Honey, let's talk about love again.

I'm leaving home again tonight, and this separation will take several months. I hate being separated from it. Before going to bed last night, the child asked

I'm leaving home again tonight, and this separation will take several months. I hate being separated from it. Before going to bed last night, the child asked his mother to sleep with him, so three people were lying in the same bed. Holding a child, full of love and reluctance. Watching the children fall asleep peacefully, I couldn't help leaning on my husband around me. At the moment, I am reluctant to part with the person around me. ...

? These days, in the teacher's class, about intimacy. Before class, I carefully reviewed my acquaintance and love with my lover, and was delighted to find that I was so happy. With the progress of the course, I have more understanding of intimacy and more reflection on myself. In this marriage, there are really many places that need to be improved. Marriage needs careful management, which is now deeply realized.

When it comes to marriage, there is a word called "marriage". Indeed, I believe in fate. Perhaps when I was at school, I experienced either green or sweet love, and many lucky people accompanied me all my life. Maybe meet like a lantern after work, pick a person from left to right, and form a family in constant running-in; Maybe after n times of meeting, I was suddenly attracted by the person in front of me one afternoon, and my heart was pounding, so go to die hand in hand with him. In this way, we went to the ninth year together.

I am very happy when I am in love. I don't know how many phone calls I made and how many love messages I sent. I once copied all the short messages into a notebook and wanted to take them out together when I was old (where did this notebook go? Never lost it, haha). At that time, except for work, perhaps, all the care and attention were given to this person. Of course, love is not all beautiful. There was a serious misunderstanding and I almost broke up. The two men suffered for a long time, and finally shook hands under the mediation of relatives. Think about it, or fate. The inseparable are still together.

On the day of love, although we were in the same city, we gathered less and separated more. He is always busy with his work. He said, wait a minute. After a year or two, I can spend more time with you when my job is stable. Believe wholeheartedly. I even feel that I am so independent that I don't need your company, as long as our hearts are together. Honey friends sometimes say, how can you stand this life? I can't. I can laugh. It doesn't matter. I am very independent. I don't need him to stay with me all the time. We can call every day anyway. Once before marriage, as a joke, we would be together every day and would never call like this. He said, no, I'm sure I'll take a taxi. At least I'll ask, did you eat? What did you eat? Ha ha. But I was right. In the days to come, there are really fewer and fewer telephones. Even together, there is nothing to say, except about children.

? There is no honeymoon in the marriage, because I immediately put myself into a very important and urgent preparation for the postgraduate entrance examination. After receiving the letter of acceptance, I breathed a sigh of relief and felt that I could live a good life. But I accidentally found myself pregnant and needed to have a baby. Well, he promised me to spend my honeymoon abroad, so it fell through. Actually, I don't think so, and I can't go either. There was no money at that time, no money, hehe. ) study during pregnancy, and life is so dull and stable until the baby is born. When I became a mother, I devoted my enthusiasm to my children. I didn't seem to have a husband in my eyes at that time. In his eyes, similarly, there is no me. Gradually, I feel that there is nothing more to say. Occasionally want to chat, he will say, what to talk about? All right, stop.

He is still very busy, busier than before he got married. It seems that home is where he sleeps. Because I love him, my in-laws and I undertake almost everything at home. His colleagues once said that we envy him. Hearing this sentence, I still have a sense of accomplishment. I think my efforts are worth it.

But this kind of life has gradually suffocated me. Sometimes, in a trance, is this marriage? Is this how we spend our lives? No matter how independent a woman is, she also longs for love and consideration! I don't know what went wrong, but my inner loneliness and powerlessness are so clear, like a dose of poison, eroding me.

? Later, because of my children, I embarked on the road of self-growth. Gradually know that, in fact, the root of everything is on yourself! My inner state determines the appearance around me. No wonder, not only the relationship with my lover, but everything around me looks so bad. I began to pay attention to my growth. I often feel like a newly unearthed bud, facing the sunshine and trying to grow. There is darkness, wind and rain, and hail, but the desire to grow can't shake my upward strength.

Gradually, my heart is more and more full, and life has a taste of happiness. It turns out that happiness has always been there, but I lost myself and my ability to feel happiness. This ability is really important. Thanks to the teachers I met, especially my current teachers, their great love made me rethink the meaning of life, make me fall in love with reading and learning, and strive to improve my ability. For so many years, although I have been called a schoolmaster, I really appreciate the charm of active learning now.

