How to make a wife change her mind by cheating (four steps to save a woman's heart and make her change her mind)

After so many years of emotional counseling and guidance, marital problems are increasing every year. The rise of divorce rate under big data is enough to illustrate this point, and marital derailment has undoubtedly become the biggest fuse of divorce.

As a case of men's infidelity in previous years, marital infidelity is no longer a man's patent in recent years, and the cases of women's marital infidelity are on the rise.

When many male students with this experience come to consult, they will basically mention that they never thought that their wives would cheat, and they are still so confident after being exposed, so they are eloquent and will not hesitate to divorce.

For a man, I'm afraid there is no greater humiliation to be unfaithful to his wife, so often after discovery, anger will occupy all emotions, as if everything can be done at that moment, but after anger, endless anxiety and pain will follow.

0 1 Should a man save an derailed marriage?

A student found me and told me, "teacher, I am almost on the verge of collapse now." Whenever I see green, I lose my temper. As long as she is not in front of me, all kinds of pictures will appear in my mind. She is still clamoring for a divorce from me all day. "

So I asked him, "since you are so miserable, why don't you choose divorce to end this pain!" " "

But he cried and said to me, "Because I still love her, I don't want to lose her, let alone break up this family!" " "

Perhaps in the eyes of many men, it is unforgivable for his wife to cheat. Men should divorce decisively like men, or put aside men's face and dignity.

But the divorce, on the surface, is a matter of two people, but in fact it affects two families behind it.

And now that the problem has happened, impulse will only cause more harm. Let's calm down and think rationally as follows:

Is there emotional neglect of family and wife?

Is your wife cheating seriously or just to vent her dissatisfaction with you?

The endurance of both parents, after all, people in that era attached great importance to divorce.

The growth of children, single-parent families will inevitably have an impact on children.

For you, is the divorce to save face, or is it because you really have no feelings?

Are you sure that remarriage won't cause the same problems?

Besides, is it cowardice and compromise to choose salvation? The teacher wants to say that a man who dares to face his true feelings and chooses to save his marriage for his original commitment to his lover and his responsibility and persistence in his family is more worthy of respect.

Because in order to let their loved ones return to their families, they have broken through many grievances that ordinary people can't bear, and all this stems from love!

Defining the cause of derailment determines the direction of recovery.

Men sometimes cheat for the so-called physiological needs or novelty, but for women, they don't choose to abandon their families for no reason in order to bear the great pressure from the outside world. After all, since ancient times, women have to bear greater moral condemnation and public opinion condemnation than men.

Therefore, if you want your wife to return to the family and separate from the third party, you need to know the reason clearly and find the root of the problem, so that you can get twice the result with half the effort.

What are the reasons for the woman's derailment after marriage?

Derailment caused by loneliness

Most of this happens when the husband and wife have been away from home for a long time, or the husband often goes out early and comes back late for work reasons, and has no time to take care of his wife's family.

A woman who has not been cared for by her husband for a long time is easily moved by foreign care, and her inner loneliness is easily filled with foreign emotions. Once she meets a charming and active man, it is easy to lose her resistance, divert her emotional sustenance and lead to derailment.

Cheating caused by revenge

If my wife ever found out that she was having an affair outside, and it ended in discord, the life of husband and wife is like completing a task every time, and there is no emotional exchange, which is very pitiful.

Such a family is very easy to cheat because of revenge. We often say that men are more rational and women are more emotional, so women's behavior is often dominated by emotions. Perhaps because of a moment of tenderness, she forgave her husband's infidelity, but she didn't actually digest the injury.

When the negative emotions lurking in their hearts are aroused at a certain moment, they often choose to cheat and answer blows with blows, so we often hear such wives say, "You can be sorry for me, why can't I?" Absurd reasons.

Cheating caused by dissatisfaction

This kind of infidelity often occurs in marriage and family where women are strong and men are weak. The most common phenomenon in such a family is that the wife scolds her husband, doesn't like not being able to work, doesn't like earning too little, doesn't like not making progress, doesn't like not taking responsibility, and then there is a ruthless contrast between a good husband and others.

She will have all kinds of dissatisfaction with you, and naturally there will be all kinds of strong opposite sex around her. She will turn her dissatisfaction with you into appreciation or even worship of other powerful opposite sex, and then she will degenerate.

This kind of derailed woman's own conditions are often better than her husband's, and the working level in the life circle is often higher, and the chances of meeting the high-quality opposite sex will be great, and the chances of derailment will be even greater.

Understand your wife's inner needs before you can prescribe the right medicine.

No matter what kind of infidelity, in the final analysis, the reason is that women's internal needs are not met in marriage. When most male students ask whether they understand their wives' needs, they will get a * * * feedback: "She has basically given her all the money she earned, and she can have whatever she wants. What's she not satisfied with! "

Whether you don't understand or don't want to understand, it is an indisputable fact that the wife's inner needs are not met, so let's analyze the needs that women often ignore in their marriage life.

