How to break up with an affair?

1. Enriching loneliness and loneliness is a negative problem that human beings need to face. There are too many negative products derived from this, and extramarital affairs are one of them. Keep yourself busy, make life full of sunshine, don't listen to sad songs, don't read romance novels, and don't let loneliness have time and space for fermentation. 2. Holding a "funeral" for the past, for whatever reason, derailed, but after all, the heart was left outside. Although I am willing to return now, I have not completely returned. If you don't pay attention to it, it's easy to repeat the same mistakes, which is the sequela left by many extramarital affairs and is often easily overlooked. This farewell ceremony will enable traitors and betrayed people to face up to what happened in the past and psychologically accept and attach importance to the tragedies that happened in the past. 3. Returning to your family's home is a source of warmth and a safe harbor at home. Even if you accidentally step on your foot and wet your shoes, you'd better go home and dry them quickly to avoid hurting your feet and wasting your shoes. Pay more attention to the elderly parents and experience the deep affection. Talk to your brothers and sisters more and relive the feelings of your compatriots who grew up together. Give your lover a hug and a kiss, and regain the confidence and courage to go on. Give your child a coquettish smile and let the child grow up more healthily. 4. Reduce the chances of meeting and avoid meeting alone. Both sides should have a firm belief and a clear attitude and decide to end this improper relationship and avoid meeting alone. It's really hard to give up. When meeting, choose a place that is not easy to cause ambiguity, or treat each other as "buddies" and "friends" in public. The content of the conversation is mainly limited to the concern and greetings between friends and confidants, talking about work and study. Or for the sake of relaxing the environment, we can play a joke on each other and avoid talking about emotional topics, such as "missing". Be careful not to be silent when talking, try to keep a relaxed and happy atmosphere and avoid long-term eye contact. If you find that you can't control the situation, you should change the subject or end the conversation as soon as possible. 5, reduce contact, whether it is online contact or telephone contact, it is not easy to completely break the extramarital affair. Even if you can control not to meet, contact is indispensable. Try to gradually reduce the frequency of SMS and telephone contact, keep the content of SMS and telephone contact within the scope of friends and buddies as far as possible, and gradually reduce the attachment to him. If the other person can't bear to give up, his enthusiasm will not decrease, and the best way is to be cruel, not to reply to text messages or less. How do you say break up with an affair? There are only two results of extramarital affairs: one is to break the current combination and turn to a new one; The second kind is crazy, and then go back after the quarrel. Most urban white-collar workers choose the latter for extramarital affairs. They just want the excitement of extramarital affairs, but they are too lazy to divorce. For example, after Jane Jianping got married, her feelings have been very stable, and her friends are envious of their immortal days. But not long after, Ping found that her husband had another woman. Nevertheless, Jane's attitude and enthusiasm for Ping has not changed significantly, and he has not filed for divorce. Ping thinks she is a gentle and family-oriented wife, and always can't figure out what she did wrong. In a heart-to-heart conversation with her husband, he said that he was looking for a lover not because his relationship with his wife broke down, but because he was tired of the increasingly dull husband and wife life and wanted to find some new excitement outside his wife. "Add some salt, vinegar and sesame oil to Baishui life." Modern emotional experts generally believe that sex is indispensable for the maintenance and perfection of marriage. "Love is like cement, sex is steel, and together they are called concrete." Marriage is first and foremost a necessary procedure in a civilized society. Marriage certificate is the official passport to enter the sexual kingdom, which means that both husband and wife can freely engage in sexual activities. But it is precisely because of freedom that the spiritual satisfaction and physical pleasure of couples in sex gradually decrease, because those beautiful fantasies before marriage gradually disappear. As Freud said: "Sexual behavior after legal marriage can't make enough compensation for the restriction of premarital sexual life. Generally speaking, it only allows a few behaviors between husband and wife that can lead to fertility to seek satisfaction, because for this reason, a happy sex life after marriage can only last for a few years. " How to break up after an affair? 3 1. There are good reasons for breaking up. As long as two people are together, there will be a connection. About property, feelings or desires, we call it fetters. If you want to cut off these invisible but most resilient feelings, you must have a good reason. After all, love is a matter of two people, and it takes courage for lovers to choose to be ambiguous with you. 2, the right time to break up If you want to end a relationship unilaterally, it is obviously impossible to touch each other in the dead of night. Because no one wants to lose, breaking up at will regardless of time will make the other party feel that you have insulted his feelings and easily angered him. 3, the right place to break up, some people may say, anyway, to break up, where to say it is not necessarily. But if the purpose is to end the extramarital affair and leave no sequelae, we must consider the feelings of the other party in all aspects. For example, it is not appropriate to say it in a place that is too private, because once the other party becomes angry from embarrassment, they have no way to ask for help; 4, the appropriate way to break up, pay attention to ways and means. To express one's thoughts rashly or bluntly will often bring double discomfort to the other party. The way to break up should also be cautious. Only by choosing the right way according to each other's understanding and personality can we soften the deadlock and effectively end the extramarital affair.