How to reply to your ex's sudden contact (ex suddenly sends you a message)

You haven't contacted your ex for a long time after breaking up.

One day, "Ding Dong", a message appeared on your mobile phone screen without warning. Your casual glance suddenly froze the whole person: what, my predecessor sent you a text message!

In the face of sudden information about your ex, you may be at a loss at once, or you may have many questions. There are two points in your question: 1) reply or not reply; 2) If you want to reply, how to reply is more appropriate.

Next, we will solve these two problems. I hope you will be more rational and calm when you encounter similar problems.

Reply or not?

Regarding whether to reply to your predecessor's information, the key is what kind of relationship you want to maintain with your predecessor:

If you are determined to break up with your ex and don't want anything to do with your ex, then treat this message as spam, or delete it, or blacken it, or turn a blind eye. Once you reply, your ex will invade your life again, and all your previous efforts to forget your ex will be in vain.

If the content of information is business or business, such as asking you a question or consulting something, you can't hide it, then don't be coy, just deal with it sincerely and directly. When you are in the process of communicating this matter, don't stray from the topic, talk about the matter and get down to business.

Remember: it's your business for your ex to send you messages, and it's up to you to decide whether to return or not. You've broken up. You don't owe your ex anything. Don't go back if you don't want to. Don't force yourself to reply to messages because of guilt and remorse.

If you want to reply, how to reply is more appropriate?

It is a delicate matter to reply to your predecessor. Some things can be said and some things can't be said. According to your own wishes, if you intend to reply, what should you reply? Remember the following precautions, which will make you reply more appropriately:

First of all, be polite. Your business is over. Don't dwell on the past. Even if you have any resentment in your heart, you should show your manners and self-restraint at this time. If the wording and tone of your reply are sour and bitter, it will appear petty. If you reply in this way, you might as well not reply, because you will be angry after replying, and it is not worth sulking again for someone who has nothing to do with you for a long time.

Secondly, if the information content of your predecessor is to recall the past, or even to say that you miss you very much, even if you have mixed feelings at this time, don't hit it off immediately, have a warm chat with your predecessor and relive the past. If you both have the idea of getting back together, that's certainly gratifying, but at this time, you should stay awake and calm, think about the reason why you broke up at the beginning, and think about whether this reason has been solved now. If not, even if we get back together, we will make the same mistake again after a while. So the most important thing is to solve the problem that caused you to break up first, and everything else should be delayed.

Third, don't beat around the bush, be frank and straightforward. My ex sent me a message, and it is very likely that she wants to get back together with you. If you don't want to get back together, you have two ways to deal with it: 1) don't reply, continue to be cold with your ex and let him give up; 2) Reply, but tell you sincerely that you don't want to get back together. Don't give an ambiguous answer because you are afraid of hurting your ex's heart, misleading her into thinking that she still has a chance. No chance is no chance. It's not kindness, it's cruelty for you to delay your predecessor like this.

Fourth, some seniors sent a message, but they didn't write the specific content. They just tentatively asked, "Are you there?" . In the face of such ambiguous information, if you want to reply, you might as well ask, "Yes, what's the matter?" Once you ask this question, your ex will be embarrassed to keep asking, which will show your true intention more quickly. The ex is a thing of the past. Don't play ambiguous guessing games with your ex. Only when you know your predecessor's intentions can you know what to do next, so that you won't be endlessly entangled with your predecessor.

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