A friend sent me a short message. You’d better wise up.

First of all, you think too much. She may really be just joking with you. Words like "kindness" and "understanding" are not made casually. Unless you don't know her or she doesn't get along with others, smart people won't send such offensive messages, let alone people with heavy minds.

Once again, the first thing you think of when you see such an "evaluation" is what kind of person this colleague is. If she is the kind of person who is careless and easy to get along with others, and other colleagues like her, then she is just joking with you. If you admire her or many people respect her, then you should consider what you have offended him recently. Since someone like her suggested it to you, you should thank her, which will exercise you. You can chat with her as a friend and ask her what you did wrong.