don't know how to communicate well with teachers. Parents who suffer more are those who scold their teachers in front of their children, especially those who scold their teachers on the phone or at school. It is the teacher's responsibility to teach every class well, and it is also his responsibility to educate your children well, but there is no need to do our best for every student. If a teacher gives your son extra overtime or stays to make up his homework or educate him, parents will be too grateful. If you meet a teacher who complains in front of you because your child has made a bigger mistake, you should be more grateful to him, because this teacher is still in the mood to take your child seriously. You should feel lucky to have such a teacher who cares so much about children, and you should cooperate with the teacher more. Besides, people have feelings. If the teacher complains in front of you, he will feel embarrassed after the incident. For the sake of your parents' understanding, he will treat your children twice as well.

Third, many parents always regard the teacher as the enemy, and don't understand that the teacher is the person who educates the children with him and decides the future fate of the children together. Therefore, parents should treat teachers as friends, talk to them as friends, build a good communication platform and jointly cultivate their children.

Some parents get angry when they see the teacher. In fact, teachers are very busy every day. "If parents want to quarrel with the teacher, the teacher has no time and mood; But if you want to educate your children well, are teachers willing to spend this time with parents to educate their children well? " After hearing this, parents will cooperate with the teacher to solve the problem no matter how angry they are.

Fourth, pay attention to methods and report students' situation.

"Looking forward to the success of children and women" is the common wish of all parents. Every parent will feel very heavy when they hear their children's bad reports. As a class teacher, parents of underachievers will feel better if they can affirm their students' advantages at the beginning, sincerely appreciate and praise their good performance, and then point out their shortcomings, so that the atmosphere of educating students together will be very pleasant and they will have more confidence in educating their children. In this way, they will communicate with teachers more actively and cooperate with their work.

Sixth, trust and respect parents and be open-minded.

When communicating with parents, we should understand their difficulties, don't scold them, and don't pass on the mistakes of students to them. We should respect parents' feelings, be gentle and polite to parents, and communicate the gains and losses of educating children through discussion and conversation. Parents should not be burdened with students' study, but the necessary requirements should still be met. Don't discriminate against the parents of underachievers, treat them equally. Parents have opinions about the class teacher or school work, and if they have them, they will change them. If they don't, they will encourage them and be tolerant and open-minded. So parents will unite to educate their children.

Seventh, listen to parents' opinions and discuss good strategies for educating people.

When communicating with parents, listen to their opinions. A threesome requires a teacher. What's more, the head teacher faces so many parents, who come from all walks of life and are full of talents. Just because their children are underachievers does not mean that they have no experience in educating children. Some children are poor students because they are busy making a living and have no time to take care of their children. Put forward all kinds of good suggestions to parents and adopt them. The sincere cooperation between these parents and teachers should not be underestimated.

In short, in order to better transform underachievers, we must strive for parents to cooperate with teachers. Communicate with parents more, show more respect, tolerance and understanding to parents, treat every student well and respect every parent, and we will certainly gain more joy and see more beautiful hopes!