Insecurity is women's nature.

From the moment a woman begins to fall in love, she never stops fantasizing about the sweetness of love, the happiness after marriage and the family of three after having children.

Any sign of trouble in marriage will easily make them feel a sense of crisis and begin to doubt their initial decision, thus creating extreme insecurity.

Moreover, compared with material things, women's sense of security comes more from their husbands' concern. Material things can only determine the quality of conditions, and only men's concern is the greatest source of a happy life.

Nagging is a woman's "privilege"

When you are in love, you like her nagging around you all day, but after marriage, you begin to dislike her nagging. In fact, women will not become nagging after marriage, and nagging is their privilege.

It is the reason why men can't see through and the change of mentality.

Women also want to share your stress.

Many men like to hide their troubles in their hearts when they are outside. On the one hand, they feel responsible, on the other hand, they feel that talking about their wives can't help.

But women don't think so. They will want to solve problems for their men and do their wife's duty. If you are depressed but silent, your negative emotions can easily affect your wife, and bad emotions are the most likely to cause conflicts. So, you might as well open your heart and face them together.

Women need considerate care, but they don't like housewives who are not motivated.

No woman can exclude her husband's considerate care and arrange their daily life in order, but that doesn't mean they like a housewife without ambition. You can do without good material conditions, but you can't do without the will to make progress.

Once the economic beam falls on women, they will be confused and lose confidence in the future. Besides, consideration and dedication do not conflict.

A woman is willing to teach her husband and son for you, but she can't stand you ignoring his contribution and value.

Once a woman enters a marriage, she will put her family first and turn herself into a king kong. She can bear the complexity of the family for you and work hard with you. It can be said that the moment she married you, she decided to revolve around you in her life.

But as a husband, ignoring her sacrifice and paying, or even taking it for granted, will make her disappointed in marriage and lose confidence in life.

Grasp the inner needs and let the wife return to the family.

Finding the root cause of his wife's infidelity is the premise of recovery.

When a woman chooses to marry you, she doesn't think about getting worse from the beginning, but the contradiction accumulated between you. So since things have happened, don't always think about blaming her. After reading the previous analysis, calm down and analyze your own problems.

Only when you come out of your subjective consciousness and look at the problems between you objectively can you see the essence and root of the problems clearly, reduce your dislike for her, and then shift your focus to how to solve your problems.

It is better to retreat than to move forward.

Don't make a decision in a hurry, whether to go or stay is a problem that both of us have to face and think about. In fact, many times a woman asks for a divorce so urgently because she feels that she can't face you and because of your violent state, she has no other way to make a divorce decision.

You can choose to leave for a period of time, take a vacation for yourself, go out for a walk, or move out for a period of time, so that both sides have time and space to sort out their feelings and emotions, which is beneficial to solving problems.

Use your advantage as a husband.

Although from the point of view of emotional stickiness, your relationship with your wife is at a disadvantage compared with her and a third party, it is only the only disadvantage. For you, there are many advantages, beautiful memories, the habit of living together for so many years, the families of both sides, the familiar social circle, and perhaps the killer weapon of children. These intersections can serve as a strong backing in your recovery process.

Start over.

Although it seems that your wife's infidelity is unexpected, when the problem really happens, you should reflect on it, and such a problem will appear, which is by no means caused by one person.

see through the appearance to perceive the essence

By analyzing the type and psychology of a woman's infidelity, you can basically judge the essential reason of her infidelity, and make clear the true psychological state and inner needs, so as to make targeted adjustments and prescribe the right medicine.

Know yourself and yourself, and see through the psychology of a third party.

Even if you don't face it directly, you should know your opponent, because if he can get involved in your family, he must have a full understanding of your past shortcomings and then conquer her defense against your weaknesses.

What kind of person does he belong to? What is his ultimate goal? What are his advantages and disadvantages? What kind of mental state is he in at present?

Only by fully understanding the opponent can we defeat the enemy with one blow and let the wife give up the third party and return to the family.

For love and family, keep faith.

In the face of his wife's infidelity, most men's reaction is to turn right from wrong. It was not until the moment of divorce that they thought of regret and shouldn't bury their families so irrationally.

If you want to save your wife, you must learn to calm yourself down first. Although it is difficult, it is not a kind of growth. Although it seems that you are the victim of this marriage crisis, you should not just break the jar and accept yourself as a loser. You must adjust your mentality, get up the courage to let her and her opponents see the positive energy of your family defense, and let your wife see your maturity and responsibility.

It is not easy for two people to meet, fall in love, get married and walk together for so many years. Problems and contradictions are inevitable. How to solve them correctly is the embodiment of one's thought and ability. In the face of the threat of a third party, escaping is the most cowardly performance. Facing up bravely and defending your love is what you should do most.

Quarrel is the stupidest way. You should let her know that feelings are my normal feedback on principles, but I insist because I still love you, and I am willing to reflect on myself and find a beautiful love with you again.

May we be better ourselves every day!