Why am I afraid of telephone communication now and prefer WeChat communication?

This phenomenon is called telephone phobia. Telephone phobia is not a mental illness, but it is a common phenomenon of modern people.

Each of us has something we like. On the contrary, each of us may have something we are afraid of, or some kind of environment. It is usually an unreasonable and inappropriate fear of a particular food or situation, or a feeling of rejection. In fact, the situation I was afraid of was not a real daily line at that time, but it encouraged me to avoid the object or situation I was afraid of.

Generally, this situation is caused by social pressure. Psychoanalysis holds that the subconscious instinct impulse depression of the parties leads to the transfer and avoidance of depression.

For example, when your phone rings, you will think of one or several callers who make you particularly afraid, and you will think of their reasons for calling, probably all kinds of overtime or criticism, which are largely topics that bring you pressure. Part of our social pressure comes from the urging of the telephone. We can try to use two calling cards, one for Zhang Gong and the other for our family. It feels different to answer the phone.

And you may have a slight social phobia, which should be more than just telephone communication, such as video chat, such as going out on a date.

In addition, the urgency of time will also bring different fears. Telephone communication is more oppressive than WeChat text communication, with short telephone time and fast event handling. And text communication can be processed and modified in more abundant time, and its pressure has been reduced to a very small concept. Although the pressure is the same, I can "choose" when I get involved in this pressure, or I can "choose" when I escape temporarily. Some people say that I never need to pause when texting, and I won't be nervous even when I receive it. Yes, but at least you know you have the right to put it down. Sometimes we don't really escape, but we need to know that we have the right to choose, so that we can feel safe. The process of making a phone call is coerced, and it is impossible to catch my breath in the middle. So calling is more stressful than texting, emailing or QQ.

In addition, when a person lacks confidence in his expressive ability, he will prefer to use words rather than voice input. Because the text can be revised repeatedly and sent after consideration. And voice must be in one step. So the fear of calling may also be caused by poor voice expression. To prove this, let's see if you are also afraid of WeChat voice chat. Is it closer to the anxiety of calling or the relaxation of texting? -If it is the former, it is the pressure of voice input.

Yes, the phone rings, which means that I will be forced into a tense interpersonal relationship, unable to pause or quit, and have a certain sense of invasion. From this, you may think, does the interview have the same characteristics (the boss asked you to talk in his office)? But in fact, the phone is more threatening than the interview, because the phone can only communicate with the other party through voice, and when the other party finishes speaking, it means that I have to give a response within one or two seconds to avoid silence. The silence on the phone was particularly embarrassing. Once there is no sound, it is completely blank. So there will be a particularly strong pressure to urge everyone to answer. In an interview, at least we can have tea, pretend to think or look at each other with a wry smile when we are not talking. These interactions can fill the embarrassment of no sound, serve as a buffer when we have nothing to say, and make the atmosphere less rigid. In other words, we can all relax during the interview, which is less disturbing than calling.