Dare not turn off the lights when sleeping at night. I always feel there is something under the bed behind me. What should I do?

1. The way a person is treated determines how he treats himself and others.

You can feel your strong inner fear and rejection of yourself. It can be seen that you lack love when you grow up. Your fear now is more due to the way you were treated when you were growing up, such as being beaten, scolded and adopted, which made you extremely insecure when you were growing up.

Now that you have realized the trauma caused by being born in a family, try to give yourself a response and satisfaction through your own efforts, such as loving yourself as an ideal parent. You can write an emotional diary to record your feelings, especially the fear at night and the emotional feelings after being beaten and scolded. Writing it down will help you better perceive and understand your emotions, explore the hidden needs behind your emotions, and find better ways to respond and meet your internal needs.

For example, hug the frightened little girl hiding in the corner and tell her that she is safe now. As long as she wants, she can tell you anything she wants, and you will do your best to protect her.

Second, try to get along with your fears.

Through the way of keeping an emotional diary and heart. Talk to yourself, try to get along with your fears, take a deep breath and face them directly, try to describe your fears with specific things in your life and see what your fears look like. When you can face up to your emotions, the damage caused by emotions will gradually decrease or even disappear.

You were adopted, which is not the reason why you can be hurt. When other people's words and actions make you feel uncomfortable and hurt, try to bravely and sincerely say how you really feel at that moment and how you want to be treated. Say no gently and firmly to others' injuries. You deserve to be treated well by yourself and others. ?