“A late-night WeChat message ended our many years of marriage.” This woman’s story is alarming. What do you think?

Zhou said: "Love is the treasure of life. When we carry the treasure of love on the boat of marriage, our mission is to avoid the rocks, avoid the wind and waves as much as possible, and reach the destination safely. Who wants to Anyone who goes against the wind and waves can enjoy the adventure, but this also shows that he does not cherish the treasure on the ship. Cherishing is fate, and fate is cherished.

Zhang Qun is 35 years old and has been married to her husband for 8 years. When they first got married, they were so poor that they couldn't even afford a wedding or a house. After five years of hard work, they bought a house and a car and had a lovely daughter.

Zhang Qun works in a company and speaks for himself by his performance. As long as he is willing to endure hardship, his income is very objective. In the past five years, a small family has been able to grow from nothing to an RV, which is inseparable from her performance and bonuses. My husband works in a public agency. Although the job is stable, the income can only sustain his own food and clothing.

While working overtime late at night, my husband mistakenly sent a voice message on WeChat, which ended our eight-year marriage.

Because of the different nature of their work, Zhang Qun and her husband have a clear division of labor. She is responsible for the hard work ahead, working hard to make money to pay off the mortgage and car loan to raise the children, while her husband spends most of his time doing housework and taking care of the children.

It takes hard work to get ahead in the workplace, especially for women. In order to improve his family life, Zhang Qun works harder than men, working overtime until 11 o'clock in the middle of the night every day, and going on business trips is a common occurrence. She wants to work hard for a few years while she is young, and when she has saved enough money, she can consider having a second child. Over the years, in order to make money, she has not dared to have a second child.

Faced with Zhang Qun’s efforts, her husband was grateful at first, but gradually he got used to it and began to complain that she cared too little about her family and didn’t spend enough time with her children.

Zhang Qun was in pain. My husband has no ambition. He has lived in the company for many years, and his salary is only enough for him to eat and drink. If he doesn't work hard, how can he have money to support his family and his parents-in-law?

This man said that he would protect the woman from the wind and rain before getting married. After you get married, a woman carries a burden for you. Instead of being grateful, you complained, which is really chilling.

In order to please her husband, Zhang Qun worked hard to make money while taking time to spend with her daughter. She also hired an hourly worker at home so that her husband could have hot meals when he got home and not have to worry about housework.

But her husband still doesn’t understand and doesn’t support her, saying that she doesn’t live like a woman and wants her to make money and take care of the family without losing her responsibility.

The ancients said, warm and lustful. When a person lives a prosperous life and has plenty of time, it is easy to have bad thoughts.

Another night of overtime work. Zhang Qun reported to her husband in advance and gave him a big red envelope. She thought to herself that since the children were on vacation at her grandma's house in the country and her husband was free, there should be no complaints.

When I worked overtime until ten o'clock, it suddenly started pouring rain outside, accompanied by lightning and thunder. Zhang Qun was scared, and considering that she was going home late at night, she wanted her husband to pick her up.

She called her husband, but no one answered. She sent a WeChat message, but no one answered. She guessed that her husband was playing games, deciding and so on.

After waiting for almost two hours, a message popped up on WeChat. It was her husband’s voice. She was busy opening it. "Dear, I just got home and the workaholic is still working overtime. I will video you later." The tone was very gentle.

The next second, she found that the voice disappeared from her eyes, leaving a gray "husband withdraws call" line.

Obviously, my husband sent the wrong message to another woman. Judging from the tone and content of the conversation, my husband has a close relationship with this woman, and it may be his extramarital affair.

Zhang Qun held back the tears in his eyes and saw another voice of her husband. "It's raining so hard, how can I go out? I can take a taxi myself." There was dissatisfaction and disgust in his tone.

Years of workplace experience have taught Zhang Qun to stay calm. She held back her grief and anger and investigated her husband.

Sure enough, my husband is having an extramarital affair. With Zhang Qun's hard-earned money, he bought the woman high-end cosmetics, gave her a necklace, and transferred 50,000 yuan to buy a house.

Because Zhang Qun is usually busy with work and doesn’t have much time at home, she feels very guilty for her husband. Moreover, she didn’t want to listen to her husband’s complaints, so she chose to use money to silence her husband. Unexpectedly, he gave the money to other women in an instant.

She can accept the fact that her husband has an extramarital affair, but she cannot accept that her husband uses his hard-earned money to support another woman.

When Zhang Qun showed her cards, her husband denied it at first. After seeing Zhang Qun produce evidence, he began to attack her. "I am a grown man and need a woman's care. Who asked you to work overtime every day? It's not your fault that this happens to me." "My mother has always wanted to have a grandson. You refused to have a second child. I can only think of other ways. ."

Zhang Qun sneered, this man can really shirk responsibility. It seems that his extramarital affair is not just a matter of greed, but also a deliberate attempt to satisfy his mother-in-law's wish to have a grandson. So, divorce.

But when Zhang Qun insisted on divorce, her husband refused. Relying on Zhang Qun, he had no worries about food and drink, had a house to live in, a car to drive, and his parents had money to support them in their old age. If he gets divorced, he won't be able to rent a house with his meager income.

Originally, Zhang Qun thought that a family did not necessarily require a man to earn money to support the family. As long as a woman is capable, there is nothing wrong with a woman taking on the responsibility of raising a family. As long as a man's heart is at home and he loves his family and children, it is worth a woman's effort and pain.

But she did not expect that her husband had no ability to make money to support the family, and he did not like to take care of the baby and family. Instead, he had an extramarital affair. There is nothing to miss about such a marriage and such a man.

In the end, at Zhang Qun's insistence, the husband agreed to divorce on the condition that the house belonged to him, and Zhang Qun took the children and left.

Zhang Qun bought a house with his hard-earned money. Even after marriage, it should still be half of a person. But she didn't want to argue with such a disgusting man. She just wanted to leave him as soon as possible and start a new life as soon as possible.

Marriage is a matter between two people, and both husband and wife need to manage it carefully. If only one person runs desperately and the other person stays put or even dies, then the marriage is destined to not last long.

Shakespeare said: "An unhappy marriage is like hell. A lifetime of fighting between chickens and gooses. On the contrary, if you choose a satisfactory spouse, you can be harmonious and happy for hundreds of years."

In marriage, a woman can endure hardships and struggles with men, but she cannot endure men's deception and betrayal. This is her principle and bottom line.

In the past, women were required to share their husbands and children, but as times have changed, women must not only be beautiful, but also earn money to support their families. This is undoubtedly a heavy burden for women. It would be even worse if a man doesn't know how to share, but still complains, accuses, and makes trouble.

I would like to ask, which woman doesn’t like romantic feelings, poetry, and distance? If a man is capable and capable, why should he live as a woman and work hard to make a living?

I hope a man can love his woman more, ask her less, understand her more, and let her feel your love for her. Let her know that although life is difficult, I am willing to give you a happy and sweet one.

Women are stupid. As long as a man really loves her and gives her care and attention, she can follow him without any complaints. No matter how much she suffers, she will never regret it.

Women in marriage must also know how to take care of themselves. Since their hard work cannot change their husband's gratitude, why should they be exhausted physically and mentally? Family is not a person's business. You bear too much, which is unfair to you and puts no pressure on men. Why?

Taking care of yourself, balancing family and career, and living a wonderful and beautiful life are what women should do most.

"After ten years of training, we can sleep together." Marriage is the most common lesson for both husband and wife. Only by carefully protecting and cherishing each other can we have a happy life.