Recalling the teacher's class, I am also reflecting on my relationship with my husband.

First of all, I understand. Do I know him? I really didn't dare to say before, even if I was madly in love, I loved him in that ideal. But now I think I know him better and better. This is due to countless times of communication when we face problems. Although sometimes communication almost becomes a war of words, because of my efforts, the problems have been solved one by one, and our relationship has become much closer. Now, when there is no problem, we can all chat at will. The teacher said that everyone needs to be seen and interpreted. Yes, before, I was busy taking care of my family and children, but in my eyes, I didn't see my husband. I can't see his needs. Now with the understanding, I found his erudition, his kindness, his responsibility, his inner delicacy, his desire for communication, and many more, waiting for me to discover slowly in the future. Life is so long, you must take it slowly, and the more you look for it, the more comfortable it is.

Second, care. Do I care about him? I remember my oath at the wedding: I know you are late from work, no matter how late, I will wait for you to come back. (At that time, grandma said with a smile that she must be asleep, haha) But since when do I care less about him? Busy as a headless fly every day, I lost myself and him. What's he thinking? Is he tired? Is he off duty? Where do you always care when you are in love? Completely disappeared in the daily necessities? There's nothing wrong with life, but I'm confused when I'm busy.

Third, dependence. Moderate dependence, don't post it, be careful that he won't hold it all at once, and both of them will fall down, haha. Do I depend on him? Looking back on so many years, it has always been my belief to be an independent, considerate and devoted woman. When you are in love, when you get married. Sometimes I even feel that my husband is like a child and needs my care. However, everyone has a need to be needed. This is a person's value. Being needed is happy. Did I give my husband a chance to experience this happiness? When I asked for dependence, I was full of resentment and just wanted to keep him away. The teacher said that moderate dependence is the glue of two people. What about the relationship between husband and wife, and what about other relationships? Friends help each other, and the relationship is getting deeper and longer. Now, I realize this because I am away from home, I can't manage my family, I earn a lot less money and I can't adapt to the new environment. It suddenly occurred to me that I really have a lot of things that I can't do, but my husband can. Relying on one person is so happy.

? Fourth, interaction. There is no denying that this is my homework. Whether it is daily communication or the tenderness of two people in the middle of the night. I like psychology, so I have many friends and many circles. I pursue the recommendation of my friends, read books and study, but my husband's words are basically deaf. Once the teacher said that the book Father and Son was very good. I'm surprised. Oh, no wonder my husband bought it for the children. Once a friend said Walden was worth reading. I remember. Oh, my husband has this book. He said it was very good. Colleagues came home to see her husband's bookcase and marveled, wow, he is so literary. I said, well, I haven't read his book. Once my husband protested, why do you have to be told before you listen? You never ignore my words! Well, I admit, I was really immersed in my own world and didn't see him! Some people say that marriage is like dancing in pairs. One person always drives another, and it will be very tired. The best thing is that you lead me for a while and I lead you for a while, so that everyone is comfortable. All right, dance in pairs, never dance. Me and him, otherwise, study together?

Fifth, trust. I'm very happy about that. I trust him very much. Even in the suffocating days when we had no communication, I still trusted him. Now that I think about it, this trust actually stems from my trust in myself. I believe he trusts me, too. Because of this trust, I believe that we can go on together for the rest of our lives. Hey hey!

Sixth, commitment. You must do whatever you say. The biggest commitment is to grow old together. Don't worry about this, there is no suspense. As for the others, many promises, do you remember? I remember, I promised that I would never put my in-laws in the middle and embarrass them because I was in trouble with them. I think I did it. Conflict is inevitable in life. He is not a good lubricant. Many times, for him, I crustily skin of head solved the problem and solved the contradiction. Because, I know, having a harmonious life is my need. If you love someone, you can't make him sad and miserable. What are the promises? Think slowly and experience slowly. Hey, when will the man who promised me go abroad for his honeymoon? Ha ha!

It's written. I feel so happy. More and more sure, this person around me is the one you are looking for. I am willing to live harder for him. Honey, do you want to touch him? Nine years! A little tired, otherwise, let's talk about love again, shall we?