How to deal with urging marriage?

Parents can't simply judge others by their own standards, and take it for granted that their marriage experience is acceptable, and the advantages outweigh the disadvantages, so the same is true for children to get married.

I don't know why today's younger generation has obviously higher spiritual requirements than their elders, but the tolerance limit is lower. All I know is that it's true.

This fact will cause young couples who are forced by their parents to experience the happiness of marriage but taste the pain of marriage with so-called hats of responsibility and filial piety. Long-term, trivial and endless repeated torture will lead them to gradually develop emotional problems and even mental illness.

For today's young people, an inappropriate marriage is like walking 10 km in worn-out shoes. Obviously, it is bloody and painful, but I don't know when I can get rid of it. It's really easy to go wrong, and no matter how strong my willpower is, I can't force the wound to heal.

I'm not alarmist. As far as I'm concerned, the cost of psychotherapy is much higher than the lawyer's fee. Improper marriage is not a support, but a destruction for the only child who is now spoiled and growing up smoothly. If you want to think clearly, it is easy to destroy and too difficult to rebuild! I can guarantee that I can leave my marriage. Who can say that mental illness can be cured well?

Are you really willing to risk your child's pain, mental illness or even ruin your life and let ta get married in a hurry?

The purpose of marriage can only be happiness, not marriage itself.

Marrying an inappropriate person can never achieve the so-called "what to do at what age", "never get married and be told", "It's amazing that you get divorced after marriage" and "it's a shame that you never get married, divorce is better", but it will only be more humiliating and lose money.

Everyday life is not a fairy tale. After the prince and princess get married, it is not the end but the beginning. The contradiction between husband and wife is hard to hide. At that time, the young couple will throw pots and bowls all day, one will go back to her mother's house and the other will become a monk. Maybe they can fight in front of their neighbors three times a month on average. Is this very proud?

The fact that I am not married is still a constant state. Remember to say one sentence at most. That's great. Your moth comes out at both ends every three days, attracting people's attention all the time. It suddenly became a live exhibition of family ethics drama. I'm embarrassed to come to your house without buying three kilograms of melon seeds. Some even alerted the leading trade union of the unit, school and even the unit before my parents retired, which is not a good thing.

Divorce is definitely a waste of money and money. It takes at least one or two years for a chicken to fly a dog and jump a cigar, and the minimum loss is100000 to 200000 RMB. Thousands of people are unlucky enough to get in. According to the ratio of lost money to family financial situation, 80% families will earn five or six years without eating or drinking.

You can buy face with money? After the divorce, no one said it was a fable. Some children say that you are cold-blooded and selfish and don't think of your children. No children say you are infertile or cheating. Compared with unmarried people, you are said to have a high eye, too picky, eccentric personality, and missed the flowering period, or the latter is better.

Everything will be fine when you get married. It's amazing how easy and comfortable divorce is. This is purely the imagination of inexperienced people. It's no use. Wash and sleep.

In a word, "forced marriage" is a terrible idea. The only advantage of forcing children to get married quickly is that it can help me brush my performance, but there are priorities, and people are far away. Let's talk first.

I am a divorce case. For my own performance, it seems that I hope everyone will get married in a hurry and then leave in a hurry. If there are more cases, you will naturally earn more.

But I hope everyone can get happiness, at least get a quiet and peaceful life, and happily buy something to eat and go home to brush Zhihu after work, instead of sitting in my office and crying.

If you really want your children to get married as soon as possible, the core is to teach them how to run a marriage. In action, you can introduce more suitable opposite sex to each other. I really can't even think about it. Come to see me and talk to me, instead of forcing them into the siege by means of carrot and stick.