Why didn't the boys return my messages?

For most female friends, it is very common for men not to return messages.

In this case, women are usually unable to face it calmly.

After all, many times, two people have had a sweet period. In the sweet period, most men can reply to the news in seconds and chat in full swing.

Now all of a sudden, it seems like nothing, and no woman can stand this roller coaster-like psychological gap.

Generally speaking, men don't return information, which often comes from these three mentality. Mastering these three mentalities of men, women can master the initiative of feelings.

The first mentality: he has no feelings for you.

If a man doesn't return messages, there is a high probability that he has no feelings for you.

Because I have no feelings, I am no longer interested in the information you sent, and naturally I have no desire to reply.

If you don't reply to the message, it means that he has moved you away from your heart and doesn't care about your feelings or whether you will be sad.

In the movie "He doesn't really like you that much", the girl Gigi met the humorous Connor on a blind date.

But after they met, Connor never contacted Kiki again.

Later, in the bar, Connor's friend Alex told Gigi a cruel reality: If a man doesn't seem to care about you, he really doesn't care about you, without exception.

Some female friends will ask, then why were men obviously enthusiastic before?

The answer is that it is fresh at first.

But as time goes on, he knows more about you. When he finds out that you are not his type, he will naturally give up this relationship.

Some people may ask, since they don't love each other, why can't men break up openly?

The answer is simple. Men who don't want to break up voluntarily are forced to break up voluntarily by cold violence because they don't want to be blamed for ingratitude.

The second state of mind: he is watching and unilaterally announcing that a relationship has entered a period of silence.

Men don't return messages, and the second mentality is that he hasn't completely decided to break up with you and has a wait-and-see attitude towards this relationship.

If you don't reply to the message, it means that he unilaterally announced that your relationship has entered a silent period. In the meantime, he is likely to have a spare tire. He will compare you and finally decide to choose the one that suits him best.

Qi family talked about a boyfriend before. They met on a blind date and talked together for half a year. Half a year later, her ex-boyfriend suddenly stopped contacting her, and sending a message was also a sink in the sea.

During this period, Qijia sent messages to each other, didn't answer the phone, and didn't even contact Qijia on Valentine's Day.

After two or three attempts, Qijia chose to give up contact with each other and look for the next relationship again.

Unexpectedly, two months later, her ex-boyfriend suddenly contacted her and said that she wanted to start over with her.

After repeated questioning by Qijia, the ex-boyfriend said that it had been two months, and the family introduced him to another girl.

The girl's family background and economic conditions are better than Qijia's. Her ex-boyfriend thought that the other party could give him better help, so he dated the other party for a while.

But then the girl's family put forward very harsh marriage conditions, and the girl's personality was too arrogant. In contrast, the ex-boyfriend thought that gentle and kind Qijia was more suitable for him, so he broke up with the girl and went back to find Qijia.

Of course, Qijia finally rejected her ex-boyfriend's request to get back together.

The difference between a man with this mentality and the first one is that the first man will really disappear from your life. The second kind of man has a certain probability to come back and get back together with you.

If a man with the second mentality wants to get back together with you, it doesn't mean that he has changed his mind, but because you are his best choice for the time being.

Such a man lacks sincerity in feelings. If the other person wants to get back together with you, you must think twice.

The third state of mind: he met with setbacks and wanted to be alone.

In "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus", it is mentioned that when women encounter difficulties, they often find someone to talk to and feel much better. But what about men? Will they choose to return? Cave? Digest your emotions alone, so you will choose to be alone for a while.

It's normal not to return messages at this time.

There was a time when the work pressure was particularly great, and there was a danger of unemployment if a project was not done well.

During that time, Kang devoted all his energy to this project. When he got home after a tiring day, he just wanted to be alone for a while.

At this time, my girlfriend came to WeChat and asked why Kang did this. Kang has a feeling of being too lazy to go back.

Because he knows that he is in a bad state and his girlfriend is sensitive, maybe two people will have a quarrel.

If so, it's just a way for men to deal with problems, emotions and pressures and not return messages.

At this time, what a woman needs to do most is to understand, let him go and play with herself. After a while, he will deal with his emotions and come back to you.

In this case, a woman should learn to respect a man and not force him out of the cave.

When a man feels your understanding and sympathy, he will be grateful to you and will naturally come out faster.

Some female friends will ask, how can I tell which situation is when men don't return messages?

It's actually quite simple. Because the third mentality is essentially different from the first two.

A man because? Cave? It's complicated. I don't return your message. At least his feelings for you haven't changed, but he still loves you.

In this case, when he recovers, he will generally take the initiative to explain his previous behavior to you, hoping to get your understanding.

Men with the first two mentalities have no feelings for you in essence. Even if I get back together with you, he will never say anything about his previous behavior. Because he doesn't care how you feel.

However, no matter what kind of mentality a man is, when a man doesn't reply to your message, a woman shouldn't sew randomly, don't take the initiative to find the other person, and don't lower herself to beg, which will only make the other person think you are very cheap.

Remember, the more humble a woman is, the less cherished a man is.

Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Love is not the whole of life, and there is not only love in life."

When men don't return your messages, you just need to live your own life, keep adding value and make yourself better.

If the other person really loves you, the best state of love is that two people make progress together; If the other person doesn't really love you, then you can only meet a better partner if you stand in a higher position.

Don't be swayed by considerations of gain and loss just because men don't return messages, and regard love as the whole of life. This is the state that an independent woman should have.